my psychologist

Sister Wu, who was in charge of follow-up education, was very caring. It was useless for me to remind people to replace all the colorful tables and chairs in the activity room with black and white ones. Some unnecessary bright decorations were also replaced with unobtrusive ones or It is a green plant.

The solemnity, which is completely opposite to the warmth and softness in the past, made me suddenly feel guilty, as if my joy and happiness in the previous moment were a kind of disrespect to the deceased friend.I subconsciously turned the ring on my ring finger, but I didn't want to take it off, but turned the red gemstone to the palm of my hand.

Fan Dongfang suddenly grabbed my hand and turned the ruby ​​back: "It's good to be sad, and you don't need to be strict with the form. Besides, Ah Cheng won't mind this, he will be more happy than we are immersed in the grief of losing him. I want to see us get along well together."

I sighed lightly, and clasped my fingers with him: "I just suddenly felt a little guilty, and felt that I shouldn't embrace happiness unscrupulously when he hasn't gone far."

Fan Dongfang held my hand tightly and said in a low voice, "If the deceased really had a soul, embracing happiness will make him leave with peace of mind rather than washing his face with tears."

I took a deep breath, swept away the sudden depression just now, and looked at Fan Dongfang with a smile: "It makes sense, we have to show him happiness."

Fan Dongfang gave me a hug, and responded in a low voice: "Yes."

This man is really, comforting me so eloquently, I don't know how much sadness and nostalgia are hidden in my heart, I took a step back, raised my hand and pushed the corner of my mouth that was not as high as usual, and changed the subject with a smile: "Hey, yes Didn't you find the feeling of secretly falling in love in the classroom after school?"

Fan Dongfang smiled: "You are a very courageous student, you don't study hard every day, you just think about how to tease the teacher."

I rolled his eyes at him, with a faint smile: "Shouldn't it be you, a teacher who is a gentle beast, who has been deliberately teasing students for years?"

We looked at each other for a moment, and we agreed to commit suicide—in this matter of teasing, neither of us is really innocent.

The sound of footsteps getting closer outside the door blocked what Fan Dongfang wanted to say, and before the half-covered classroom door was pushed open, Fan Dongfang returned to the podium in a dignified manner.

I adjusted my emotions, sat behind the first desk near the door, and flipped the sign-in book on the table to November 11th.

Meng Qinghua, who was the first to arrive, was about fifty years old, a middle school teacher in a county under the jurisdiction of Lecheng City. He greeted me when he saw me, and secretly pointed to Fan Dongfang and asked me in a low voice, "Teacher Da, new teacher?"

I nodded: "Yes."

Meng Qinghua gave me a thumbs up, signed his name on the sign-in book and sat down at the seat closest to the podium.

After Meng Qinghua took his seat, the seminar exchange group that had been silent for more than ten days suddenly became active.

【2010 Seminar】

Meng Qinghua: new teacher

Meng Qinghua: [Photo of Fan Dongfang leaning on the podium and looking down at the lecture notes]

Mao Shanni: Fan Dongfang! ! ! ! !

Ji Anna: @毛山妮姐姐姐, so you are also a fan of Teacher Fan!

Shanni Mao: Yes, yes, I like him!

Diana: Comrade, shake hands!

Shanny Mao: Shake hands

Liu Yue: I heard that Teacher Fan's class is very difficult to book. It is said that he never gives lectures to outside training institutions.

Yuan Yi: When taking Teacher Fan’s class, he said in person that it is his principle not to give lectures to training institutions. I don’t know how Da School does it, so I have to offer my knees to show respect

Mao Shanni: @里仁欪溪Thank you for the efforts of Da school

Meng Qinghua: @里仁笪溪Thanks to the school for being responsible, I know there is nothing wrong with choosing Liren

Liren Daxi: It is my duty to do my best to find the most suitable teachers for you. You don't need to thank you, just come to class on time.

In half an hour, 9 students sat in the classroom one after another, and even Xiao Yu, who couldn't accept Dongfang Sheng's death the most, stepped into the classroom when the hour hand was pointing to "[-]".

Thirty students carefully avoided red and purple colors.

I stood on the podium, and before I introduced Fan Dongfang to them, I said: "Mr. Dongfang left suddenly. I couldn't believe it like everyone here. However, the reality is so cruel that we will lose forever. We have lost our beloved teacher. Now, please stand up, let us mourn for Teacher Dongfang for 3 minutes and send him off on a long journey.”

Thirty students stood up silently and began to bow their heads in silent mourning. The classroom was so silent that there were only a few low sobs.

At the end of the 3 minutes, I glanced at the students who sat back on the chair again, and said slowly: "The dead are gone, we can remember, but we should try our best to run forward, so as to live up to our good time .”

As I said that, I walked up to Fan Dongfang: "It's a great honor that we have invited Teacher Fan Dongfang to teach us the next course. Teacher Fan, Ph.D. in Psychology, Chief Physician of Psychology Department of Lecheng Central Hospital, Founder of Dongfang Psychological Counseling Center One. Teacher Fan’s charm does not require me to use too many words to praise him, and his excellence does not require me to use too many words to repeat, so I will leave the next limited time for our future tutors ——Teacher Fan."

The applause of the thirty people was not particularly enthusiastic but very neat. Fan Dongfang stopped the applause with his hands empty, and said in his unique gentleman's tone: "Before the class started, Mr. Dongfang wrote all the lesson plans. I I will strictly follow the teaching plan of Mr. Dongfang to teach everyone. Please rest assured that I am very familiar with Mr. Dongfang’s consulting methods. Maybe my speech is not as good as Mr. Dongfang’s, but I promise that I will try my best to teach him The knowledge given to you will be taught to you on his behalf. In the process of my lecture, you can interrupt me to ask questions at any time if you have any questions. I need your unreserved communication and do not need your half-knowledge. If my ability If we can get your approval, then we will grow together in the next courses, and please take care of us at that time.”

This time, the applause was warmer than before. Fan Dongfangxu pressed the button twice to stop the applause: "In the previous class, Mr. Dongfang has discussed the theory and application of psychoanalysis with you. Starting today, I will use During the three courses, I will discuss with you the principles and applications of cognitive therapy."

"All cognitive therapies, whether it is Ellis' Rational Emotive Therapy or Baker's Cognitive Therapy, combine the principles and methods of rational emotion and behavioral therapy." Fan Dongfang turned around and wrote "rational emotion" on the blackboard and the words "behaviourism", then pointed to these words and said, "In a nutshell, the former is just to understand the emotions, and the latter is to get rid of the emotions. There are several characteristics of cognitive therapy, First, the therapist and client are collaborative, and second..."

I sat down and took notes to my liking.

During the recess in the afternoon, he was surrounded by seven or eight students asking questions. I filled the cup with warm water for him. When I handed out the cup, Ji Anna gave me a smile and withdrew from the crowd. Pointing to my left hand, he whispered, "School Da, the ring is so pretty!"

I squinted at her and chuckled, "Of course, the engagement ring."

Ji Anna added: "During class, I found that Teacher Fan also has a ring on his hand, which is very similar to the other hand in your circle of friends."

I gave him a thumbs up: "You can see through the fire."

"No wonder Teacher Fan made an exception to give lectures to Li Ren!" Ji Anna looked surprised and didn't seem to be hiding it. After she was surprised, she said with a smile, "I thought you were having an affair with Mr. Ling. After all, Mr. Ling is right. You... tsk!"

I'm not bad at her perceptiveness, and I saw that she tried her best to hide her excessive concern for the relationship between Ling Yu and me. After I secretly turned on the recording on my mobile phone, I asked Ji Anna with great interest: "What do you mean? Are you talking about Ling Yu with us?" Always familiar?"

Ji Anna gave a dry cough and said, "I don't know him very well, but we've known each other since we were young."

Inexplicably, I thought of the green plum in Ling Yu's legend. I touched my chin and thought for a moment, then smiled and said, "I say yes. If I knew each other well, I would definitely not think of us as a group. That guy can change his girlfriend at a faster rate than me. Changing clothes is still diligent, no matter what, he won't think of him as gay."

Ji Anna's expression turned ugly for a moment, and then she smiled and explained: "It's because he cares about you."

"He's my temporary guardian, can he not care about it?" After finishing speaking, I joked with Ji Anna, "I guess if you let Boss Ling know that you always thought he was gay, he will cry to death!"

Ji Anna smiled: "He is crying? The picture is a bit beautiful, I can't imagine it!"

When she said this, I made up the picture of Ling Yu's babbling: "Let him continue to be a real man!"

"Don't be like this, you can't deprive a strong man of the right to cry." Ji Anna laughed a little louder, which attracted the attention of the podium. I looked at Fan Dongfang who was looking at me, and walked away from Ji Anna She took a step in the direction of her, and said to Ji Anna: "Boss Ling is in the office, do you want him to cry?"

Ji Anna shook her head and refused: "Forget it, I see him nervous."

I smiled and said, "Maybe he's more nervous than you."

Ji Anna blushed instantly, and pointed in the direction of the podium: "I still have questions to ask Teacher Fan, so I won't chat with you for now."

After Ji Anna squeezed into the crowd, I sent the recording to Ling Yu, and then sent a sentence: "As a brother, there is only so much I can help."

Three minutes later, Ling Yu's phone call came, and I directly pressed the reject button.

Later, Ling Yu sent me a message on WeChat: "Fuck|Your uncle!"

I suppressed a smile and replied to him: "I don't have an uncle, thank you." After replying, I put the phone on silent and put it in my pocket.

After talking about the theory for half a day, in the remaining one hour class, Fan Dongfang talked about two cases, about two of his visitors. Of course, he used a pseudonym when speaking. After the lecture, he said: " When I tell you these two cases, it is not that I did not abide by the confidentiality regulations and disclosed the privacy of the visitors without authorization. When I decided to come to teach you, I had obtained the consent of the two visitors and used a pseudonym."

"Believe me, after my artistic processing, even if you all have Sherlock Holmes upper body, it is impossible to guess their true identities." Fan Dongfang closed the handout, "Okay, today's lesson is here, and you must seriously review today when you go back. What you have learned, it is best to simulate in your mind how you should use cognitive therapy to consult your clients when you are a consultant, so as not to be the most clumsy one in the next group practice."

"There is no reward for being the last one, but I will suggest that the school reward the best one." Fan Dongfang wrote "Basic and Application of Cognitive Therapy" on the blackboard, but wrote "reward" next to it Two words, patted the chalk dust on his hands, and said with a smile, "See you in two weeks."

Of the thirty students, none of them rushed out, and almost all surrounded the podium.

I seem to have seen the scene when I followed him to T University for the first time to give a lecture for the first time. I leaned against the wall with my mobile phone and took a photo of Fan Dongfang, who was surrounded like stars holding the moon, and sent it to my friends. lock up.

Da da da: Tianxiu. 【photo】

After a full 10 minutes, the students surrounding Fan Dongfang gradually dispersed.

I squinted at Ling Yu, who was already smoking three cigarettes outside the door, and greeted the podium: "Okay, Teacher Fan has something to do in a while, so let's stop here today. If you have any questions, you can ask them in the next class." , You can also circle Teacher Fan in the group, I have already pulled Teacher Fan into the group."

Mao Shanni said: "Then let's take Teacher Fan to the parking lot!"

Ji Anna also echoed, "It happens that I can ask Teacher Fan two more questions on the way."

With a smile on my face, I glanced at Ji Anna, didn't refuse, and followed them out. Sure enough, as I expected, Ji Anna was forcibly dragged away by Ling Yu who was guarding the door as soon as she left the classroom.

I really wanted to go to the office to see the excitement, but after taking a look at the students who were wandering around Fan Dongfang, I followed them downstairs—it's not as important as watching the excitement than a man who is optimistic about himself!