Reborn in 1940 and survived until the new century

So I have to find a balance, otherwise my life will be difficult in the future.

But I also didn’t want people to talk about her behind her back, so I thought if it really didn’t work out, I’d just do it your way, so I wouldn’t have to worry about it later.”

"No, no, absolutely no, every family is different in this regard, especially the Zhao family.

Even though his eldest brother was separated from his parents at an early age, his parents have asked him to wait until they are over 60 years old to show his filial piety.

"You mean to say that his eldest brother has never been filial to his parents in all these years of marriage?"

"No, there are still necessary etiquettes, but the rest is entirely voluntary.

But Zhao Jun said that ever since his elder brother got married, his elder sister-in-law has had the final say in all matters.

I don't know the specific situation, but from what Zhao Jun said, it seems that he has some opinions about his sister-in-law."

"What about his eldest brother?"

"I don't know the details, but he told me that when we get married, we should follow his eldest brother's example so as to avoid making things difficult for his eldest brother and his wife.

As for private matters, he will arrange them when the time comes, so I don’t need to worry about them.”

"That's fine, but I don't know what I should do?"

"what to do?

I think you should have a good talk with Han Min about this matter, and don't let this little thing cause you two to have another unpleasant argument!"

"No way?"

"Of course not. Han Min's family is different from ours and my future in-laws' family. It's better to discuss it clearly than to be confused."

"Yeah, fine, I'll discuss it with her later.

You said, it would be better if the eldest brother was here, maybe he has experience?"

“It’s just the same whether you have experience or not, I tell you, this kind of thing is different in every household.

Just like Han Min's family, in my opinion, things don't need to be expensive, as long as they give enough face, even if their family is reluctant, they can't say much, right?

Moreover, the delivery had to be made when all the neighbors near their house were around, so the Han family couldn't say anything even if they had any objections.

On the other hand, it would be fine if my future husband's family only had Zhao Jun as their son.

It’s a pity that there are three brothers in their family. No matter what they do, they have to consider others, otherwise it is easy to create conflicts. "

"Yes, can you handle it?"

"If we can't handle it, don't we still have the Zhao army?

If he can't even handle this, then I'm going to seriously doubt his ability."

"That's it?

Isn't it? "

"Of course not. Look at what kind of job he does. If he can't even handle his family affairs, how can he handle things outside?"

"Don't mention it. What you said does make sense."

"That is."

Listening to what the children were talking about, I felt relieved at last; they finally knew they were going to get married.

As for the problems encountered after marriage, they are all trivial matters. As long as they can get married as soon as possible and discuss things with each other after marriage, anything will be fine.

As for respecting parents, there is really not much to say on this topic. Let them rely on their own awareness!

However, we have to hurry up and prepare everything the children will need for their wedding.

It saves the time for the two children to get married and then be together. Oh!

I was anxious before we got married, and now when I heard they had this idea, I became anxious too. I really didn’t know what to say, so I went back to the house and told the child’s father.

"This Sunday when you have time off, don't go fishing if you have nothing else to do. Come with me to the department store."

"Why do you suddenly want to go to the department store? I guess you don't need anything at home right now, right?

Didn’t we just buy some new things for our house?

Is there something missing at home, or is there something we forgot to buy?"

"That's right. We bought everything we need to eat, drink and use. Even if we don't need it right now, we still bought some of it. But there is one thing we really forgot to buy."

"what?

Why don’t I remember our family? It seems like there is something missing?”

"Why not? Have you bought the things for your child's wedding?"

“Things for a wedding?

No, are you talking about the third brother?"

"Not only is it suitable for the third child, but the second child will be there soon too!"

"No, you are..."

"What is it? It was when I passed by the second brother's room just now. I saw that the light in his room was on, so I was going to go over. But he was still there, and I heard him talking to the second brother about marriage.

I listened carefully and found out that both children were planning to get married.

I was thinking, when we have nothing to do on Sunday, we can go to the department store to have a look, or if we see something good, we can buy it in advance and keep it at home."

"Do the children know about this?"

“No?

I saw they were still talking about other things, so I came back. "

"Oh!

I think you might as well check with the children first, so that we don't have to buy something back and they think it's not suitable or they don't like it. What should we do?"

"this?"

“Children’s marriage is a major event in their lives, and they have to make the decision themselves no matter what, so let’s not talk about them making the decision.

As for going to department stores, they are all busy and may not have the time to look.

Let's go and take a look first to see what's there. We can also tell them about it in advance so that they won't be confused when we come back.

Furthermore, marrying a daughter-in-law is definitely different from marrying a daughter. Before they set a date, we should ask around to avoid making any mistakes later.

After all, we don’t have any other brothers to help us, so we should make plans early.”

"Yeah, I thought their marriage wouldn't be that difficult even if it wasn't as easy as the eldest brother's. Who would have thought there would be so many things involved?"

"That's not the case. I'm just afraid that Third Brother Yue's family will pick on me.

After all, the Han family are all from Beijing, and locals pay attention to rules, so I think you know something about it."

"Of course I know. Fortunately, the Han family's ancestors are not from a wealthy family, otherwise, there would be more rules."

"Who says it's not?

As for the Zhao family, although they are not locals, we still need to know the rules of marriage in their hometown. What if those rules are different from those in Beijing?

Or maybe they will use the wedding rules of their hometown to bully our daughter on the wedding day?

Our country is so big, and the rules vary from place to place, so it’s better to find out more about it.

To avoid my daughter making a fool of herself on her wedding day."

“That’s right, no matter whether the Zhao family will do that or not, we have to find out clearly.