I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 8 Avoidant Attachment Personality

Colorless Sky: "The girl is very pitiful. I hope this guy won't hurt her."

The lazy king was thirsty: "This man has too many thoughts and is too mixed up. He is not suitable for this love-starved girl. She will be very hurt."

The man must have also seen the barrage and did not continue on this topic.

Then he said, "A week ago, she suddenly told me about that matchmaker friend. She said that since she introduced us, we should give her a red envelope. You should give her a red envelope."

"After I gave her the red envelope, she never sent me any messages. The contact information is still there. Yesterday I saw her post a circle of friends saying that it is also important to maintain a happy attitude."

"Anchor, what do you think she meant?"

Lin Feng: "What do you mean, you have no idea at all?"

The man shook his head.

Lin Feng, "I have analyzed the girl's personality with you before. She is a very passive person. All her actions, including all her words, are a test and consideration of you."

"She finally told you to give a red envelope to the matchmaker, which means that she has acknowledged the fact that you are in a relationship at this point."

"After you gave her the red envelope, the girl thought it was natural for you to be together, but you didn't look for her the next day.

If you don't look for her, she will become suspicious.

She must be wondering at this time, are you not interested in her?
Ultimately, the less you contact her, the less likely she will take the initiative to find you."

what?
The man looked confused.

"Anchor, what should I do now?"

Lin Feng: "Again, answer me first, are you serious about that girl? If you don't like her enough, don't mess with her."

"Military Advisor, I promise, I am absolutely serious."

Lin Feng was silent for a while, as if considering something.

After a moment, he said, "You must throw the problem to the other person at this time. Ask her why she didn't contact you this week? You have been waiting for her to chat with you. You have consulted many friends for her. What did you do wrong? Finally, show your efforts in this week."

Siliya: "Oh my god, is this the strength of a military advisor?!"

Don't want to have any regrets: "He really has a solution to this problem! Scary."

Mr. W: "If I had such a military advisor, I would have taken him down long ago."

Reborn God of Wealth: "The military advisor is indeed powerful, but to be honest, if the boy does what the military advisor says, the girl will definitely be controlled. On the other hand, if the boy is just playing around, the girl will be miserable afterwards."

Momomomo: "It turns out it's all a routine. Love depends entirely on conscience."

Yao Mei Zai Zai: "Women who lack love have a miserable childhood. If you don't love me, please don't hurt me."

John: "What about boys lacking love?"

The clown is sick: look at my ID.

Sen Jing: "Well, brothers, I think we should be strong as men."

[Ding~ Answer questions and get good reviews from employers, points +20]

After receiving 20 points, Lin Feng was not as happy as in the previous times.

At first, he was indeed going for the lucky draw, but after a few live broadcasts, Lin Feng suddenly realized that

He should not only answer questions and resolve doubts emotionally, but he should also shoulder some social responsibilities.

Because of a few words from you, you may make a couple reconcile after breaking up, or you may cause a tragedy.

Just like the boy just now, will he really practice what he says and be nice to that girl?
Lin Feng didn’t know.

Therefore,
Being cautious in what you say and do is the first live broadcast principle that Raymond Lam sets for himself.

At this time, someone @ me,

Lin Feng took a look and found that the information came from 'Little River Flowing'. "@Military Advisor, is that girl just now a typical avoidant attachment personality?"

After this comment came out, more and more people began to ask what is avoidant attachment personality?
Lin Feng: "People with avoidant attachment personality usually have bad families of origin. The bad thing is that they find from childhood that the love their parents give them is not selfless but conditional.

This can lead to the idea in childhood that there is no unconditional love in this world and that no one is entitled to anything.

Ultimately, they become very distrustful of others and believe they can only rely on themselves for everything.

But the paradox is that deep down they long to be loved and to be deeply bound to another person.

Because that's human nature. The more you lack something, the more you want it.

But because of certain traumas in their childhood, they will develop a fickle attitude.

Sometimes I want to rely on you, and sometimes I don’t.

Sometimes he is very close to you, and sometimes he pulls himself away and appears very cold.

This is because they desire to be deeply bound, but in the process of deep binding, they will have a huge fear, that is, how can I trust people?
How can I rely on the other person for everything I have?
So they will immediately pull themselves out.

Jumping back and forth between rationality and sensibility.

So many times, they give others a neurotic feeling.

Because they often feel fearful, defensive, and timid, even if the other person is a very nice person.

However, they are very stable in life and can reach a very self-consistent state.

Because they are actually very resistant to big ups and downs in emotions, their expectations of others are always very low, so no matter how badly you perform, it is difficult to break their low expectations.

So they are not afraid and often show a very stable emotion in life.

But in reality, this kind of personality is just an active pessimist in life."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the barrage collapsed.

Pofangjie: "I don't believe in unconditional love, my rationality and sensibility keep jumping back and forth, I want to rely on you but I'm afraid of relying on you, I resist the ups and downs of emotions, and I have very low expectations and I'm a positive pessimist."

An Tian: "Read my ID card?"

Nina: “I checked the internet and was diagnosed.”

Daiyuzimu: "Haha, all correct! I am such a poor guy, it seems I am also sick!"

An Zhi: "There are twelve volumes of military books, and my name is on every volume."

Mushroom Fried Rice: "The King of Hell is calling, so funny."

Yining: "Don't panic, everyone. With such a big bunch, anyone can get half of it."

The stream flows: "I didn't hit any one, what do you say?"

Stranger: "We are the same. I didn't win any of them either."

Lin Feng scanned the comments and said, "In a relationship between the sexes, it is indeed difficult for people with avoidant attachment personality to maintain a stable and long-term state, because they have a very thick shell. Unless you can give the other person a love like a novel, it is difficult to peel off this shell."

"If you don't understand, just ask, what is novel-like love?"

Raymond Lam: "Have you ever watched idol dramas? They all require a male protagonist to protect the characters and give them the utmost love."

postscript:

[Teacher Luo Xiang said: If parents do not give their children enough love and a sense of security when they are very young, the children will become independent because of disappointment, thus forming avoidant attachment and becoming a rational and indifferent person.

Although many people do not remember their childhood memories, the way your parents treated you has subconsciously influenced your personal growth. The advantage of such people is that they live independently, but the disadvantage is that they avoid intimacy and do not have deep friendships with others.

Maybe you get along well with your colleagues, but it’s hard for you to be a good lover. 】

[Military Advisor's message: Everything in the world is suffering, and your blatant preference is salvation.]

(End of this chapter)