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Chapter 1351 Dad will hear everything you say to Dad.
Things like movies are actually quite strange sometimes.

Movies like "Unknown", the background environment, etc., can be said to be authentic European and American styles, but after being screened in China, there are more applause.

It is undeniable that there is a label filter for Li Yi's movie.

But it is true that in terms of family movies, Chinese people are more likely to have that kind of emotional resonance.

To be honest, in European and American countries, fathers like John in the movie "Unknown" are actually not so common.

Because many people may not even know who their father is, this can be seen everywhere in countries where freedom prevails in Europe and the United States.

But on the contrary, in China, such fathers really abound.

Therefore, Li Yi also figured out why, "Unknown" is in memory, and after it was released in Europe and the United States, it was unknown, but it was mentioned by many people in China.

The reason probably lies in this.

This can be seen from the comments of domestic movie fans.

"It reminds me of my father. I remember that year when I was going to take the college entrance examination, but I never saw my father when I went back. I didn't know until the end that my father was so sick that he couldn't get out of bed. It was just because he was worried that it would affect me, so he kept it secret. When I saw my father who was lying on the hospital bed and saw me, he apologized to me the first time. At that moment, I Tears streaming down my face!"

"Yeah, the difference from mother's love is that my father is always unknown. My father seldom talks, and he seldom asked about things in his studies before, and he was always silent. Later, when I heard my mother talk about it, I realized that it turned out that It’s not that my father doesn’t care, it’s just that he’s not good at expressing it. I heard from my mother that once I won a prize in a composition competition, my father took my certificate and read it all day.”

"I miss my dad."

"Although it is a foreign language film, there is no sense of estrangement at all. Everything is so warm and sad. My father has always been calm. He actually doesn't care about his own death, or rather, he is more worried about it than death. What will happen to my son after I die?"

Li Yi's favorite film critic, Du Xianghai, will naturally not miss Li Yi's new film this time.

"To be honest, both "Unknown" and "Pounding Heartbeat" always feel a special sense of familiarity, I don't know if it is my illusion.

Although the themes of the two films are completely different, they always make me feel that they are all oriental at their core!
Although the father in "Obscure" is adapted from a real incident in England, I went out of my way to get relevant information from Europe and the United States. In Western countries, divorce is a very common thing for many of them.

And there is another data that shows that in Western countries, a very large proportion of newborns are blank in the father's column when they are born, and if they are black, then it can be said that this proportion is even greater!Many children do not even know who their father is when they are born.

Why mention this?Because what I want to say is that a father like John in "Unknown" is not common, not that he is terminally ill, but that such a father, such a father who loves his son deeply, is in Western countries. Not common.

But if you substitute John into our national identity, then you will find that everything seems to be taken for granted.

I believe that no one will find it awkward. Such fathers are extremely common in China.

Going back to the movie itself, the movie "Unknown" tells the story of a single father entrusting his 3-year-old son before dying of terminal illness.

In the story, we saw the process of the father from facing anger to accepting death calmly. We saw the process of the father and son from quarreling and throwing things to reconciliation. We also saw the father running around in various families, working hard The hardships of finding a warm home for my son.

Perhaps in this regard, the movie is a little different for Chinese fans.

Because adoption is also rare in China, which is indeed different from Western countries.

Our fathers and mothers here, if they encounter such a thing, the first choice will definitely not be like John. Most of us will choose to give our children to the most trusted friends, or relatives and friends .

This is where the movie is more interesting.

In fact, the whole film is not so much about the father looking for a home for his son, but about John letting his son make his own choices.

Although from the very beginning of the movie, we already had a premonition that the ending of the story of the separation of father and son must be irreversible and tragic, but we still saw hope and felt warmth from this slow and sad story.The reason why it heals us is because the director let us see a young and helpless "big-eyed cute" love for his father completely and without impurities, and also saw a "tough guy" father struggling with poverty. A soft side like "bow your head and be willing to be a willing ox".

As the plot progresses, we see that both the father and the son have clearly obtained the motivation for life from this mutual love. It is as if a difficult journey has become warm and vivid because of a rainbow.Yes, although there are too many unsatisfactory things on the road of our life, although this road may be full of mud and ups and downs, but for the rainbow-like warmth, for the dependent and trusting eyes cast on us by the loved ones, we He will definitely shake his head and move forward with a smile.

As for the five families, many people have talked about many aspects. Here, my personal understanding is that the new home that John wanted to find for his son was actually doomed from the very beginning. choose.

Although John is not rich, he is hardworking and serious enough. In his world, apart from work, there is probably only Mike. Therefore, he can devote all his love to Mike.

Therefore, although he himself does not have the kind of family that deliberately pursues such consent, in fact, he already has such an idea subconsciously.

So the first couple of families, in my personal opinion, the real reason why John chose PASS was because he found that they might put fatherly love and motherly love on Little Mike, but these are all preconditions!
Moreover, a family like theirs can be said to be among the adopted families, a very high-quality family, and they have many choices. Therefore, for them, Mike may be just one of many choices, and it is definitely not the only one.

So, it is conceivable what happens to Mike when he fails to meet their expectations?
The same is true for the second family. They have already adopted a girl. In fact, they are implying that if after adopting Mike, they find that Mike cannot satisfy their ideal son, maybe they will still Go ahead and adopt the next "Mike"!
The third family, in fact, I believe that anyone who has watched the movie will find that such a family is a deformed existence. It is hard not to make people secretly suspect that they have adopted so many children for other purposes!Of course, even if not, everything seems to be so fair and just in such a family, but what is the difference between Mike and staying in an orphanage?
As for the last couple, I believe there is no need to say more, just like John said, even if it is a rabbit, he would not be willing to let them adopt it.

Why Single Ladies?

Thinking about it carefully, it is not difficult to find that she has many similarities with Mike.

She is not that rich, but at least enough to afford Mike, and Mike is one of the few options for her.

The difference between her and John's ex-wife, Mike's mother, is that Mike's mother abandoned after giving birth, while she was forced to give up after giving birth. One gave up voluntarily, and the other was forced to lose. is the exact opposite.

Plus, it's Mike's choice too, in fact Mike also yearns for a mother's love, and apparently he's found a bit of it in The Single Lady.

Of course, there may be one more thing, that is, some thoughts as a father.

As a father, John originally hoped that his son Mike would lose his memory forever, but, in fact, which father would really hope this way?
But no matter which family Mike goes to, it is conceivable that he will gradually begin to forget this father.

Only a single lady, if she came to adopt Mike, would she allow, or hope, that Mike would remember his father.

So at the end of the film, the father left many envelopes for his son.Like the son's favorite red candle, those envelopes are also red, with the father's best wishes for his son written all over them.Yes, it is certainly impossible for the father to accompany his son to witness these shining moments, but he hopes that he will be there, and he hopes that his son will still look back at his father at every important point in his life.As the old woman in the film said, her mother believed that "man is air, not clay."

I think that because people are air, we believe that our loved ones will not just become clay and stick to one side after death, but will always surround us and accompany us.Yes, man is tangible, and the tangible is perishable.And longing is invisible, and the invisible is eternal.If you think of me, then everything is me: the cloud in front of me is me, the fish swimming in the river is me, and the fragrance of soil in the silk rain is me.

The son in the film has always wanted to raise a puppy (puppy), but of course the father who is tired from daily work cannot add another burden to the struggling family.But at the end of the film, the father resolutely sold the truck and accompanied his son to an expensive amusement park.He also bought a goldfish for his son, and the goldfish bowl clearly had "puppy" in his son's immature handwriting.

Maybe we all want more from our parents, a colored pen, a Disney ticket, a family trip, the uninterrupted love of a lifetime... But just as sometimes we can't get the puppy we yearn for, our fathers don't have it either. Not Almighty God: They will also be prejudiced by their employers, social injustice, they are not even the winners in this society, but they will buy us a goldfish with as little money as possible within their power.

Compared with puppies, goldfish are not so lively. Goldfish can only swim slowly in a round, transparent tank, which symbolizes that our father can only work slowly and calmly in this day-to-day labor. live.They are not very lively and often melancholy, but that goldfish is always safe and serene. This is everything our parents gave us: a place of life that lacks passion and vitality but is safe and worry-free.And we may be the goldfish in captivity, swimming in this transparent, uninterrupted water wave, being treated tenderly, feeling the same invisible, uninterrupted love.

In fact, after seeing so many new parents, the last group impressed me the most.They firmly believe that children are the stepping stones to their own achievements.They have everything a rich man has, and the next step is to find a child to continue their meaning.

Their eagerness to prove to the male protagonist that they love their children is all based on necessity, the kind of "I must find a child to love, otherwise my life will be incomplete."

This may have become the original sin of parents' selfish love, and everything should be considered from oneself.

But sometimes, love itself can probably surpass the existence of the general meaning of life.

There is nothing wrong with shaping one's meaning through a certain responsibility of identity.Easier said than done, many people can't even do this.But sometimes, parental love is difficult to fully define in terms of meaning.It was really a kind of pain from the heart, piercing the heart.

It was every moment of ordinary and ordinary company that the window cleaner's father was reluctant to part with.

Speaking of ordinary, the texture of the whole film is particularly like a diary.The father and son have never shown the inseparable climax scene, but hid their emotions in the eyes of the son at the end of the film. The next second of these eyes may turn into hugging and crying.It's like the last John who learned his son to play childish games, but burst into tears.

But it doesn't matter, because all the love, reluctance, sadness, and longing are hidden in the gaze.After the audience finishes watching, they will cry in their dark hearts or in the subtitles.

But then again, the journey of finding new parents for the son actually made the father finally let go of death. The real necessity does not come from the pursuit and desire for meaning, but from death.

This is how the father finally explained his death to his son.One day, I will also leave my body, but I will enter the air, and I will always be with you and love you.

If you want to talk to me, you can tell me, with your heart, Dad may not be able to answer you, but Dad assures you, Dad will hear everything you say to Dad!
We don’t know whether the soul exists or not, but we do know that when we miss someone, we always hope that he can hear us! "

(End of this chapter)