Turnaround Life: The Rebirth Elegy of the Wealthy Wife

When Tang Wenwan finally finished describing her predicament in the form of a dream, Selena pondered for a moment, frowned slightly, and looked at Tang Wenwan intently:

"Wendy, this dream reveals your fear of losing yourself and your feeling of powerlessness in being unable to break free. Let's try to interpret it using Freud's theory."

Selena looked at Tang Wenwan's thoughtful expression and continued:

“Freud believed that dreams are an expression of personal desires and a response to unfulfilled or conflicting emotions in real life.

In your dream, your lover's mental control may be due to some desire and fear deep in your heart. "

"Wendy, I understand that you are confused and disturbed by the plot of this dream."

Selena noticed that Tang Wenwan frowned a little in confusion and then continued gently,

“According to Freud’s theory of dream interpretation, dreams are expressions of our deepest hidden wishes, conflicts and desires.

In this dream, the possessiveness and control that your lover has over you may also reflect his desire for security and his fear of losing you.

After seeing Tang Wenwan finally show an expression of approval, Selena continued to ask,

"So, in real life, does his love also make you feel suffocated? Or does this feeling only exist in dreams?"

Tang Wenwan couldn't help but admire him secretly. The expert was indeed an expert. He grasped the key points in just a few words.

"In real life, it's not as extreme as in dreams, but the desire for control is also very obvious."

Tang Wenwan thought for a moment and said.

"For example, I actually mentioned this study abroad to him, but he disagreed and strongly requested that I stay in South City to continue my studies, so I ran away secretly."

Selena looked at Tang Wenwan quietly, and she nodded slightly to show her understanding.

She put away the notebook she had been reading and cast her gaze into Tang Wenwan's eyes.

“Wendy, your experiences and feelings reflect a common relationship dynamic. You feel a sense of importance for your own pursuits and growth, but you also face control and limitations from others.

The need to control often comes from a need to be loved, but excessive control can lead to a loss of personal freedom and independence.”

Selena's voice was gentle and professional.

“In situations like this, it’s important to be clear about your needs and boundaries.

You can try to have positive communication with him, let him know the importance of your study abroad plan to your personal development, and your desire for autonomy and freedom. "

Tang Wenwan felt Selena's support and encouragement, and her eyes became firm.

Selena smiled, glanced casually at Tang Wenwan's belly and continued.

“Proper communication and setting healthy boundaries are essential to building a good relationship.

I suggest that you try to share with him openly your ideas and plans, as well as your desires for personal development.

At the same time, it’s also about respecting his perspective and finding a balanced approach that meets the needs of both parties.”

Tang Wenwan frowned slightly again. The determination of the eagle eyes in her mind made her have no confidence to be honest with herself.

Selena also noticed her retreat and embarrassment, and continued to encourage her:

"Remember that your personal growth and pursuits are extremely important. In any relationship, it's important to maintain your independence and freedom and find balanced ways to meet each other's needs."

"Of course, whether as a mentor, a psychologist, or your friend, I respect all your choices. Just like what you said about Sophia, human growth requires a process. I believe that people who love you will definitely give you enough time, just like us."

Selena's last words made Tang Wenwan feel that the inner torment and entanglement for so long were finally redeemed. She looked at Selena with tears in her eyes, unable to speak for a long time.

Just when Selena stood up and prepared to leave to give Tang Wenwan some space to be alone, she was stopped by her choked voice.

"Selena, can we talk about Sophia some more?"

After sorting out her thoughts with the help of Selena, she felt that Sophia was facing similar problems as herself.

Selena stopped, nodded, and sat back in her examination chair, looking at her with eyes full of relief.

"It seems like you really care about her from the bottom of your heart."

She frowned slightly and tried to analyze her own poor parent-child relationship from Tang Wenwan's perspective.

"Wendy, Sophia's problem is somewhat similar to yours, but there are also some differences."

Selena paused, sighed, and said softly,

"First, we must admit that as parents, Professor LUCA and I made a big mistake in the growth of this child. We paid too much attention to our own expectations and needs and ignored the child's inner feelings."

Selena sighed deeply, her face full of self-blame.

Perhaps the atmosphere was too depressing. Selena picked up the tea in front of her, took a sip and then continued:

"The issues Sophia was facing at the time also involved her teenage identity.

This is a very sensitive and complex stage, and she may be exploring her gender identity and self-identity. Our lack of understanding and imposed interference have obviously made her predicament worse. "

When these words were finally spoken, Selena felt as if her heart was filled with endless regret and pain.

She felt very regretful. As a professional psychologist, she should have been more aware of Sophia's predicament at the time and given her more understanding and support as a mother instead of stubbornly insisting on her own opinion.

Tang Wenwan felt the pain and self-blame deep in her heart, and gently reached out and patted the back of Selena's hand.

“Selena, don’t blame yourself too much. Everything is over now. I believe what Sophia needs more now is to feel everyone’s love and understanding for her.”

Selena raised her hand to hold back the tears that had already overflowed from her eyes, took a deep breath and smiled.

“There is an old Chinese saying that goes ‘too concerned leads to confusion’. I never expected that after a lifetime of research, I would eventually fail because of my own identity anxiety.

Fortunately, you are here, Wendy. If you hadn't brought her back, we would have thought that we would never get her forgiveness in our lifetime."

Tang Wenwan shrugged awkwardly.

"Every child has an inseparable attachment to home, doesn't he?" she said with a smile.