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Tongtong's parents only have one child, so if they can find a treatment, they will definitely try their best. However, it is also possible that the treatment is too expensive and the couple cannot afford it, so they put it off.

However, after getting Tongtong's information, Liu Xiaoyu asked a doctor to look at Tongtong's medical records. The doctor said that it could only alleviate the symptoms, but it was unrealistic to cure or improve.

No matter how advanced Tongtong's condition is, treatment can only slow down the progression of the disease, but it will not make it better.

As for the spine and joint problems, they can be alleviated, but surgery is required. However, if surgery is performed, it is still a question whether Tongtong's body can withstand it.

Even if you can hold on, recovery after surgery is still a big problem.

Paralyzed patients are different from normal people. Once they have undergone surgery and have been bedridden for a long time, they are unable to recover their body functions by themselves and have to rely on the help of others.

After a normal person has undergone surgery, they can stay in bed for a period of time and then perform autonomous nerve and limb function exercises.

Of course, if you have money, these are not a problem. With hundreds of millions of dollars spent on treatment and nursing each year, even patients with high paraplegia can have a good quality of life.

For Tongtong's family, the biggest improvement and change in the current family atmosphere is that if Tongtong's parents can have another child, her family can undergo tremendous changes, and this change is likely to be positive.

The reason why she says there is a high possibility that the answer is positive is that Liu Xiaoyu herself feels that if Tongtong's parents have children, whether they can still take care of Tongtong like they do now is something no one can say for sure.

Human nature is selfish, but sometimes it is selfless. When things don’t happen, no one knows what changes will happen.

Another thing that makes Liu Xiaoyu worried is Tongtong's personality.

Because it is a congenital disease, Tongtong has been taken care of by her parents since she was a child. Although it has no impact on her daily activities, her parents still love her very much.

But from the words and from Tongtong's video, we can tell that Tongtong has always been in a cautious state of mind.

When a person grows up in an environment where her parents are often unhappy, she will tend to be cautious from an early age and worry about when her parents may be unhappy.

Such people are likely to be afraid of conflicts with others in the future. They will easily get nervous when others are unhappy, as if they have done something wrong.

Such parents will inadvertently raise children who like to please others. As long as others are unhappy, the children will be at a loss and think that they have done something wrong.

When such people grow up, they are easily manipulated in the workplace or in other interpersonal relationships. There are those unkind people who will specifically bully such people and they will always get what they want.

Because the psychological reaction of such people to others' unhappiness has almost become a conditioned reflex. That is, once others are unhappy, before they even think about the reason, they think it is their own fault, and various emotions such as guilt, fault, worry, etc. have already emerged.

In fact, these emotions are not caused by the current incident, but are the result of long-term "training" in the past process of getting along with parents.

Of course parents are usually not malicious enough to intentionally discipline their children, they just unintentionally satisfy their narcissism through such behavior.

Scolding children and losing temper with them is something that satisfies parents’ narcissism. Children are weak and parents are strong. If parents are not aware, it is easy for their children to bear all kinds of emotions from them.

Originally, parents should be the container of their children's emotions, receiving and accommodating their children's emotions. However, many parents are mentally immature, and in their relationship with their children, the children usually become the container of their parents' emotions, being forced to accept and accommodate their parents' emotions.

How can children successfully understand their parents' emotions? They also do not have the ability to resolve these emotions and conflicts on their own and can only bear them silently.

These things that they cannot handle will gradually be internalized into the children's hearts and become a template for their future interpersonal relationships.

So you will see people with a people-pleasing personality always try to please others in interpersonal relationships. People who are cautious are always cautious, and people who are afraid of conflicts always avoid conflicts.

As a result, they are often taken advantage of in relationships and dare not assert their own rights and interests. For such people, interpersonal relationships are not the joy of gaining friendship or other relationships, but a heavy burden.

Meeting a bad person who likes to manipulate others is like having a vampire hanging on you. Fear of conflict is a habitual behavior pattern and a coping pattern.

Since it is a habit, it can be changed. What is needed is practice. When you really feel that your interests are being harmed and the other party has really done something wrong, practice not to endure it silently, but to muster up the courage to argue a few more times.

For those who are seriously unable to open their mouths, as long as they can argue a few more words, without actually having any conflict, it can be considered as taking the first step in a long journey.

Any change cannot happen out of thin air, and it requires a lot of practice. The amount of practice is proportional to the age of the person. If it is a ten-year-old child, it may change very quickly. If it is an adult in his thirties, or even a middle-aged person who is older, the long-standing habits in the past have often formed conditioned reflexes. Change is not easy and requires a lot of practice, but change can actually happen after practice.

Most people can change their living environment and behavioral habits through practice, but it is not easy for Tongtong to change and practice.

The reason lies in Tongtong's physical condition and the fact that Tongtong does not have his own independent source of income.

In fact, no matter how a person changes his living environment, the first condition is that he must have an additional source of income.

When a person is financially independent and can support himself, he will naturally have the confidence to change many things.

In Tongtong's current situation, even if you ask her to practice changing, how can she have the confidence? It's easy to say it, but it's hard to actually take action.

"So, Tongtong's problem is not just about treatment, but also about her future financial resources." Zhang Lan thought for a while and said to Liu Xiaoyu.

Liu Xiaoyu nodded: "As for treatment, I can think of a way, but as for the financial resources for her physical condition, I can't think of any good solution."

It is easy to simply give money, but since it is help, it is best to be able to solve the fundamental problem. Otherwise, it is easy to turn it into a favor and then a grudge.

"It's not that serious. If you say so, no one will do charity." In response to Liu Xiaoyu's remarks that she was grateful for something and then resented it, Zhang Lan waved her hand and said with a smile.