ex girlfriend secret

Chapter 137 The Perfect Psychologist

Half an hour later, I saw Nursery Rhyme at Starbucks. She was wearing a bohemian-style off-the-shoulder dress with a big flower on the left shoulder strap, of course!This flower is the decoration of the clothes, and at first glance, it is known that nursery rhyme is a girl who can dress up very well.

When we met, she stood up and told me that she ordered a cup of iced coffee for me, and asked me about my habit of drinking or not. Her demeanor gave people a very cultivated and quality feeling.

After being seated, Tong Yao first asked me why I resigned.

I didn't hide anything, and said helplessly to Tong Yao: "The interpersonal relationship in that company is too complicated, and I can't accept such a working environment."

"Specifically?" Nursery Rhyme asked: "Talk about which relationships you plan and hate."

"Do you know Zhao Youwei..." I started talking about Zhao Youwei, then Fang Zekai, "Old City Era" and the current "Old City", and finally Zhao Yueru and Lei Xu Dong, those trivial things were told by me little by little. Nursery rhymes are a good listener. She will ask a few questions at the right time, making you feel that you are not talking alone, but interactive.At the end of the chat, I shared what Wen Ya talked to me that day with Nursery Rhyme, and added my own analysis: "I think Xiao Mo is under too much pressure at work now, and Zhao Youwei is protecting her niece. Gradually evade Xiaomo's real power, which will lead to increased pressure on Xiaomo."

Nursery rhyme also agreed with my thoughts, and said to me: "Xiaomo is not in a very good state now, even though she doesn't say it, I can feel it, she has always been a very strong girl, she has to force herself to do everything Best, especially since she used to be so good at her job, and now she is squeezed out by Zhao Yueru because of her relationship, Xiaomo must be unconvinced, but the company's situation is like that..." Speaking of this, Tong Yao sighed a little.

I said to the nursery rhyme: "What do you think of Boss Wen Ya's desire to cultivate the 'wolf nature' of the employees? Do you think this system is conducive to the development of the company?"

Tong Yao took a sip of the coffee in front of him, and said rationally: "There are two levels to look at, there are advantages and disadvantages! Let's analyze Xiaomo's current situation. If she can survive, it will be the same for her. A kind of experience, more forbearance in temperament, in her future life, her ability to resist pressure will be improved to a higher level, and she will slowly grit her teeth and persist in what others cannot tolerate. The disadvantage is this This method is too torturous and will force many talents away, which is not very beneficial to the development of the company. But those who can stay must be those with super endurance. Think about it, a company has gathered a group of people with super endurance A strong person, what is his team like?"

I couldn't help sighing and said: "At least, I don't like this kind of working environment, so I was very determined when I left. I was worried that Xiaomo would slap Xiaomo because I was against Zhao Youwei!"

Nursery rhyme understood my thoughts very well, and comforted me and said: "It's all over, don't forget to take it to heart, and you are doing it for Xiaomo's good. As Xiaomo's best friend, I can understand your original intention. Although you hit Xiaomo Mo slaps me, but the pain in your heart should be better than the pain on Xiao Mo's face."

I didn't speak, and I didn't know how to continue, as if the slap on Xiaomo was just a moment ago, and now I can still feel the faint pain in my heart, it hurts!It hurts!
The nursery rhyme changed the topic at the right time and continued: "I can't persuade Xiaomo to give up her job, and the only one who can change Xiaomo's status quo is herself. Is there any way to change Xiaomo's current embarrassing position in the company?"

I shook my head and said: "It's hard! The boss of the company is Zhao Youwei. Any activities in the company that are lucrative or can reflect personal value will be arranged on Zhao Yueru's side. Zhao Yueru and Lei Xudong seem to be in love again. Lei Xudong Xudong used to be Xiaomo's subordinate, but now he has an independent department, and has transformed into a supervisor at the same level as Xiaomo, that is to say, any lucrative activities are carried out by the department in charge of Lei Xudong Now, Xiaomo's rights are being emptied a little bit, it's really hard to find self-confidence if you want to reflect your own value at work, you might as well find a way to persuade Xiaomo to change to a company at this time."

Tong Yao said helplessly: "Persuade Xiaomo to resign... I really can't do it, she is too strong at work, asking her to resign in this state is tantamount to persuading him to run away, Xiaomo will not accept it, or Your method is better, let Xiaomo make outstanding achievements in her work, but...it seems difficult."

"That's right! Now the entire company belongs to the 'Zhao family'. It's too difficult to take over and do major events."

"No more Xiaomo..." Tong Yao looked at me with a smile and said, "How are you doing? Are you doing well?"

"How should I put it?" I sighed and said, "Things at work are going well. I started my own company with the help of my friends. At least it's a good start, but emotionally, it's always a mess. I don't know what I did wrong
What is it, always very helpless. "

"What's the matter?" Nursery rhyme asked: "Can you tell me? Maybe I can help you find some reasons. Getting along with people is a science. A scientific way of getting along will make each other very relaxed. I feel that you Now it seems that getting along with each other...is a burden for you? This is how I feel, am I wrong?"

Nursery rhymes really have their own unique side when looking at problems. I just said it casually, but she actually knew about my recent situation, and said straight to the point that I felt that this relationship was a burden. Think carefully, she It is true, my current situation is similar to what she said, it is rare to have such a rational girl chatting with me, and she is also a psychologist, I said sadly: "I don't know why, in the face of An Ran's Sometimes, I always put myself in a very humble position, thinking about her everywhere, afraid that she would be unhappy or something, even if someone pursued her and used work to get close to her, I would try my best to act indifferent, looking for There are a lot of excuses to comfort myself, telling myself that An Ran is working, I don’t mind. Even if I love her like this to please her, she will still lose her temper for no reason, and I am very helpless.”

After listening to the nursery rhyme, she asked, "Then can you tell me why she loses her temper?"

"I don't know!" I said speechlessly: "Take last night as an example, everything was fine, but she suddenly got angry after answering the phone, why I don't know."

"And how did you do it?"

"How did I do it?" I said in frustration, "I kept calling An Ran to apologize, but she didn't even listen, and after I left with her suitor, I even went to guard outside her complex I just spent the night in the car like that, during which time I came to her house door and knocked on the door several times. When I woke up in the car this morning, the first thing I did was go to see her at home, but she didn’t come back. Later I went back I slept until the afternoon when I got home, and I just woke up when you called me."

The nursery rhyme comforted me and said, "In my opinion, I think you have gone too far."

"Passed?" I asked, "What do you mean 'passed'?"

The nursery rhyme explained: "Two people in a relationship have equal status. There is no one who must please the other. If there are conflicts or problems, it is necessary to communicate face to face. If one party leaves with resentment and refuses to communicate with the other party, this is A kind of irresponsible performance is irresponsibility for this relationship. You can be angry for a short time, but you can’t go on like this forever. You can be sullen all by yourself and talk to your girlfriends, but you can’t talk to yourself in front of your boyfriend. Her suitor left, she never cared about your feelings on this detail."

I think the nursery rhyme is right, but I don't know how to continue the conversation with her.

The nursery rhyme continued: "If this relationship has always been like this, and she will never know how to back down, then there is no need for you to continue with her. A love with unequal status will not have a good result. In love, it is not Say how much you give and get what you get in return, but you have to let the other party see your dedication and understand your concessions, this is the key to getting along with two people."

I looked at the nursery rhyme and asked, "Then what should I do now?"

Nursery rhyme said firmly: "If I were you, I would go to An Ran and ask, why are you angry? Why are you arguing? Who did what? It will never be possible to get rid of this status quo. Don’t think that a girl with a gentle personality has a reason not to express, you are wrong! A gentle personality does not mean that she is unwilling to express.”

I couldn't help nodding, and said to Nursery Rhyme: "Thank you, I also think I should sit down with An Ran and have a good chat. The current relationship makes me feel very tired. The other party is satisfied, it seems that there is something wrong with our way of getting along, I couldn't find her all night yesterday, An Ran is at work today, I'll go find her where she works."

The nursery rhyme reminded me: "Emotion is a matter between two people, don't say this in front of outsiders, give each other a proper space."

"I understand!" I got up and said, "Thank you anyway, I won't invite you to have dinner with me tonight, I'm going to find An Ran now, I'm tired, and so is she."

"Go." Nursery rhyme said with a smile, "I wish you good luck. If you need any advice, you can always keep in touch with me by phone."

I made an OK gesture and left Starbucks through the main entrance. On the way to the Academy of Painting and Calligraphy, I was thinking about what the nursery rhyme said. She was right. Now I am indeed a humble person, a humble person in love, I am so humble that I have forgotten myself... Today, I should have a good chat with An Ran. In fact, the moment she followed Pan Feng, my anger had reached a critical point, but in front of my friends, I endured it!
At this moment, I want to know where An Ran spent the night yesterday.
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