In the name of love

Placed here, do you know? "

Both Ji Lan and Yulu raised their heads.Ji Lan nodded, "Well, there is indeed such an item in the resettlement grounds of juvenile law, but I am not familiar with juvenile law, and there are very few lawyers in this area in China."

"Normal children would not think of coming here. The children who come here are either violent elements at home, who were fed three meals a day since they were young, or who were caught in prostitution outside. The state can't stop him from continuing to prostitute Give him a home, so I sent him here out of sight."

As Huai Yu spoke, he and Ji Lan looked at the children who were smiling innocently like ordinary children.

"For the children here, being sexually assaulted is commonplace. Several children had their first experience when they were eleven or twelve years old. Some were indeed raped, but many were voluntary. Their environment conditioned them to do that."

Ji Lan seemed to interrupt to say something, but Huaiyu looked at the little girl running past him, and continued.

"And whether it's child sexual assault or obscenity... From my experience with those children, many children don't feel that adults are doing something wrong to them. It's nothing like that kind of violence, many The way adults sexually abuse children is really just fondling, touching breasts, pussy, or playing with little boys' balls."

Huai Yu said with experience: "Children mostly feel confused and puzzled. They don't know the meaning of this incident. They may also have a little fear. But if you want to talk about the fear of sex, everyone will have it. Even for adult virgins, the first night is usually accompanied by fear."

At this time, there were two boys running across the hall, and Yuli saw the boy running in front grabbing his pants and yelling at the one behind: "Don't grab my dick, fuck it!" The boy behind yelled : "Who told you to kick my ass, I will crush your balls!"

What an innocent world... Yulu sat on a chair and thought.Chasing things on the beach is out of date.

Huai Yu and Ji Lan didn't seem to notice these little episodes, they talked intently.

"It's often the adult reaction that really makes a child feel distressed."

Huai Yu continued to speak.

"It's like the shock of the parents when they found out about it, shouting: 'My God, how can this happen!' etc. You know, a child is like a person looking in a mirror, and an adult is his mirror, They know everything about themselves based on the adult's reaction, and the adult's excitement, pain, discomfort and self-blame will all be fed back to the child. The child will think that this may be his fault, and that he should be with the adult. They have the same reaction."

"But the child will grow up." Ji Lan finally spoke, and Yulu looked at his dark eyes under the lens, "When the child grows up, he will recall these things, and he himself will feel pain."

"But is what the child recalled really the real situation at that time?"

Huai Yu quickly refuted.

"The memory before the age of 12 is inherently unstable, and the memory itself is easy to be tampered with. Retelling after the event and time passing will cause the memory to differ from reality. What really makes those children suffer is the real memory at the time of the incident. We have no way of knowing whether it is a memory modified after adding other people's reactions afterwards."

Seeing Ji Lan open her lips, Yulu felt a little excited in the depths of her eyes.

"Then Mr. Huai thinks that what happened to the child itself will not cast a shadow on the child at all?"

"I dare not say that." Huai Yu emphasized, "But I can say with certainty that the adult's reaction after the incident will hurt the child no less than the incident itself."

"The child may not feel pain at the moment."

Seeing that Ji Lan stood up slightly, and stared directly at Huaiyu under the lens, Yulu was a little surprised. Ji Lan seldom argues with others, and the only place where he argues with others is in court. Knowing him now, it is rare to see him quarreling with anyone in private.He heard the hidden excitement in Ji Lan's slightly astringent voice.

"That's because he hasn't been socialized yet, but he will inevitably have to be socialized when he grows up. He will learn adult values ​​and know what is right and what is wrong step by step. He will gradually know that What a horrible thing a man has done to him, it doesn't matter to anyone else, the child will be a man himself."

Huai Yu didn't seem to hear the strangeness in Ji Lan's voice, he spread his hands.

"But who gives children their values? They are also adults. As you said, socialization. The first stop of socialization is the children's closest family members."

Huai Yu snorted, "Don't you think it's strange? The children obviously did nothing wrong in this matter, but in the end it was the children themselves who suffered the most. Why? Because some people told these children that sex is filthy, Sex can only be done by people who like themselves, and other than that, the pleasure you get from others is not forgiven.

"Like being gay, many adults think being gay is wrong and that men should start families with women. It's these ideas that make kids think it's wrong for men to have sex with men, to be played with dick by strange uncles It’s wrong, in the end, it’s not the event itself that really tortured them, but the values ​​that people give to this event!”

"That's because you've never experienced it."

Ji Lan's voice was so deep that he couldn't hear the scale, and this time even Huaiyu could hear the clues.

"You've never experienced those things, you don't know what it's like to have the most intimate part of your body being played with by a stranger."

"I know that feeling, and most of the perpetrators of child sexual abuse are not strangers, you should be very clear about this." Huaiyu said.

"That person is the first object that the child experiences in his life." Ji Lan's voice trembled, "That is completely different from the adult's indulgence, it is his first step in understanding sex, and all his subsequent sex-related His behavior will remind him of this matter, and he will be affected all his life, and he will be trapped in this cage of memories all his life."

"But you can't deny that even if the object is eleven or twelve-year-old children, it may be out of love for them. Do you know the play "HowILearntoDrive"?"

"I know."

Huai Yu showed a surprised expression, "You know? You really deserve to be a novelist. I thought it would be difficult for the world to accept such a play."

"I have a younger brother who is studying drama. When he ran away from home and went to art university, I did a little research on what he likes."

Ji Lan said lightly: "But I don't agree with the connotation it wants to express. If the little girl had the right to choose at the beginning, she would never choose this type of relationship that started with a crime."

"That's because society can't approve of this kind of love. They are destined to be criminals when they fall in love, but you can't deny that this is also a type of love. In some ways it is very similar to homosexuality, or incest. Homosexuality has historically It was considered a crime for a long time, and incest is still a crime today. But people have sympathy for homosexuality, sympathy for a cousin in love with a cousin, but no one will sympathize with a man who is in love with a ten-year-old girl."

"That's not love." Ji Lan decisively interrupted Huai Yu's words: "That's hurt in the name of love."

"Ji Lan."

Yulu called him, and Ji Lan had already stood up completely, almost forcing herself in front of Huaiyu.Yulu saw that his hands were clenched tightly into fists, so tight that his hands trembled.Huai Yu looked at Ji Lan in surprise.

Yulu patted him on the back, putting the weight on his shoulders.Ji Lan seemed to wake up from a start. He looked back at Yulu with a dazed look in his eyes. After a long while, he slowly sat down on the horizontal chair.

"Sorry." Ji Lan quickly resumed his social attitude, bowed his head to Huai Yu, "I argued too much."

Huai Yu looked at Ji Lan with a playful look, he stroked his chin with his hand, and it took him a while to straighten up.

"No, very interesting discussion, made me rethink a lot of things."

Huai Yu clasped his fingers, and smiled again after a while, "Besides, seeing a handsome man like you get angry, even if you get punched in the end, it's worth it."

A little girl ran out from the living room and threw herself into Huaiyu's arms with a plop. Yulu saw her delicate features. Although she was a little skinny for a girl of her age, she was considered a beauty. It would be great if the gender was changed. up.

"Big brother, when are you coming to play puzzles with us?"

The little girl raised her face and asked, Huaiyu patted the girl's head, turned her into her arms, and the girl smiled shyly.

"Big brother is chatting with someone, go after the chat."

Huai Yu comforted her, raised her head and looked at Ji Lan again.

"This child is one of the children I just mentioned. The murderer is the uncle who lives next door to his house. The child was only six years old when the incident happened, and he was not discovered until he was nine years old."

Both Yulu and Ji Lan showed surprised expressions. The girl was restless in Huaiyu's arms, as if she didn't understand what the adults were talking about, and she just kept waiting for Huaiyu to fulfill her promise to play puzzles with him.Surrounded by Huai Yu's intimate embrace, the girl's expression was normal, and she didn't show any particular resistance.

He found that Ji Lan was also staring at the child deeply, his eyes seemed to be pity, but also seemed to confirm something, it was so complicated that Yulu couldn't read it clearly.

"Do you know why I came to this place to be a volunteer?"

The girl got impatient after waiting for a while, and ran off to join her playmates' housekeeping game like an ordinary nine-year-old child.Huai language