Cohabitation before marriage

6.

The waiter handed over the menu, Wei Nanlin said "thank you", opened the menu and pushed it towards me first.

"Look at what you like, order casually, I'll treat you."

"That's so embarrassing, it's still AA."

Wei Nanlin: "That's not the case. I treat you to dinner, and you treat me to a movie."

I smiled and snapped my fingers, "OK!"

In fact, before I met Wei Nanlin, I had a blind date once. He was a distant cousin of a colleague’s friend. He worked in a private company and worked part-time as a game anchor.

Xiao Zhang loves online games and spends almost all his spare time on online games.

I can understand this point, men, how many of them never play games?I think I can play with him when I am free.

Xiao Zhang spent a lot of money to buy equipment. He is the boss of the gang, and he often posts news on the public screen. A big speaker costs 100 yuan. What kind of family conditions does this have to be so luxurious!

Games are just for me to pass the time. It hurts me to see him throwing money like this, but I also know that I can't use my own economic level to measure other people's living standards. Maybe the money is nothing to him.

It wasn't my money anyway.

After chatting with him for a month, I thought he was very humorous, so I agreed to the invitation.

Xiao Zhang was looking for a high-end restaurant, the kind where a small drink costs [-] or [-] yuan. I didn't know it when I walked in, but I felt a little nervous when I opened the menu.

My monthly salary is more than 6000. After deducting various fixed expenses such as telephone bills, fuel expenses, and food expenses, there is only half of it left.With the mentality of saving a little, I ordered two cheaper dishes. He has a big appetite and ordered eight in one go.

My heart is bleeding.

It’s like this, usually when I go out to parties with my colleagues and friends, it’s basically AA, everyone has a tacit understanding, and there will be a degree in mind when ordering.

The food is so expensive, it's really embarrassing for Xiao Zhang to bear it alone.

Ever since, I proposed the AA system at the checkout.

My dad always said that suffering is a blessing.

However, he said confidently: "Money is a bit tight recently, please treat me this time, and I will treat you next time."

It really gave me a lot of insight.

I don't understand why he knew in advance that he had no money and insisted on going to such a high-end restaurant to order such expensive dishes.

Is all my money blown by the wind or something?

Buy equipment and have money to eat but have no money?Why not just eat on the game?

Of course, I couldn't swear these words out.

That meal cost me the pocket money I had saved for a long time, and I had to postpone changing the laptop.

I regretted it as soon as I got home, why should I pay so much for him!Why don't you just leave after paying your own half!Whether he stays to mop the floor or wash the dishes!

That's how people are. Only when they calm down can they think of a more relieved solution. Unfortunately, there is no way to travel back.

In the repeated blows of life, I finally realized some truths and learned to look at people.If the values ​​​​do not match, even if you chat happily on WeChat, it is not suitable to live together.

Xiao Zhang later said that he would take me to an Internet cafe and teach me how to play games, but I had completely lost interest, so I directly refused to be blocked. Only by cutting the mess quickly can I avoid many unnecessary troubles.

In contrast, Wei Nanlin's words and some small details make people feel decent and comfortable, at least he is a well-educated person who knows how to live.

7.

When ordering, Wei Nanlin said that it is not easy to eat too much for dinner. The two of us ordered two main dishes, two dishes and one soup, plus a small vegetable and fruit salad.

One hundred yuan per person is not particularly expensive.

While waiting for the food to be served, the awkward atmosphere spread again.

"By the way, which hospital did you work in?" I asked.

"Nancheng Hospital."

This hospital is quite close to our company. It is said that it is a private hospital with very expensive fees. The registration and consultation fees are several hundred, and the people who go in to see a doctor are also rich people.

Wei Nanlin confirmed this statement.

"Compared with public hospitals, it is more expensive, but the quality of service is definitely different. Rich people may be busy and have no time to queue up to get a number. If they need more detailed consultation, they will choose our hospital. The outpatient consultation of public hospitals is average. It's all between five and 10 minutes, we don't have too many restrictions here."

"You get what you pay for," I concluded.

Wei Nanlin smiled: "You can also understand it that way."

I asked curiously, "Which department are you in? What are you looking for?"

"Psychological counseling department."

"Wow—" I clapped my hands in surprise, "Then you are a psychiatrist! What a cool profession!"

I usually like to watch American dramas. In many criminal investigation films, psychologists can judge whether a person is telling a lie or not by the subtle changes in his face.

Very cool.

The image of Wei Nanlin in my mind gradually became more and more glorious.

Dr. Wei explained with a smile: "It's not that exaggerated. We usually pass a set of test questions to judge whether the consultant has a psychological disorder, and then do some psychological counseling. The patient is not a criminal, and we all go to the hospital in a relatively relaxed state. Greet them, feel their emotions."

"Oh—so, what kind of patients are they usually?"

"A lot." Wei Nanlin snapped his fingers, "Depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, post-traumatic stress disorder, neurasthenia, hysteria, etc..."

"You said that most of the people who come to you for consultation are rich people, but they are all so rich, why do they still have troubles!?"

Wei Nanlin thought for a while: "Let me tell you this, you can imagine love, friendship, family affection, and work as four coins. What do you think is the probability that all of these will come up heads if you toss them?"

With such an explanation, I suddenly realized.

"And people are full of associative abilities, and they will automatically generate various imaginations about things that haven't happened. Sometimes things that haven't happened, they have already thought of the worst ending. The simplest example is that after entering a haunted house, the brain It will run crazily, afraid that a mummy will suddenly jump out, afraid that the zombie in the coffin will suddenly stand up... and the direct consequence of those imaginations is fear. The same is true in reality, those complex imaginations will cause headaches and anxiety, serious It creates depression.”

Every day in a person's life is like tossing a coin. Today's unsatisfactory, tomorrow's unsatisfactory, sudden changes will make people sentimental and anxious.

No one can control the emotions of the people around him, nor can he accurately predict what tomorrow will be like.

The more hard-won something, the more afraid of losing it, and the ensuing troubles will increase.

The poor have the troubles of the poor, and the rich have the worries of the rich.

In fact, it can be summed up in two words - desire.

Wei Nanlin said with a smile: "Then today's small exclusive knowledge class is over here. I am very glad that the students in the early stage participated seriously. Remember to review it after class. I will check randomly next time."

I clasped my fists together: "Thank you, Teacher Wei, for teaching me, it's really enlightening and I have benefited a lot."

Wei Nanlin: "If you have any questions in the future that you can't figure out, you can also consult me." He quickly added, "There is no charge."

I suddenly felt like I saved a lot of money!

"Then you usually communicate with people with depression, do you feel a little depressed too?"

Wei Nanlin looked serious: "Actually, we have a special conference room. Every night half an hour before get off work, a psychiatrist will come to enlighten us. Everyone has to hug and cry before going home."

I was shocked: "Really? It's hard for me to imagine what it's like to cry!"

"Fake." Wei Nanlin said, "You are so easy to deceive."

"..."

mom!

This doctor is not serious at all!

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