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He and his wife were not mentally ill, so why should they see a doctor? But his sister said that if they didn't go, Qingqing would be allowed to stay in Jiang City.

The daughter never called again, so the two of them thought about it all morning and then went to the city to find the address of a psychiatrist given by the younger sister.

After coming out of there, they also vaguely knew how much pressure they had put on their daughter.

Any kind of suppressive education or any kind of suffering education will eventually become the last straw for children.

When her sister-in-law called her husband, Gao Yan heard her sister-in-law say: "Who is willing to endure hardship if everything goes smoothly?

Why force your child to do something that neither of you is willing to do?

Nowadays, society is highly competitive, and children are already under great pressure. They originally wanted to use their home as a safe haven, but who would have known that in the end they discovered that their home is also a place where they are trained and can’t let them take a breather. Who can help but collapse? Who can avoid pain? "

Su Cheng listened to the younger sister's words and retorted unconvinced: "You also said that competition is fierce now, and you can support yourself with no more skills than we did back then. Today's children can talk about everything, music, dance and painting.

We just ask Qingqing to get better grades, get into a good university, and have a good future when she graduates.

Your sister-in-law and I just thought that maybe if we push it hard, she would be able to improve and become enlightened. We don't want her to have the same hard work as us in the future. "

As soon as Su Cheng finished speaking, he was mercilessly ridiculed by Su Tang, "My parents thought the same way at that time. Did you finally go to college? No, you didn't even go to high school, and you couldn't do anything by yourself. Why force the child?"

"Do you think Lele is smart? He learned everything quickly from childhood to college, and he has always been number one, so you think it doesn't hurt my back when I stand and talk."

Su Cheng didn't respond, it was obviously this idea.

"When Lele first went to kindergarten, she was very well-behaved. Maybe she knew I was working hard, so she planned everything she did.

Later, when I got to the top class, we changed houses and the business in the store became stable, so he became naughty and very restless. The teacher came to see me several times a day.

At that time, I thought, it doesn't matter even if Lele doesn't like studying all his life. If he can't bear the hardship of study, he will have to bear the hardship of life. Let him set up a stall and sell food like me. But then Lele entered the second grade. From then on, I felt like I had an enlightenment and fell in love with learning.

Lele said that it was because I often praised him and he didn’t want to disappoint me, that’s why he was so interested in learning. "

Su Cheng fell into deep thought after listening to his sister's words. He praised his daughter. He and his wife didn't seem to praise their daughter much.

Sometimes when their daughters come to the store to help, they are obviously very relieved and happy, but what they say is: "Are you very tired? Your mother and I are so tired every day just so that you can study hard. This is a breakfast shop." Take you to school."

Su Cheng asked himself, was it really because he couldn't endure the hardship that he couldn't study in the past? He could also go to high school at that time.

But because his parents always complained that they were tired and under great pressure, and the family had no savings at all, he came up with the idea of ​​​​reducing the burden on his parents and went to a vocational school.

A few years later, I realized that it was not that my family had no savings, but I was just afraid that he and his sister would spend too much money, so I told them this on purpose.

Su Cheng felt that he shouldn't blame his parents. They had already worked hard to raise him at such an old age, but every time he thought about this, he felt empty in his heart and didn't know who to blame.

In the end, I can only blame myself. I blame myself for not being smart enough, not getting high enough scores, and leaving my parents with no hope.

Su Cheng was silent, and Gao Yan didn't say anything. Although she always said that her daughter was not as good as the one next door, she wanted to put pressure on her daughter to improve, and she didn't really feel that her daughter was bad.

Sometimes when she is very busy, she doesn't mean to say anything she says when she gets angry, she just wants to vent her stress. She really loves her daughter, otherwise she wouldn't be afraid that she would pay less attention to her daughter after having a second child and not have another child.

Did she really do something wrong? But she also came here like this when she was a child. She did the most work and ate the least food. Didn't she grow up well?

The sister-in-law asked them to see a psychiatrist, but they did not take it seriously. They heard that the sister-in-law would not let Qingqing come back unless they went to see a psychiatrist. The sister-in-law always kept her promise.

I was afraid that Qingqing would not come back, so I went to see him anyway. Yes, they were indeed not mentally ill, but the child who grew up under their suppression was indeed sick, with low self-esteem and sensitivity.

They are the ones who do harmful things in the name of love.

At the doctor's place, both of them thought about their childhood. Do they really have no complaints? Maybe it was just self-comfort in desperation, giving myself a reason to compromise with my parents.

Is it right to say those hurtful things to your daughter?

No, they just use rough words to vent the stress of life like young children in the name of caring.

Gao Yan didn't want to lose her daughter. The first time she was willing to change, she ignored the words of her sisters.

If they hadn't told her every day that it was useless for little girls to study and could easily be deceived by young men, she wouldn't be worrying about gains and losses every day, worrying that her daughter would drop out of school and run away like her sister-in-law.

The second step was to apologize to her daughter. She thought it was difficult to say the words "sorry", but the moment her daughter called her mother, she actually felt that it was no big deal to apologize to her child.

It's not a big deal if she does something wrong for a while, she will change it.

Listening to her daughter carefully say: "Mom, this is my first time as your daughter. Can you please let me take my time? I will work hard to grow into the daughter you expect.

If I can't do it, then I don't seem to know how to make you not sad except I'm sorry. "

Gao Yan thought, how could he know he couldn't do it before he even started working hard?

It was the repressive education she and her husband received in the past that made her daughter have no self-confidence. No matter what she did, she would deny herself first.

When Su Tang saw her niece's eyes were red and swollen, she didn't ask anything. Sometimes not asking is a kind of kindness.

If she interferes too much in the affairs of her brother-in-law and niece, it may be counterproductive.

Su Qing stayed with her aunt for a few days. She saw that her aunt would get up at around four in the morning, steam the cakes, and rush to the market to buy vegetables. She started buying breakfast at around seven o'clock, and at one o'clock in the afternoon she started buying cold chicken feet and potatoes. I was busy until three or four o'clock, and started preparing the ingredients for the next day.

Even though there are two helpers in the store, they are still very busy.

She misses her parents, and they are so busy at home. She often feels guilty and is helpless.

But her aunt said that as long as she works hard in life, she will be able to help reduce the burden on her parents in the future.

Is what aunt said true? Will she really not let her parents' efforts for so many years go to waste in the future?

Su Qing didn't believe herself.