pastoral days

It is said that it is an engagement, but in fact, both families have a plan in their hearts.Just call relatives and friends from both sides.Go through the process.

Speaking of which, Song Chaoyang's engagement and Zhang Ruihua's marriage proposal are still somewhat different.For a while, Song Chaoyang made up for the ancient customs.I can't help feeling that marriage in ancient times was not easy, but he is willing to do so.

In modern times, basically fall in love, get engaged and get married, and then it's over.In ancient times, it was a sad tear.Thanks to his guy here.

The ancient traditional wedding customs pay attention to the "six rituals". The so-called six rituals refer to accepting the color, asking the name, accepting the blessing, accepting the sign, asking for a date, and welcoming in person.

Nacai means choosing a match and proposing a marriage.That is, as the saying goes, "talking about matchmaking".This is the stepping stone to propose marriage.

Asking the name is the so-called "discussing the eight characters".According to the year, month, day, and hour of the two people's birth, Mr. Yin and Yang should be asked to calculate.Only when the horoscopes of the two parties match, can they be engaged.However, Song Chaoyang thought this was very unreliable, and as a modern person, he still scoffed at this theory.However, judging from what he inquired about, it seemed that no one was stuck in this level.Of course, asking names also includes inquiring about the character and appearance of both parties.

Najib, referring to marriage proposal.Generally speaking, if the horoscopes of the two parties match, and the auspicious omen is obtained, it is considered that the marriage can be established.The man told this fact to his in-laws, calling him Najib.

Nazheng is what is called "betrothal gift" today. "Zheng" means success.After giving the dowry.Even if this marriage is established.Of course, the dowry gift expresses the compensation for marrying a relative. After all, after getting married, you can only go home often.The most important thing is that the bride price expresses the attitude and sincerity of marrying one party.So this is the most important hurdle.

Asking for a date refers to choosing the date of marriage, and the two families determine the date of marriage through negotiation, which is what the saying goes, "giving a date".The date of marriage needs to be agreed by the woman's family, so it is called "invitation period".

Welcome, refers to get married.The man married his significant other, and from then on they supported each other until they grew old.

In fact, this process is basic, and there is still some room for manipulation in its implementation.

For example, as the big brother among the friends - Zhang Ruihua.Seventeen this year, you must know that people in ancient times were generally able to get married at the age of 15.

Due to Zhang Ruihua's various evasions, he didn't even have an engagement partner when he was 17 years old.Mrs. Zhang has finally come to an end this time.

And because the homes of Zhang Ruihua and Mo Xuelian are relatively far apart, the last time they went to Moli Mountain Villa, they completed five of the six rituals in one step (who made Zhang Ruihua a bit "old"), and waited directly for Mo Xuelian and Ji (15 years old) and bring his daughter-in-law home.

Song Chaoyang, as Zhang Ruiwen's "childhood sweetheart", is just 16 years old, while Zhang Ruiwen is only 14 years old. Without external factors, their marriage is not in a hurry.

But the two also need to book their marriage in advance.Since the two children are happy with each other, and both families are very satisfied, they should quickly settle the marriage.Otherwise, the two families would have to deal with other matchmakers.

So after the Song family and the Zhang family had made sufficient preparations, they began to carry out the six ceremonies - Nacai.

Song Gang invited the most famous matchmaker in the county to the Zhang family to propose marriage.Although the matchmaker felt that the status and status of the two families were very different, Song Gang couldn't refuse the too many thank-you gifts, so he went anyway.

And before he started bragging about the Song family, the Zhang family...husband...had...already...agreed...!After coming out with a generous reward, he didn't even know what happened.

I just remember that when I came out, I met the shy Young Master Zhang.Well, he blamed Song Gang for not explaining it clearly to him.

Now that the two families have agreed, he is going through the motions.Why didn't he say it earlier, it caused him to think about the advantages of the Song family all night last night (he thought that although he had little hope, he still had professional qualities. He didn't expect to succeed, and he also won a generous bounty. What a shame! windfall).

The next thing is - ask the name.Song Lai personally went to the most popular monastery in the county to ask the "Master" this question. Of course, Song Chaoyang and Zhang Ruiwen were a match made in heaven.

Although Song Chaoyang felt that the horoscope was ridiculous, but seeing his father so happy, he couldn't say anything to spoil the fun.Forget it, do as the Romans do.

The third step is Najib.Song Lai personally went to Mrs. Zhang and told Mrs. Zhang the results of the two people's horoscopes.He focused on the matter of the master's match made in heaven for the two of them to get married.There is no doubt that Mrs. Zhang is also happy in various ways.

Finally arrived at the most important step - Na Zheng.

On this day, Song Gang brought his stupid brat who was already so happy and some important figures of the Song family to the Zhang family, such as Song Gang's brothers.Of course strong labor is indispensable, so many colorful gifts, so Song Hai, Song Feng and others also carried big red boxes and followed behind.

After several months of preparation, although the Song family's background was insufficient, the dowry caused a sensation in the county.

The onlookers were slapped in the face anyway. Everyone heard that the Zhang family married their favored youngest son to a countryman, and they all had the mentality of watching the excitement.They kept saying that Song Chaoyang's leprosy ate swan meat.But looking at the betrothal gift of the Song family, it seems that they understand it wrong!This is the home of a big landlord, what kind of mud legs are there.

The list of gifts was written by Song Chaoyang. As the most educated member of the Song family, Song Chaoyang must have done his part.There are: the details of employment payment, decoration gold and gifts.

The Song family first prepared twelve Chunsheng boxes (now called mahogany boxes) according to the custom.

(Twelve gifts) Contents:

1. Big cakes - it is to thank the elders of the married party for their kindness in nurturing, and it is used to distribute to relatives and friends to express that someone in the family will get married.

2. Hezai biscuits—that is, gift biscuits, mainly for a good omen.

3. Rice Fragrant Cake—meaning that eating the cake given by the man is equivalent to marrying a good husband.

4. A pair of incense sticks, guns, and candles——boneless toe greens for incense sticks, and big firecrackers for guns.As for the ritual candles, the paired dragon and phoenix candles are used as a metaphor to worship the gods and pray for peace and happiness.

5. Glutinous rice, Tangzai Road, Fuyuan (dried longan)—glutinous rice and sugar are used to make glutinous rice balls, and Fuyuan (dried longan) represents the man’s eyes. From then on, look into the eyes of the man and make him fall in love with only one person after marriage. Of course, it is more about consummation, more children, more grandchildren, more prosperity

6. Dowry money - it is a precious thing given by the man. The Song family prepared 200 taels.Although it is the meat of a fly to the Zhang family, it is a considerable fortune to the Song family.

Gold ornaments——The Song family looked for a golden Ruyi for Zhang Ruiwen, implying harmony and beauty for the new couple, and everything goes well.

Clothing - Cloth, satin, ready-to-wear...etc.

7. Four-color candies—winter melon candy, orange candy, rock candy and golden jujube, which symbolize the sweetness of the new couple and their long-term happiness together.

8. Wine—Two dozen good wines are used to worship ancestors, and it also symbolizes safety and success in the 24 solar terms throughout the year.

9. Noodle thread—bless the newlyweds to grow old together, have a happy marriage, and at the same time have the meaning of prolonging life and lasting blessings.

10. Capon or duck mother (cooked ones can be used)-indicates that the marriage will last forever and be peaceful.

11. Pig - Whole pig, half pig or a leg of pork will do, and the pork will be cut open at the end and given to relatives and friends attending the engagement ceremony.

12. Others—such as happy flowers (worn by elders, which vary according to different generations) gifts and so on.

For the sake of joy and auspiciousness, the gifts brought are all in even numbers, depending on the situation.Of course, if you bring more, you will be called rich and generous; if you bring less, you will naturally be regarded as poor and stingy.The Song family is not a stingy family. Besides, the three members of Song Chaoyang's family are 1 satisfied with the newcomers who are going to enter the door. Of course, they have done everything to perfection.Master Zhang and Mrs. Zhang were quite satisfied when they saw the items on the gift list.

The married party will give the man a pair of "stable heels" and a belt, implying that this marriage will firmly tie the two parties together.The engagement ceremony is generally very simple. Under the auspices of a matchmaker, parents and some relatives of both parties participate in the engagement.Everyone drinks and drinks together, eats, chats, recognizes relatives, and the engagement ceremony is over.

Well, while everyone was toasting to each other during the meal, Song Chaoyang went out when he found some free time. He hadn't seen Zhang Ruiwen for a long time, so...fucking thought.On such a good day, everyone turned their eyes and closed their eyes, but Mr. Zhang gave Zhang Ruihua a wink and told him to pay attention. After all, there are so many people today, it would be bad to make a joke.

For the sake of his brothers (in fact, he was threatened by his own brother), Zhang Ruihua was going to give them some time to chat, and watched from afar.

Song Zhaoyang touched the things in his arms, feeling relieved.He and Xiaowen agreed that on Nazheng's day, he would give the other party a gift (a token of love).He has been waiting for a long time.

Arriving at the appointed place with ease and familiarity, yes, for the sake of commemoration, they chose the spot where Zhang Ruiwen drilled the dog hole, and the brain circuit was also clear.

"Brother Song" Zhang Ruiwen was standing in the corner waiting. He was a little anxious on such a special day, but of course he was more excited.Seeing Song Chaoyang approaching, he immediately shouted sweetly.

"Xiaowen" Song Zhaoyang, a person who never knew what a face was, was actually a little twitchy today.He just suppressed the ecstasy in his heart and said.

The two hadn't seen each other for many days, and after meeting, they were satisfied just calling each other's name, and then their eyes were fixed on each other's body.

"Brother Song, let me tell you", "Xiaowen, look at this" The two of them spoke at the same time, fortunately no one was present, otherwise they would be drowned by the surrounding pink bubbles.

"Brother Song, what do you want me to see?" Zhang Ruiwen asked curiously.

"Stretch out your hand..." Song Chaoyang looked at the lovely Zhang Ruiwen in a turbulent mood. Thinking about how Xiaowen is still a minor in modern times, he already suspects that he has hidden animal attributes (is there any doubt?).

"It's similar to the gold ring you gave me last time." Zhang Ruiwen's eyes sparkled as he looked at the shiny new ring on his hand.The difference between this ring and the last one is that there is a shiny thing in the middle, which is perfectly embedded in the silver collar.Ambilight, beautiful.

"This is the diamond I asked someone to find. It will always be so bright, which symbolizes that our love will always be passed on." Song Zhaoyang rarely said such words, and he didn't feel like him anymore.In fact, after knowing that he was going to marry Zhang Ruiwen, he secretly prepared it. In modern times, he always wanted to buy a diamond ring for his lover, but there was no suitable person.Now that he finally has the chance, he certainly wants to give better things to the one he loves.

He entrusted many friends (mainly traveling friends) to find this diamond for a long time. Of course, the things sent back by friends are all kinds of strange things. Fortunately, there is a real diamond, and it is not small, it seems to be 5 carats.It took a lot of experience to find a craftsman to make the ring. Fortunately, I finally brought it to him on this day.

"Brother Song, this is from me." Zhang Ruiwen generously took out his carefully prepared gift.It looked like a purse, and before Song Zhaoyang looked carefully, all kinds of compliments began to brew in his mind (the birth of a husband slave).

I saw a pair of exquisite mandarin ducks on the purse, with exquisite craftsmanship. From the small details of the stitches, it can be seen that it was made by Zhang Ruiwen.

"Xiaowen, your craftsmanship is getting better and better." Song Zhaoyang carefully touched the texture of the purse, feeling Zhang Ruiwen's deep love, hey, there seems to be something inside.

It is a delicate jadeite Pixiu pendant with icy texture.Clusters of green flowers bloom on it, fresh and elegant.Bright and beautiful, finely crafted, with clear lines, Pixiu's eyes, teeth, tongue and strong feet are all clearly distinguishable, and Pixiu looks domineering.He turned his head to one side, raised his head and stuck out his tongue, as if he was about to fly into the sky.It exudes a kind of shocking power.There is an elegant Ruyi on the back, and there are copper coins under the feet, which means gathering and keeping wealth.The material is generous, the aura is strong, and the upper body is powerful when worn.It attracts attention and is delicate and comfortable to the touch, which makes people love it.

Sure enough, Zhang Xiaoye produced it with pride.

"Xiaowen, I like this pendant very much." Song Chaoyang looked at Zhang Ruiwen dotingly.

"Brother Song's gift is not bad either," Zhang Ruiwen said with a blushing face.Compared to Big Brother Song's hard work, he chose this gift under his father's guidance. One word - expensive.But as long as Brother Song likes it.

"Xiaowen, my family will rebuild the house in the spring of next year. Do you have any suggestions? After all, it will be our future home. You still want to live in the county town, but if you live in the county town, the house we bought may not be as good as Zhang's house. Great" Song Chaoyang asked gently.

"I want to live in the village. There are mountains and rivers in the village. I like it. It's not far from the county town. It's good if we come back often in the future." Mr. Zhang doesn't know what it means to be shy, anyway, he has reached this point , he came casually.

"Then what kind of layout does Xiaowen like..." Song Chaoyang is a pragmatic person, and now he is going to plan the nest for the two of them.However, the current conditions are still a little bit unallowable.

Not far away is Zhang Ruihua who is "monitoring" the two of them (in fact, he is letting the air go, thinking about the eldest brother of the Mo family, looking at himself, feeling desolate in his heart).Seeing that the two had been chatting, the atmosphere seemed difficult to interrupt, and when there was nothing to wait, they waited again.Until the boy came to him, it seemed that his father let them go back.He just interrupted their date.

"cough……."

"Chaoyang, Chaoyang, let's go!!!"

"........."

Well, kindness didn't pay off, and I was despised by the two of them.