A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

One of the factors that gave rise to faith is gratitude. In addition to revering the gods of nature, the ancestors of both the East and the West also performed sacrifices and offerings to express their gratitude to them.

In addition to thanking the gods, the Chinese, unlike the West, place more emphasis on being grateful to "those who have helped them." Being grateful to the clan leaders and ancestors for their help gave rise to ancestor worship. Being grateful to others for their help gave rise to the story of Mazu becoming a deity by building temples and offering sacrifices to them forever. Being grateful to teachers and industry leaders for teaching and answering questions gave rise to the Confucius Temple and China's unique industry gods. Craftsmen worship Lu Ban, tomb robbers worship Cao Cao, and brothels worship Guan Zhong, and so on.

Speaking of the manifestation of gratitude in faith, let’s not talk about the ancient times. A very famous example in modern times is the PLA Martyrs Temple, “the most unique temple in the world” in Fujian.

For modern people, belief in gods and immortals is a way of cultural inheritance and historical memory. By worshipping gods and immortals and participating in religious ceremonies, people can understand and inherit traditional culture and values, and enhance their sense of identity and belonging to history and culture.

It is also a kind of psychological comfort and spiritual sustenance. In modern society, people are facing various pressures and challenges, and belief in immortals can provide them with a spiritual sustenance and comfort that transcends reality and help them face the difficulties and setbacks in life.

Tian Qingyong's phone rang again. After taking a look at the number, Tian Qingyong sighed helplessly and said to Zhang Lan, "I'll take the call."

"Hello, auntie."

"..."

"I'm in Qingshan Village, not in the city right now. What's wrong?"

"Jiaojiao wants to quit her job and get a divorce. You can't control this kind of thing, so how can I control it?"

"I'll go back in the evening. I'm at my friend's place right now. We can talk about this when we meet."

"..."

"Ah, come here?" Tian Qingyong looked up at Zhang Lan, thought for a moment and said again.

"Okay, Auntie, please come over. I happen to be here with Zhang Lan. I'll ask him to take a look and see if it's just a relationship problem or something else."

"Yes, his house is right next to the Bodhisattva Temple. Just give me a call when you get here and I'll pick you up."

"Okay, okay, okay...then hang up."

After hanging up the phone, Tian Qingyong and Zhang Lan explained, "It was my aunt's call. Didn't my cousin Jiaojiao call me before and say she wanted to quit her job and get a divorce? Now that my aunt knows about it, she says she won't agree to anything. She also said that there was a problem with the house she bought, and someone cursed my cousin and asked her to come and worship the Buddha. I asked you to take a look, so that she can solve her doubts."

Zhang Lan nodded: "It's okay, I'll take a look when you get here."

"It has little to do with outsiders. In my opinion, it's just a problem between my cousin and her husband. The two people's tempers and personalities are not compatible. When they first get together, they may feel that they have to marry each other. After a long time, when they start living together, when their personalities can't complement each other, all kinds of conflicts arise. Not to mention that my cousin is not only spoiled and carefree, but also stubborn and never gives in. She won't admit her mistakes even when she is right." Tian Qingyong said a little helplessly.

It is difficult for outsiders to say anything about issues such as managing the relationship between husband and wife.

In some families, one person has a very explosive temper, and the family can still function normally, relying on the other party's gentleness and tolerance. So you are making a fuss, I am laughing, I don't care about your fuss, and the situation can be settled.

Outsiders may feel uncomfortable watching this and ask why one party is bullying the other, but in fact the two people care about different things.

A mature relationship will definitely go through four stages: the passionate love period, the adjustment period, the dull period and the symbiotic period.

Many people think that the easiest time for two people to break up is during the dull period, because at this time, it is easy for them to break up because they have lost the novelty of the relationship, feel bored with being together because it is too dull, and no longer love each other.

It is easy to break up during the dull period, but for those who get married and divorced quickly, the possibility of breaking up during the adjustment period is greater. For men and women, the dull period is a question of "whether they still love each other", while the adjustment period is a question of "whether they are suitable for each other".

When it comes to the adjustment period, with the end of the honeymoon period, the real each other begins to slowly reveal themselves to each other, and all the small flaws and shortcomings that were previously hidden also emerge one by one.

Without the honeymoon period and the effects of hormones, the "perfect lover" begins to collapse, which can easily lead to quarrels and conflicts.

The arrival of the running-in period will make both parties begin to doubt whether the other party is really suitable for each other. After all, after the honeymoon period, there are more and more conflicts between the two people.

Maybe in the girl's eyes, he was gentle, considerate and always available before, but now he is selfish and indifferent, and the game is more important to him than herself.

In the man's eyes, the woman used to be cute and sensible, always dressing herself up beautifully, but now she is always unreasonable and sloppy.

Gradually, both parties will feel that they have fallen in love with the wrong person and that the other person is not the right one for them, and they will then break up or get divorced.

Everyone wants to have a lover who is 100% suitable for them, but such a person does not exist. In the world, there are no two people who are absolutely suitable for each other.

Tomatoes and potatoes are originally two unrelated foods, but when tomatoes turn themselves into ketchup and potatoes turn themselves into French fries, they become a perfect match.

Among these, many people think that running-in means either patience and compromise, or changing the other person under the banner of love.

The outcome of these two situations is that you either put yourself in a difficult position, and if there are problems in the relationship later, you will feel that the other person does not cherish you, and that you have changed so much for him, but this is the only ending you get.

Or they ask the other party to constantly compromise and change, and the other party feels aggrieved and feels that they have sacrificed too much for love, and they feel unfair. Therefore, many couples always quarrel and feel that there is no way for them to get along with each other. In fact, they are using the wrong method.

Effective communication does not mean throwing all your angry words at the other party, but speaking nicely and expressing yourself correctly.

For example, when watching a drama or reading a novel, there is a conflict between the male and female protagonists, which can be resolved in two or three sentences, but one of them keeps silent while the other makes wild guesses and may even continue to vent his emotions.

As a result, the conflict became bigger and bigger, and they couldn't communicate. When they communicated, they quarreled, and gradually began to have a cold war. If it weren't for the male and female protagonists, they would have broken up long ago.

Tian Qingyong's cousin Jiaojiao is like this. From the perspective of an outsider like Tian Qingyong, most of the time it is his cousin-in-law who is enduring when it comes to communication.

Tian Qingyong's cousin Jiaojiao is a carefree person who never admits her mistakes when she loses her temper and never thinks about the past. But Tian Qingyong's cousin's husband is a bit stingy. After a long time, one party thinks that the other party is holding grudges and digging up old scores, while the other party thinks that I have tolerated you for a long time, so breaking up or divorce is inevitable.