I'm waiting for you in the wind and snow

Chapter 28

I stood up under the gaze of everyone, and then sorted out what I was about to say in my brain.At this time, I was very calm, and I tried to stand on an objective point of view to try to understand their respective needs.

I finally opened my mouth and said: "As for whether Sisi should go abroad to study, I also pondered for a long time last night. I think this matter should not be purely from the perspective of one side to find a one-sided solution, otherwise It's just an inextricable knot, and it hurts the family relationship...Actually, you yourself understand where the key problem is, but you just don't want to take a step back. To put it bluntly, you want to get more from each other...you say Is this family affection? I don’t think so, it’s just using the name of family affection to solve your inner crisis under the banner of being good for you, this kind of thinking is quite selfish.”

No one interrupted me, and after a short pause, I said again: "Among all the people present, no matter how this matter is resolved in the end, it will not touch my interests. My opinion should be that Relatively the most fair, so I will be blunt. I think Sisi is also very selfish, even indifferent, when it comes to studying abroad. Because she has enjoyed the material life you have given me for so many years with peace of mind. But you haven't really considered your psychological needs and the sense of crisis accumulated over the years... Your company has the scale and achievements it has today because you sacrificed your responsibilities as parents, so its position in your hearts must be Very, very high, and now that social competition is so fierce, every growth and decline of the company will cause a great sense of crisis in your heart, which leads to the need for a very capable person to succeed you, but Sisi at this stage It happens to be the worst one in your eyes, and you will naturally have more and more anxiety in your heart... But Sisi doesn't understand how hard it is for you to start a business over the years. She thinks that when she needs money, it's like It's so easy to lose the pie, she doesn't have any sense of crisis anyway, but this is exactly what you gave her... Before she was young, everyone could live in peace, but now we have to face the entanglement accumulated over the years It's a bitter fruit... The sad thing is that you can't walk into each other's world, put yourself in the shoes of others, and just blindly use extreme means and words to persecute each other... So there is now this person who doesn't hesitate to hurt the family. To conquer each other's situation, as everyone knows, family affection has already become dispensable between you, so Sisi is not afraid at all that you will not recognize her as a daughter!"

Yang Sisi's parents looked solemn, and Lao Huang, who was always good at dealing with various situations, also fell into silence. They seemed to calm down, and then in my thoughts, they searched for the crux of the problem.

Yang Sisi looked at me uncertainly, because she couldn't tell who I was speaking for.Because I always hit her hard after hitting her parents with a hammer.It can be seen that no matter how reasonable what I say and how wrong she is, she does not want to leave Dali and choose to study abroad.

I have never seen such a persistent woman, or, in her heart, she simply enjoys the sense of existence that comes from constant harm. How much loneliness is in her heart, she should have hatred for her parents. how deep.

So, who said that being rich means being happy?
After I took a sip of water, I said again: "After careful analysis, I think the key to solving this problem lies in Sisi...you have to let her understand that money and material things are actually very important in living in this society. Let her feel the hardships and hardships of life in her shoes, so that she can understand your choices and the hardships of starting a business. And your excessive material giving before is the root cause of her becoming numb to money. How can you have the motivation to improve yourself when you already lack the sense of hunger in your heart?"

After a long silence, Yang Sisi's father looked up at me and asked, "So what is your solution to the problem?"

I replied firmly: "Let her stay in Dali to find the hunger she should have in her heart... We set the time as one year. During this year, not only can you not give her any material assistance, but All the things I gave her before should be brought back to Shanghai. I believe that after losing everything, it will not be easy for her to live in Dali for a year... After one year, if she can survive, it will be good for her It is also a kind of growth. At the very least, it can prove that she has the ability to support herself after leaving the life of food and clothes. On the contrary, if she can't survive, then what reason does she have to refuse the arrangement you have made for her? What about her path? This year has proven that her choice and persistence were wrong."

After I finished speaking, Yang Sisi's parents first exchanged glances with each other, then discussed a few words in a low voice, and then said to me: "Your proposal, we think it is good, we can agree to her staying here for a year, but once Years later, even if she proves that she has the ability to live independently, the matter of studying abroad cannot be ignored."

Yang Sisi replied with a particularly repulsive tone: "Why do I have the ability to live in Dali after a year and still want to study abroad?"

I stopped Yang Sisi's parents who wanted to respond, and then said to Yang Sisi on their behalf: "Don't be so harsh, even if you have the ability to live here for a year, it doesn't mean that you will still be full of love for this city after a year." Freshness... Regarding the matter of studying abroad, I have the same attitude as your parents. I think you should try a different life when you are young. Maybe you will find that the life of studying abroad is actually more exciting. ? If you miss it because of a little obsession, it is a real regret. What's more, you are only in your early 20s, even if you study abroad for two or three years, after you come back, you still have a lot of time to choose what you want life... Now, your parents have already made concessions, and you should also realize how difficult it is for them to make this concession, instead of blindly destroying their majesty as parents, otherwise you really don't Sensible."

The most vacant place in Yang Sisi's heart seemed to have been compensated. After a while, she finally slowed down and said to her parents: "If I agree to study abroad in a year, can you agree that when I return to China, I will never give up. Meddling with my choices?"

Yang Sisi's parents first sighed softly, and then replied: "If at that time, you are still thinking about this place, then we will admit it too. We can't be really selfish enough to prevent you from choosing the life you want... …What we are afraid of is that you are confused by some illusions now, and then miss the life that is really suitable for you. When you wake up, you find that you have no chance to choose again, and the pain at that time is the real pain. pain."

Yang Sisi bowed her head in silence. After a long time, she took out the car keys and bank card from her purse and put them in front of her parents, and replied: "I am willing to abide by this agreement, and I will give myself another choice in a year. The opportunity in life, let’s go to see a different world, I hope you can also respect me, and stop interfering with my choice of life after I return to China.

Yang Sisi's mother took the bank card and car keys from her, and then took out the ID card and driver's license that were confiscated by them before from her purse, and she handed these to Yang Sisi and said: "Have experienced This time, we also realized how important mutual understanding is to maintaining a family relationship. I believe that you will also gain something, otherwise you would not make concessions to us... We believe that in a few years, you will be even more If you are mature and capable of taking responsibility for your own life, why should we interfere with you? ... So at that time, you just let go and choose your own way of life."

Yang Sisi finally took over the identity document that could represent the freedom of life from her mother, but she suddenly didn't want to say another word. She held her chin with one hand and looked intently at the flickering lights outside the window. Want to remember something at this moment...

The next moment, Lao Huang clapped his hands and said to everyone with a smile: "Isn't this all right? It's a happy result. When the wine is served later, let's all have a toast for Sisi to stay in Dali, and also for her." I’m going to study abroad soon... I want to drink to our gold medal mediator Mi Gao, I just say I won’t be fooled..."

I didn't hear what Lao Huang said behind, but I just felt dazed... After a while, I turned my gaze to the place Yang Sisi was looking at... The lights were shining there, and the footsteps of tourists never stopped. But I felt lonely inexplicably, and then I seemed to see myself a year later...

(End of this chapter)