HE with the wrong person (GL) + extra episode

That kind of feeling is indescribable, as if touching the essence of life all at once, it makes people feel awe.

"So," the grandfather continued, "every hurdle for the child is also a hurdle for the parents. You children may have an illusion that your parents are omnipotent. But this is not the case. We adults are very limited. You have to give us some time, because at our age, the first reaction to unknown new things is not curiosity, but rejection and rejection."

His speaking speed was not fast, slow, and not very sentimental, as if he was talking about topics such as "what to eat today".

Perhaps because of this, Qin Lian actually listened to all these chicken soup-like principles.

How did that song come about?

"A generation will eventually get old, but there will always be someone who is young."

Qin Lian's heart was heavy.

"The matter between you and Yuan Tao is essentially the same. Maybe you are right, but it's not wrong for the parents not to accept it immediately." Finally, the grandfather said, "Don't worry, give everyone a little time, and take your time." Come."

"There is an old saying that things go smoothly when you are in a hurry. If you are in a hurry, you will easily go into trouble. Just like when you play chess, the more you lose the game, the faster you lose. You should know what it means, right? It's 'make do with it'. You young people like to say 'I don't want to make do with it', so give yourself some leeway and don't make it look like a war every day."

"What war? It's too exaggerated, isn't it?" Qin Lian whispered.

Grandpa snorted, "Look yourself in the mirror. Does that look on your face when you said you were going to do your homework just now look like you are going to the battlefield?"

After thinking about it, Qin Lian couldn't help laughing.Come to think of it, that's pretty much it.Yuan Sui used many methods to raise her enthusiasm for studying, but she only relied on this energy to sustain it, just like a burst of energy on the battlefield, and she didn't know when it would fade away and be exhausted.

"Then what should I do? I still have to learn, right?" She couldn't help asking.Grandpa is so wise, he must have a solution.

"Of course you have to learn, but Qin Lian, are you studying for Yuan Xian?" Grandpa asked seriously.

Qin Lian was taken aback, "Of course not."

At least this is certain.

"But in my opinion, you are forcing yourself to learn just for the sake of Yuan Tao. Think to yourself, can this state last for a long time?" Grandpa said.

... In fact, there was already a problem, Qin Lian thought, but she and Yuan Tao had already found a solution.

Grandpa was right. She asked herself that the only motivation for her study now was indeed Yuan Xie.

"You may think that your parents are not well-educated, so no matter how bad your studies are, it will not affect the inheritance of the family business. But Qin Lian, times are different. Your parents caught up with the good times, so there is the one who dropped out of school. It’s a joke that people who go to college go to work for him instead of the big boss. But are there many such people? It’s rare.”

"In fact, today, the saying that studying can change one's destiny is still valid, and the threshold is even higher. It's ridiculous that most people only see 'college students walking everywhere, and they are not treated like dogs', and think that education is useless. In fact, it is just because Their academic qualifications are not advanced enough to set foot in that field. We said before that the society is developing too fast, and the experience of the predecessors is useless. At this time, the importance of education is even more prominent."

"If you don't want to be left behind by the times, even my old bones are still studying hard, let alone you?" Grandpa said with emotion, "Learning is not for anyone, just to improve your own level. This is your own life, if you entrust it to Yuan Tao and feel that you are doing it for her, problems will soon arise."

Although Qin Lian was unwilling, he had to admit that it seemed to be the case.

This kind of approach of treating the other party as all the reasons is good when the relationship is good, but if the relationship is a little weak, it will turn into resentment or even hatred, and it will breed thoughts like "If it weren't for you, I wouldn't...".

"It should be a good thing for two people to be together, learn from each other's strengths and promote each other. To put it bluntly, it's just a kind of self-moving of 'I gave a lot', if you don't get enough return It’s easy to deteriorate.” Grandpa turned his head and looked at Qin Lian, “Don’t think that you are suffering for Yuan Xie, falling in love should be a happy thing, if this relationship makes you stressed, you should consider where it came from. Problem."

Qin Lian bit her lip, feeling that part of her thoughts had been completely seen through by her grandfather.

Isn't that what she thought before.So when you are tired from studying, you will slack off and have conflicts with Yuan Xian.Afterwards, she asked for a reward, which seemed to have solved the problem, but once the reward also failed for her, the problem would appear again.

It's like a game that puts Yuan Tao and learning at both ends and weighs who is more important.

But Yuan Wei and her study should not be compared in this way.

"I see." Qin Lian took a deep breath, "Thank you grandpa, I will think about it carefully."

"Go, find your own direction, and the road ahead will be easier to walk." Grandpa said.

Qin Lian grabbed the teacup, drank the last sip of residual tea, stood up and prepared to go back to the house.