A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

From a medical perspective, it is generally believed that night terrors in children are caused by a lack of certain elements in the child's body.

If the problem cannot be relieved after a short period of treatment in the hospital, various tests will be conducted to determine what elements are lacking in the child's body.

Qin Yonghui took her children to worship the Bodhisattva, and Zhang Lan performed it once to save all sentient beings. Both adults and children performed it once.

At the beginning, it may be caused by fright, coupled with the lack of certain trace elements in the body caused by picky eating.

But after such a long time, the constant crying can no longer be solved by supplementing vitamins.

As the lotus emerged and the red light fell, the child Qin Yonghui held yawned loudly and fell into a deep sleep after a while.

After sending the child to the guest room to rest, Qin Yonghui's expression became much more relaxed, and she was much less depressed at the beginning when she spoke.

Cheng Liqiang's expression on the side also softened a lot. Sometimes, when the child keeps crying, even the most stable person can't help the emotions in his heart.

Qin Yonghui and Qin Yongjun were chatting after they had calmed down. Inadvertently, Qin Yonghui talked about the hardships of raising children. What she meant was that being a woman was too hard, and it was better to be a man.

By the way, they also discussed the current trend on the Internet. After Zhang Lan listened for a while, he got up and left the room.

Zhang Lan couldn't agree with the words in Qin Yonghui's words, but because he was a guest, Zhang Lan couldn't refute.

Although what Qin Yonghui said makes sense. For example, with the stagnation of economic development, there are fewer and fewer retreat options for women in the ordinary class. But in reality, Zhang Lan understands better than Qin Yonghui what the situation of men and women in rural families at the bottom is like.

This kind of thing has little to do with people like Qin Yonghui, because the concept of no retreat will always be just a general sorrow of the lower class.

There is indeed no way out for ordinary women. Compared to the same ordinary men, a woman can get less skew in family resources.

This phenomenon is not unusual; on the contrary, it is common. Because we rarely witness a family willing to go to great lengths to push the next generation of women up the ladder, especially if there are many children.

In today's marriage system, due to the existence of the mechanism of the husband's family and the natal family, the vast majority of ordinary women are so-called tradable items from birth. They will pass through it like a river at a fixed age and fixed stage of physical development. The underground tunnel of the original family then flows to other families.

All this is silent and routine. Due to this mechanism, the daughter's role cannot bear all the support responsibilities of her original family, because she becomes a member of that family wherever she marries. This is a common folk perception.

So this creates a very bizarre fact. When a girl is born crying in the delivery room, the parents who gave her life already have a natural defense and alienation from her.

Ordinary families are cautious in investing in their daughters. Compared with all-out efforts, they obviously have better alternatives. Either try to have a second or third child to get a baby boy that belongs completely to your own family, or find a suitable and supportive in-law for your daughter in the future.

Both options are far less risky than devoting all your energy to raising an only child. Because retirement care is a very real issue. Regardless of those hymns about family ties, blood relationships themselves are also very realistic in material society.

The poorer the family, the less likely it is that they will devote all their resources to cultivating and supporting their daughters, because parents at the bottom are forced to be shrewd. They do not have the calm conditions to have ample emotions, so they will naturally be careful with their calculations.

So this is the embarrassing situation. The help that women in ordinary families can get from their families is usually incomplete and incomplete. This means their situation will be even more isolated.

As age increases and knowledge increases, this situation will not improve much, because next, we will face an even more serious problem, marriage and childbirth.

The folk customary marriage age usually ranges between twenty-two and twenty-eight. Men can go later, while women can go further forward due to fertility considerations.

This age group of marriage determines that many ordinary women must face the pressure of marriage brought by their family of origin when they first enter the workforce.

At this time, you can either choose to fight against your original family or choose to compromise. From an ideal point of view, the advantage of entering into marriage at this age is that women can have children when they are physically stronger, and the union of two families can also provide assistance in the early stages of their careers, and both parties are not very old. Parents can also help take care of their grandchildren.

But what is the reality. The majority are unhappy marriages, the majority are the in-laws who are full of chicken feathers, the majority are the natal families who are smart and don’t want to get involved, and the majority are married couples who are jointly in debt.

Zhang Lan saw a video on a short video platform of a divorced rural woman. There was no place to accept her household registration, and her ex-husband did not accept her. She wanted to move back to her hometown, but she had many difficulties. First, her parents found it embarrassing, and second, the villagers did not accept it. .

She is a woman from the bottom of society, and it is unrealistic for her to buy a house and settle down on her own. Because she has been taking care of her children at home for many years, spending time in her marriage, and delaying the opportunity to obtain security through work.

In the comments of that video, many people suggested that the woman find another man to marry and transfer her household registration to this man's family. This is what many grassroots women do. Under the pressure of reality, they keep getting divorced and remarried.

Although many grassroots women do not understand the reasons for this situation, they can only express vague feelings about girls growing up without a home.

Ordinary women in modern society, like men, face a problem that will last their entire lives: the space for trial and error is too narrow.

The narrow one is like a high aging threshold. The women who crossed over smiled charmingly and touchingly, and sat in the courtyard with their white coats on, burning tea, enjoying the spiritual supply of a higher level. Most of the women who could not cross over had their hair disheveled and bumped their heads against the threshold, dejected and bleeding. After losing his appearance, he stayed in this trap for the rest of his life and complained endlessly.

I was born into the wrong family, chose the wrong major, met the wrong person, accepted the wrong marriage, and gave birth to a child that I shouldn't have given birth to. With all these things, can you make a wrong step? Do you dare to make a wrong step? If you go wrong, where can you go back?

The first thing a woman from a poor family should develop is not motherhood, but a sense of crisis, because if she has a clear mind, she will be aware of the constraints and enemies she faces when she looks around.

However, in reality, some ordinary women who encountered this situation turned their attention to the ordinary men around them, and they chose to turn themselves into another kind of exploiters.