A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

"Oh." Zhang Lan nodded and continued.

"Third aunt, you have nothing to do at home every day. Have you ever thought about finding a job? Li Ming is not a child anymore."

"Of course I haven't thought about it, but there is no suitable job here. I can find a job by going out, but you know the current situation at home. Your third uncle can't leave, and there are more than ten acres of land at home. Even if I want to go out, I can't." Zhang Lan's third aunt said.

"Also, Li Ming is already in his twenties. The only two or three years will bring him back to marriageable age. After these two or three years, all the girls who are suitable for marriage will be married, and it will be a hassle again. At present, your uncle is not in charge of the family affairs, so if there is a matchmaking, someone in the family must come forward."

Zhang Lan nodded: "That's true. Let's not talk about anything else now. Li Ming's marriage is the most important thing."

"That's right. Xiaoxia is a girl. As long as she is willing, she can always find a home. But it's different for the boy Li Ming. After missing these few years, it will be difficult for him to find a suitable one again." Zhang Lan's third aunt sighed.

"Li Xia doesn't have a boyfriend yet?" Zhang Lan asked casually.

"Don't mention her. I can't control her anymore. No matter what I say, it's not right. Let her date herself. You can even brag about it after you bring her home. Who knows what kind of man she wants to find? She's already over 30 years old, and it will be difficult for her to find a family by then." Third Aunt Zhang Lan's face was full of worry when she spoke.

But how can I put it? Once you become older men and women, getting married is never easy.

When Zhang Lan went home for blind dates, there were basically no single people of marriageable age. Seven or eight out of ten people introduced by matchmakers were divorced, and three or five of them had children.

There is actually nothing wrong with divorce, but as they get older, or after the failure of their previous marriage, everyone is like a gambler. After suffering losses at the hands of their ex, they are eager to find someone to take over and get it all back.

Once a woman loses her expectations of love, she will obviously feel that she has become difficult to get along with. When a woman becomes rational, everything is transparent to her. Girls have better control over their emotional changes than men. A woman can tell at a glance what the man's purpose and thoughts are.

When she was going on blind dates crazily, Zhang Lan was already 30 years old at that time, so she didn't dare to hope to find someone under 30 years old.

As for divorce, the main point is that as long as there are no children or only one girl, it is almost OK. Who made their generation have more men than women?

The one who impressed Zhang Lan the most was a man who was three years older than him. Although he was three years older, Zhang Lan knew that he was definitely older than him the moment they met, because he could tell from his face and expression.

When a woman reaches a certain age, if she doesn't dress up, you can tell a lot from her face. But she already shows her lack of confidence, and this lack of confidence is disguised by self-righteousness, which looks very awkward.

Zhang Lan is not a moral gentleman. Even when she went home for a blind date, she hoped to have a child as soon as possible. But when she heard that the man was three years older than her, Zhang Lan began to have concerns from the perspective of fertility.

When I met him and found that he looked older than I had imagined, my concerns grew even greater.

The blind date with this person was just eating, chatting, making an appointment for next meal, chatting again, and then driving her to the downstairs of her place, and that was it.

In fact, whether you have feelings for someone or not, whether you like to get along with them or not, the other person can see it, and you know it yourself, so many people feel that blind dates are like acting. In order to maintain the most basic courtesy and not offend the introducer, who may be your relative, colleague, classmate, or even leader, you have to deal with it. Both sides are looking for an excuse to make the other party give up.

However, the older some girls get, the harder it is for them to give up. They still want to give it a try, but this attempt has a prerequisite, which is that the man must be very proactive and positive. They are fragile inside and are very afraid of being rejected. Every rejection makes them deny themselves, doubt their lives, and all kinds of negative emotions come to them.

As a last resort, these older girls have evolved layers of protective shells. I can sympathize with them and understand them, but if Zhang Lan were to take the initiative to coax and pursue them like she does with younger girls just because of this, I would think that she is joking.

It's come to this stage of blind dating, and you're not young anymore, so just say what you want to say.

But the content of your chat mainly focuses on the five-word mantra of "hmm, ah, oh". You are a Buddhist blind date. If you don't look for me, I will definitely not look for you. I don't want to talk about it or pursue you. When you talk about love, you say when will the sweet love come to me. If you really go out for a blind date, you will not take the initiative or refuse. Everything will go with the flow.

This kind of chat is really tiring, because even if you send ten thousand messages, the other party may just reply with a "hmm", or sometimes even not reply at all.

Then you can't make an appointment with her because you are at the end of the list of invitations she accepts. For example, even if you ask her out to the movies ten thousand years in advance, by the time the invitation comes, one word from her best friend will cancel your invitation.

When you can't stand it anymore and stop contacting her, she will ask the introducer why this person doesn't contact me actively.

You are already in your thirties, and you are still investigating this and that. It is understandable that you enjoy the pursuit when you are young, but when you are older, if you still expect to be pursued and taken the initiative by others, it is very speechless.

Zhang Lan had been on blind dates for many times but all failed, mainly because she was too proud to let go. It wasn't until later that she finally met someone who was suitable in every way, and then her father fell ill.

There was something that Zhang Lan's third aunt said that Zhang Lan agreed with very much, which was that the average age for men to get married is only a few years, and after these years, it would be more difficult to get married.

Unless you are successful, have a stable and high-paying job, or have a promising future. Just like if an older man wants to go on a blind date and get married, when he is a civil servant, there is no shortage of people to introduce him to at any age.

But if your parents don't help, and the family becomes a burden, and you don't have any special potential, then getting married as soon as possible is the right path.

This is what Aunt Zhang Lan thought of Li Ming. She herself was in poor health, and Li Baogui would not be able to go out to earn money in the short term. She had originally hoped that Li Xia would find a good family and then be able to help Li Ming, but now it seems there is no hope.

As for Li Ming himself, he failed the high school entrance exam and went to a technical secondary school. Later, when he was supposed to go to a junior college, he even dropped out of school. Now he is working as a decorator. What kind of future is this?

He is not even as good as Li Xia. Zhang Lan's third aunt complained to Zhang Lan that she wished Li Ming could be like Li Xia, even if she had to give him money and send it to the bank, she wouldn't have to worry so much.