Stepmother Reborn: Dad, my mom hasn't hit me for three days

It's winter again, with heavy snow and a vast expanse of white between heaven and earth. The thick snow is knee-high, but it still can't stop the children from going home for the New Year.

Baolin brought Ergou back home. Everything was the same as before, except for Uncle Li's sad expression.

Baolin was a person who couldn't hide his thoughts, so he pulled Zhang Xiuhua aside and asked, "Mom, what's wrong with Uncle Li? Is he unhappy?"

"It's still Yaoyao. She has never gotten married. She is already 35 years old. How can he not be worried?" Zhang Xiuhua felt that Li Jianguo just couldn't let go. "He still has the old ideas. He thinks his daughter is complete only when she gets married. You don't have to pay attention to him."

Baolin originally didn't want to get involved in this matter, but when Li Jianguo and Zhang Xiuhua were not at home, they pulled Baolin and Ergou aside to complain.

"The villagers' words are so rude. They even want to introduce a divorced man to Yaoyao. What's wrong with my Yaoyao? Why are they so mean to her?"

Ergou frowned and stood up immediately, "Dad, who said that? I'll tear his mouth apart!"

"If you can stop one person, can you stop a whole village?!" Li Jianguo sighed and looked at Baolin with a hesitant look.

Baolin felt that he seemed to be on the verge of something. She was always straightforward, so she said directly, "Uncle Li, if you have something to say, just say it."

"Baolin, Yaoyao and you have always had the best relationship. Ask her if she still misses her first love. I heard that he is divorced. If she still likes him, I can help them get together." Li Jianguo sometimes gets entangled, wondering whether he should have cut off Yaoyao's marriage connection in the first place.

Baolin was a little embarrassed, "But my mother..."

"Your mother...your mother's thinking is too advanced. When she is unhappy, she can just hide at home and ignore what is happening outside. I can't do that. I can't let go of Yaoyao." Li Jianguo sighed, "Your mother is also uncomfortable. She is a stepmother and is too strict. Yaoyao will be angry with her. I am Yaoyao's biological father. She must not be angry with me."

Baolin thought for a moment and said, "I'll ask for you, but as for whether I can persuade him to stay, I can't guarantee it."

Li Jianguo showed a pleasant surprise, "Okay! As long as you are willing to help, if she really doesn't want to get married, I will give up the idea and move to the capital with your mother, so that I can have some peace and quiet."

Baolin nodded.

The house was full of people, and there was no place to talk. Outside the village, the children were running around happily.

Baolin asked Yaoyao to go to the county town to buy things, and then go to a coffee shop to rest and talk about recent developments.

Baolin first talked about her current situation. After retiring, she has been working as a commentator for the program team. Although her income is not as high as Zhuzhu's, she can also achieve financial freedom.

When it was Yaoyao's turn, she summed it up in one sentence, "It's still the same. I teach students and lead a group to do research."

The two of them were not in the same industry, and as the saying goes, different trades are like different worlds. Baolin did not ask her about her work, but just used this as an excuse to find a breakthrough. "You haven't met someone you like?"

Yaoyao stirred the coffee in her hand and said, "I'm busy. I don't have time."

"Do you still like your first love?" Baolin was not good at beating around the bush, so he went straight to the point.

Yaoyao glanced at her and said, "My dad asked you to ask me, right?"

Baolin laughed it off and didn't answer, which was considered as his agreement.

Yaoyao wasn't angry either. "At the beginning, I asked them to apologize to me in public. You all thought I was going too far, but I was actually preparing for this day. I don't regret it."

Baolin scratched his head, "My mother didn't rush you. Uncle Li is doing this for your own good."

Yaoyao didn't dwell on this topic. "The year I graduated from high school, I knew the love letter was fake. He didn't like me, and I was mostly angry and embarrassed. I never dated anyone since then. Sometimes when I'm free, I wonder if I still have the ability to love. So I went to meet him some time ago out of curiosity."

Baolin's eyes lit up, he sat up straight and waited for her to continue.

"To be honest, I made sufficient mental preparation before meeting him. But when I really met him, I saw a fat guy, fatter than Brother Youcai, with an oily face and a receding hairline. My filter was completely shattered. Do you know how I felt at that time?" Yaoyao spread her hands.

Baolin never expected this scene to happen. If it were her, let alone love, she would probably want to go back and kill the self who didn't study hard and only knew how to secretly love.

"I fled without seeing him." Yaoyao smiled bitterly, "It was then that I realized that love was so superficial."

Baolin opened his mouth to refute, but Yaoyao seemed to be right. People are visual animals. They don't like appearance and have no interest in understanding the inner qualities of others.

She immediately changed the subject of love and said, "It would be so cute to have a baby."

The implication is that the father can be removed and the son can be kept.

Yaoyao lowered her head and thought for a long time, as if she had made enough mental preparations, "Baolin, do you know why I liked to play with you when I was a child?"

Baolin blurted out, "Of course it's because we are about the same age. There is no generation gap."

Yaoyao nodded first, then shook her head. "In the beginning, it was actually because you are my daughter. If I follow what you do, I will definitely not be criticized by her."

Baolin opened her mouth wide. Is that so? This was the first time she heard of it.

"I just subconsciously felt that this was the safest way to do it. But when I grew up, I understood the reason behind it." Yaoyao not only talked about her childhood experience, "My biological mother favors boys over girls. Since I was a child, I have become timid and cowardly under her teachings, hiding in my own corner like a dark mouse. I always weigh whether something is good for me. This kind of calculating thinking has been implanted in my bones."

Baolin's personality can be said to be the opposite of Yaoyao's. She can't quite understand Yaoyao's feelings, so she just listens to Yaoyao's story in a daze.

"Getting married and having children seems to be a mission that every woman has to accomplish." Yaoyao smiled bitterly, "But in my eyes, I have to calculate the cost first. What do I have to pay and what can I get."

Baolin did not interrupt Yaoyao. Yaoyao had never experienced love, so it was unbelievable for her to enter into marriage for the sake of illusory love. As for maternal love? The child had not been born yet, so where did the maternal love come from? !

"The cost for women to get married is too high." Yaoyao counted on her fingers, "First: 40% of women in my country suffer from gynecological diseases such as reproductive tract infections to varying degrees, and the prevalence rate among married women is as high as 70%. Second: A Japanese study showed that the median age of death for married men was 81.3 years old, 66.3 years older than unmarried men (15 years old); but the median age of death for married women was 78.3 years old, 81.9 years younger than unmarried women (3.6 years old). Third: The vast majority of cervical cancer patients are married women. Fourth: the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem. You don't have this problem, you are very lucky, but there are few lucky people like you in the world. So for my own health, I choose not to get married."

Baolin felt that she was listening to Yaoyao's speech report. She could come up with these data without even opening her mouth. Moreover, she had a reason and evidence, which left her, a layman, no room for rebuttal.

Yaoyao said to herself, "As for not having children, that is even more of a losing business. First: physical health. Having children will cause double harm to women's body and physiology. Anna Pollack, an epidemiologist from George Mason University, and her team conducted an experiment to collect and analyze the DNA of nearly 2000 women of childbearing age in the United States. The results showed that having children will significantly change the aging chromosome terminals, and the chromosome terminals of women who have given birth to at least one child are 4.2% shorter than those who have not given birth. In the end, they concluded that having a child is equivalent to aging 11 years in an instant. (From the news)

Second: career prospects. In order to have a baby, I have to stop working for a long time, which will have a great impact on my future. Science is changing with each passing day, and I am engaged in research and development. If I slow down a step, I may fall behind others by a large margin.

Third: social activities. I am tired. If I am single, I can travel everywhere, but if I have a child, I have to take care of the child first. Otherwise, I will be a bad mother. "

Finally, she concluded, "I don't want to get married. I only have one problem: not getting married. But if I get married, I will be an irresponsible and bad mother. I don't know how to respect my parents-in-law, I don't know how to be considerate of my husband, I don't clean the house, I don't cook at home every day... There are too many problems. I was not very smart since I was a child, and I don't have that much energy to deal with these trivial matters."

She held Baolin's hand tightly. "If I don't get married, I can have the same rights as all men. But if I get married and have children, I will become a disadvantaged group. I have studied for so many years to get to where I am now. I don't want to give up this good situation for the sake of my children and my man. The first page of my world is all about me, and the second page is about my parents and you."

Baolin looked at Yaoyao for a long time without saying anything. She had never thought about these questions. But Yaoyao actually thought so much.

If we put aside the feelings and only consider the interests, marriage and childbearing are actually very disadvantageous to women.

Baolin sighed, "My mom said that being selfish isn't always a bad thing. As long as you don't hurt others, being a little selfish will make life easier."

Yaoyao smiled, "Yes. Mom is always very tolerant. I have only seen such an open-minded person like her since I was a child."

She felt a little disappointed. When she was a child, she didn't believe her stepmother would treat her well. Because even her biological mother didn't like her and despised her, there was no reason for her to like her. She must have some ulterior motive for being nice to her. In fact, she was narrow-minded. Some people are very kind and do things with a clear conscience. They would not deliberately spoil a child just because they are not their biological children.

In fact, when she was abroad, the values ​​there were very similar to hers. She actually really thought about not returning to China. But when she thought about her parents not recognizing her anymore, she couldn't bear to leave. She knew where her mother's bottom line was. Her mother could forgive her selfishness, her immaturity, and even her unreasonableness, but she would never allow her not to love her country. And her father would also blame himself for her choice. After countless days and nights of tossing and turning, entanglement, and hesitation, she finally couldn't bear to leave. They were the only ones in the world who selflessly devoted themselves to her without asking for anything in return. If she lost them too, she would really be left alone. So she came back.

Yaoyao never regrets her choice. "Sometimes I really admire my mother. She taught me, Youcai and Zhuzhu the same even though they are not her biological children. She is so patient with children who are not her biological children, but I may not be so patient with my own children.

From ancient times to the present, there are so many words praising maternal love, as if every woman who becomes a mother is given a high hat and must sacrifice everything for her family and children, and even loses her own name while they are still alive.

But I am the exception. I have been the most selfish since I was a child. I love myself the most. I am even afraid that another me will compete with me for attention. I am constantly exploring whether maternal love comes from instinct or is it an acquired and artificially instilled thought. "Yaoyao rubbed her eyebrows, "I have too many things to do and don't have much energy to get married and have children. Others accuse me of being selfish, but I admit it, and I will continue to move forward unswervingly."

While Baolin was still in a daze, Li Jianguo suddenly appeared from nowhere and clapped his hands. Baolin and Yaoyao both looked at him, "Uncle Li (Dad), why are you here?"

Li Jianguo pointed outside and said, "I just came here to buy something and happened to run into you guys."

Baolin was a little embarrassed. Uncle Li's excuse was not a good one. When they were leaving, Yaoyao had asked him if he wanted to go to the county town, and he said he wanted to stay at home. But now he was here, he must have been eavesdropping on purpose.

After all, he is her biological father, so Yaoyao can't expose him in public.

Li Jianguo patted Yaoyao on the shoulder and said, "If you don't want to get married, then don't get married. After all, Dad is too superficial. You just need to work hard in the future. As for the future, you are right. If you have money, you don't have to worry about no one to take care of you in your old age."

Sometimes Li Jianguo is confused when facing the inequality in rural areas. The country has already advocated gender equality, and it doesn't matter whether you have a boy or a girl, but there are still so many people who secretly give birth to boys. Even he himself sometimes consciously or unconsciously follows tradition. Xiuhua said that he follows the leadership of the party in action, but in fact he still maintains the traditional way of thinking in his heart.

He was not convinced at the time, but Xiuhua's words made him speechless, "You bought a house for Youcai, have you ever thought about buying one for Yaoyao and Zhuzhu?"

It was then that he suddenly realized that he was actually no different from the other people in the village. He was just a little bit better than them.

He didn't understand what Yaoyao was doing, but as she said, her value should not be reflected in childbearing. She wanted to work like a man. She couldn't lose her advantage. There were many people in the world who chose to follow the rules, but his daughter had a spirit of inquiry. As a father, he was proud of such a daughter.

Yaoyao hugged her father, "Thank you, Dad!"

Li Jianguo patted her shoulder and said, "You have to be fine. Dad is proud of you."

"Ok!"