Three or Two Things about Rebirth

Until the Russian song and dance troupe left, there was no news that the actor apologized to the waitress. Instead, there was news that the waitress resigned and went to Yi City to find another job.

The town is vast and sparsely populated, so there are too few new things. Half a month has passed, and people still often talk about the two singing and dancing performances, and of course they can't help but mention the waiter in the end. Their tone is full of sympathy and their faces are full of regret, as if the waiter was not kissed, but slept with.

Sister Wan was very curious and went to the reading room to ask Qiu Luming, saying that she must have first-hand information. Qiu Luming said, "I don't even have the qualifications to enter the restaurant to eat. I didn't see or hear anything."

"Oh my goodness, why didn't you ask the people in the restaurant right away?"

Naturally, this matter was discussed at the Qiu family's dinner table.

He Manshu felt that the Propaganda Department handled the matter inappropriately. She believed that the matter should not be suppressed for fear of negative impact. The more open-minded and civilized the society is, the more respect should be given to women. Those who disregard women's wishes and forcefully hug and kiss them should be punished on the spot. Not to mention being sent to the police station, they should also apologize on the spot.

At this point, she began to worry and reminded Qiu Luming, "Yoyo, you must keep a proper distance from male colleagues at work, especially when they are drunk. Don't even talk to them! Don't be ambiguous with them, and don't give people the impression that you are easy to get along with and easy to bully."

Before Qiu Luming could say anything, Qiu Jiashu laughed first, "Mom, don't you know your own daughter? It's good enough that Yoyo doesn't bully others, but it's even more impossible for her to be ambiguous. There are three men in the library, one old man, two men in their forties, and the rest are women!"

"Well, that's the best. And you, you should also be careful when dealing with female colleagues. It doesn't mean that wearing a police uniform means you will be well behaved. You should be careful before and after marriage to avoid misunderstandings from those girls who like you, and don't let Xiao Fang misunderstand you."

"As ordered!"

"Yoyo, if you can take some time off, go to Harbin with your second brother for a few days, and buy yourself some clothes."

"I won't get involved in their wedding shopping. Mom, are you worried that they will only book one room at the hotel? It doesn't matter. They are engaged and will get the marriage certificate next month. By then, it will be legal even if they only book one room!"

He Manshu glared at Qiu Luming angrily, "Forget it, I'll save money!"

"Ah? Then I'll go!" Qiu Luming smiled and spread out his palms, "Mom, give me more!"

He Manshu slapped her palm, thinking of the figure riding a bicycle with her daughter, and asked, "Are you dating someone? Is there anyone pursuing you? Girls must respect themselves and love themselves. Men are taking advantage of you and then look down on you."

"Mom!" Qiu Jiashu protested, "You can't generalize. I, your son, am not that kind of person!"

"Ask your dad, if there's no woman holding a little whip, will the man go off track?"

Qiu Jiye said seriously, "What nonsense are you talking about in front of a child?"

But after dinner, Qiu Jiye took his daughter out to digest the food. The father and daughter took a slow walk towards Taiping Village in the sunset.

"Yoyo, you are not young anymore. There are some things that I should have told you in time. Your mother is right. You should always be on guard against men. Humans have already controlled the world. Humans' natural enemy is themselves, and women's greatest natural enemy is men."

"Oh?" Qiu Luming was surprised. "Dad, if you say that, I won't dare to fall in love or get married!"

"Life is an experience. Do what you should do at each stage. If you want to get married, get married. If you don't want to, wait a while. In short, you should follow your heart and make calm choices. Your mother should have taught you these words, but your mother still doesn't understand men as well as your father. Your father is worried, so he has to tell you in person."

Qiu Luming thought his father was very funny today and laughed continuously.

Qiu Jiye also smiled helplessly, "I only told you this because you are my daughter. If it were your mother, I would not have told you this. The so-called love is actually when humans are stimulated by norepinephrine and phenylethylamine, and feel their hearts beating. Dopamine also makes you feel excited and happy, and you feel that you are in love.

But as time goes by, maybe a year, maybe a year and a half, this stimulation will gradually wear off, and the person you once loved will become boring, and all their advantages will no longer be obvious. The honeymoon period is over.

But males who like to chase excitement will inevitably want to pursue their next target. As long as a man enters society and has the opportunity to meet women other than his wife, he will subconsciously make comparisons and consciously or unconsciously speculate in his heart whether the women he meets will appreciate and love him.

This is the bad nature of men.

Whether it is for the need of reproduction, genetic diversity, or the pursuit of excitement, among the species I know, there is no absolute monogamy. Mandarin ducks do not have a fixed partner outside of the breeding season, and swans will not be faithful. If a partner dies, they will have a new mate the next year.

Humans are very similar to animals. If they are not educated or influenced by their parents, they will act according to their nature without self-discipline, let alone loyalty.

In the past 5,000 years, monogamy has only been implemented in the past 40 to 50 years. The system is the system, and human nature is human nature. Adultery and extramarital affairs are everywhere in every dynasty, and the increase in job opportunities for women has also greatly increased the proportion of extramarital affairs. In recent years, some unhealthy industries have revived, and many families have broken up because of this.

So, when you are in love, you should first look at the person's character and family, and more importantly, his self-control and moral standards.

It is impossible for a girl to keep changing her boyfriend to try different relationships, so you must think carefully before deciding to start a relationship. If you don’t understand, tell me and your mom, okay? "

Qiu Luming nodded seriously. She completely understood her father's advice. In today's Jiayang, the level of openness is not as high as in some cities during the Republic of China. If a woman's dating relationship breaks down, the engagement is broken off, or she is dumped, then people all over the county will talk about her, and she may not be able to find a good partner because of this.

Her father was worried that she wouldn't be able to handle her relationship issues well, which would damage her reputation and affect her future marriage life.

"Remember, open your eyes before marriage, and turn a blind eye after marriage."

"Dad, I will open my eyes and make sure I am right before getting married. But it is impossible for me to pretend to be ignorant and tolerate other people's shortcomings and mistakes!" Qiu Luming said in a firm tone.

"Yoyo, everyone's fate is determined at the moment of birth. There is no need to pursue details too much. Just go with the flow and find a truly comfortable state. Only then can you live well."

"Dad, why are you still superstitious and believe in fate?" Qiu Luming laughed.

"This is not superstition. The country, the times, and family are all part of one's destiny. The operation of this world has inevitable laws and rules. This is destiny." Qiu Jiye opened his mouth and sighed, "Dad is not talking about destiny, but your attitude towards destiny. We don't bow to destiny, but we don't have to worry about the arrangements of destiny."

*****

Although Qin Huifang and Han Meifen both returned to Jiayang, Qiu Luming did not have much time to meet them. Once after get off work, he ran into Han Meifen by chance. The two rode side by side along the way. Han Meifen said, "Huifang has been acting strangely lately."

"The pain from the breakup hasn't healed yet."