The restart of wealth-gathering life

In fact, the most unsuitable person to talk about this kind of problem is the elder sister.

You know that your younger brother is having a hard time, but you can talk to your younger brother and complain about all kinds of things about your younger brother-in-law and her natal family, can't you?

cannot!This is called adding fuel to the fire!

You just don't agree with it in your heart, but you have to suppress this fire!What else?

divorce?

The child is only a little old, and there is no problem between the couple.The old man's family is like that, if his family follows tit-for-tat, and they have to break up something, then it's over, and this small family will be demolished by the two families.

Therefore, the matter is that matter, and there is no rush to deal with it.

Chunzi was left here for dinner at night, Xiaobei called Chunzi to go back to cook, Chunzi's expression was on the verge of anger, Lin Yutong hurriedly said: "Xiaobei, your brother-in-law has something to ask Chunzi to help Deal with it. If you are in a hurry, call Chunzi back first..."

That can't!

"No hurry! No hurry! Sister, you can tell him to do it. There is nothing urgent on my side."

After saying a few more words, I hung up the phone.

During the meal, Lin Yutong brought out a few cans of beer, and the fourth master was telling Chunzi about this: "Your sister's suggestion to you, the first one, is to ask you to change places to work during the day, which is to reduce the time at home. You Spend more time here, whether it is adding more or other things, extend your working hours... Wait until it is almost late before going back. There is less time for contact, not a family of several generations is in a closed environment all day long, Conflicts will naturally be reduced. As for cooking... If you are busy talking about earning money, the family can't keep pointing at you to cook. Before Xiaobei got married, their family didn't eat at home? You eat the same as them. You use this time to write more and earn more money. Neither Xiao Bei nor her mother can have an opinion. The fact is that the children are very noisy at home, and your work needs a quiet place. The environment, that's all. How difficult can this be?"

"The second thing is that you still earn less. As long as you earn more, the mother-in-law lives at home, and there is a nanny at home. She enjoys the blessings and takes care of all the trivial things in life. What does she choose from you? She will live alone. I'm sorry. After all, his parents didn't enjoy the money earned by his son, so she enjoyed it... Her mentality is different. Money is a thing that can relieve thousands of melancholy. Your sister is just telling you, instead of being here It’s better to spend some time on trivial things, and do things in a down-to-earth manner. With the money, everything is not a problem. With your money, their family can’t be so confident. This is the reverse of the primary and secondary positions!”

"The third one is to honor your father-in-law and mother-in-law's money. You must not have given it now! Maybe somewhere you don't know, your mother-in-law probably added some of her own pension into it. Many small odds and ends that are commonly used at home, The old man can’t ask for everything from you! It’s unrealistic to make the calculations so clear. Don’t tell the old man to set aside an extra pension fund, but at least don’t ask the old man to put money into it. What do you think about the money? You have to pay for the babysitting for you. She, psychologically speaking, regards herself as the hero of the family. They didn't count on you, but you did. It's up to others. It's like this for a day or two, a month or two months. After a long time, if you are dissatisfied, the other party may not be dissatisfied. People will say, I have worked hard to raise their children, and I have to pay for them... The result depends on the son-in-law face. Is this the truth?"

"You spend the time you spend at home on work. With the extra money you earn, whether it's finding a part-time worker to clean up every day, or paying tribute to your father-in-law and mother-in-law every month... the conflicts will naturally be less. So , why do you put yourself into that circle. You think they have taken over your home...then try you just go back to sleep at night, what will happen? See who is in a hurry? Even the occasional bad weather At that time, there is no need to go back at night. Just try to spend the night in the community here... You see, who is in a hurry. You can’t talk about this matter, and you can’t make noise. If you talk about it, it’s a bad thing. Some things , I can only understand it but not express it in words. You think it is inconvenient for Sinan to bring the children there all the time, so you can come out after they have gone! The sisters gather with them, and you come to find your sister, and it is the same here. Or go out to get together with friends, but remember, you have to solve family conflicts, and you don’t go out to make you have ulterior motives... Even if you drive to the library, it takes half a day. Your job is a need to constantly recharge Is it not good to find a quiet place and read a book for a long time? You have to learn to pick yourself out."

Uncle Lang and uncle were talking over there, and Sister Fang was muttering to Lin Yutong in the kitchen, "It's something wrong with Xiaobei's mother. That's not how it is done! I don't think Yan Yan's mother has any intention of remarrying. The eldest daughter is a single mother with One child, why doesn't her mother live with the eldest daughter? If she lived in the eldest daughter's house, there would be only her daughter and granddaughter at home, and no outsiders. Even if Xiaobei's father came, it would be very convenient to live in! Dear family Son, isn’t it good? You can accompany the eldest daughter and granddaughter at night, pick up the eldest granddaughter during the day, help the younger daughter take care of the younger grandson, and give the younger couple some time to work with peace of mind. When the granddaughter is out of school, give the grandson to Xiaochun Is it okay for her to pick up her granddaughter and go straight back to her eldest daughter's house? I know that Yan Yan's mother will come back after 09:30 after remedial classes at night. If you say so, have you taken care of everything? There are fewer conflicts , any child feels good! After a few years, if Yanyan’s mother wants to remarry, the economy will be loose at that time. The two daughters will use the money to buy a small apartment of [-] to [-] square meters for the mother to take care of nearby , Isn’t this all very good? I don’t have anything to say about my son-in-law, after all, I helped you take care of the children!”

Who said no!This is actually the best solution.

But why they don't do this over there, and I don't know why.Xiaochun's mother-in-law really cares about her grandson, anyone can see this.

But these things are wrong, anyone can say it, but you can't say it yourself.I can only guide Xiaochun how to try to get out of the predicament, but I can't criticize right and wrong.

Divorce is that simple thing?

But from an objective point of view, "Xiaobei also did something wrong. Living with her mother for a long time, she is not a particularly mature person psychologically. When she is with her mother and sister, she either listens to her mother or her sister." This is due to inertia! As for Xiao Chun, who should have been valued by him, she habitually chose to ignore it. Xiao Chun is no longer just like an outsider! It feels like being controlled by others is not counted, and she has to serve their family to eat and drink. But Xiaochun said that the mother-in-law may have paid for it, but the aunt-in-law took the children to eat and drink, wouldn’t it also cost money? If this account is settled, life will not be able to live. Fundamentally speaking, it is the core of Xiaobei , did not handle this relationship well."

Xiaochun would think, when you lived with my mother, did my mother tell you to do this or that?My mother has prepared everything, but it is almost in your mouth.Are your living habits the same as my parents?Then my parents didn't say anything and just accommodated you?

look!That's the problem.

Originally, a couple with children is a family.As a result, Xiao Bei returned to his original family, and Xiao Chun felt bad for his parents, so he pushed him to the original family.

The two persuaded Xiao Chun, and Xiao Chun should have carried it out.When I got up early to deliver Doudou, Xiaochun was in the community, and he planned to work.Usually he works late, and he guesses that everyone at home has gone to bed before he returns.

That's fine!But it never occurred to me that the battle between the couple broke out.The reason is so ridiculous!

Because the school will hold a spring sports meeting, parents are also invited.One child can bring two parents. It's no problem at home. I and fourth master will definitely go.As for Yanyan, Yanyan's mother just happened to take the third-year art candidates to take the art exam, and she could ask for leave for other things, but how important is this matter?Can't ask for leave!Just look for her mother, "you go with the child."

"Didn't you say you want two parents?"

"It doesn't have to be two! Whoever is free can go!" What if the parents are children who don't have time?Aren't grandparents and grandparents accompanying the children?It's really not a big deal!But for the elderly, they feel that everyone is accompanied by their parents, so Yanyan is only accompanied by her grandma.She also has a guilty conscience, thinking that if the parents are divorced, the child will do whatever they want. In fact, the school and teachers keep this information confidential unless the child tells it himself.Maybe I said it myself, so I probably didn't care too much about it in my heart.

She cared, and felt that the child cared.Just say, "Ask Xiaochun and Xiaobei to accompany the child."

This also works!Not a big deal!Xiao Chuntou stayed up until two o'clock one night, and released the next day's update code.When I got up in the morning, I changed into sportswear and tidied up neatly, for fear of embarrassing the child!

Yanyan and Doudou are not in the same class now, but they are next to each other.The positions of the viewing stands are next to each other.The competition yards of the same grade group, the two children did not participate in the same events, and the competition time did not overlap.Therefore, the four parents cheered for their children, and everything was harmonious.

Doudou participated in the 50-meter sprint. The child has been exercising, so his physical strength must be better.Seeing that the girl reacted very quickly, when the signal gun fired, she rushed out with a low voice.Running to the finish line in one go, he was not a little faster than other children.The fourth master immediately picked up Doudou, made Chunzi happy, and asked Doudou to ride on his neck, and he didn't know how to be intimate.This is the reason why the uncle and nephew grew up from childhood to adulthood.Maybe it's because of hugging like this all day long, but it's because the child has grown so big, she's already in the third grade, and with her parents around to protect her, her uncle can still easily pick up the little girl and tell her to ride on her neck.

As for Yanyan, she is a quieter child.She can't run this, the child is holding a skipping rope.This kind of exercise is counting, and it is far less intense than running.The child danced well. Once it was over, everyone applauded and praised the child.Lin Yutong went back and squatted down to exercise the child's leg muscles.

Xiaobei came over and hugged Yanyan, and then called Xiaochun, "Come here! Tell your uncle to hold you high..."

Xiao Chun laughed and said, "We are a timid and reserved little beauty, but Du Doudou is so stupid and bold."

Xiaobei didn't say anything at the time, but at night, she guessed that her mother was asleep, and she woke up Xiaochun, "What do you mean? Doudou is your niece, and Yanyan is also mine. I love Doudou and Yanyan. It's the same, how about you? What did you do?"

What did I do?

What am I doing wrong?

Xiaobei was really sad, "The child doesn't have a father, so what can you do if you pick him up? Yanyan is shorter than Doudou, thinner than Doudou, and not as heavy as Doudou... If you can pick up Doudou, you I can't hold Yanyan in my arms!"

Doesn't make sense, does it?

"You also said that Doudou is my niece and Yanyan is your niece. I am Doudou's uncle. To Yanyan, I am an uncle who has no blood relationship with her. They are not two or three I am a [-]-year-old child who is already in the third grade... a big girl! As soon as I become an uncle, I hug him up and hold him high, is it reasonable?" Xiao Chun reasoned with her, "Do you want to watch Dream of Red Mansions? There is a door to the outside world? Why does Jia's family ignore Lin Daiyu, but no one thinks there is a problem when Jia Zheng does not restrain Xue Pan. Because Lin Daiyu lives in an uncle's house, uncle and uncle, she should live with confidence, her uncle is She should be disciplined. But my uncle does not have the responsibility and obligation to discipline my nephew. This is not appropriate! It is not ethical! Let's be reasonable! Even if Doudou grows to eighteen, she can still bully me on this uncle. Yan Yanchang At eighteen, can you monkey with my uncle?"

But when women quarrel, they usually fail to grasp the point.Just like what Xiaochun said, does it make sense?Sure makes sense!But Xiaobei's main point is: Lin Daiyu should be justified when she lives in her uncle's house.

On the other hand, I just feel that it is unreasonable for Yanyan to be here!

Xiaobei felt very sad, "Your relatives are relatives, but mine are not relatives..."

The louder the noise, the louder it woke up the mother-in-law.

Xiaochun stopped making noise, grabbed her clothes, slammed the door and went out.He drove to the community over there, made a living all night, and drove back to his hometown the next day without telling anyone!The house is clean, he can go home and live!

Marriage is getting more and more exhausting.Often you don't know where you are going wrong.

I couldn't tell my parents when I went back, but my mother asked, "What's wrong? Did you quarrel with Xiao Bei?"

Xiaochun shook her head, "No! I just encountered a bottleneck in writing. I want to change my mind!"

lie!You were born to me, I can tell what's wrong just by looking at your face.

But he said that if there is no one, there will be no, and he will not expose it.She pretended to be deaf and dumb about the quarrel between the young couple, pretending not to know.Neither son nor daughter-in-law.You settle your affairs, we don't get involved.

But behind the scenes, I still have to call my daughter: "It seems that there is a quarrel... I haven't heard why?"

No!I saw you yesterday, at school!They all went to the children's sports meeting.Why did we quarrel!

The girl didn't know either, so Zhang Qiaofeng didn't ask.Instead, I asked about the Doudou Games, what events did you participate in, and did you record the video?Why don't you send it over.

After talking about children for a while, the mother and daughter didn't take it seriously.It's perfectly normal for couples to quarrel. If you don't ask, it's fine. If you ask, something will happen.

As a result, I hung up the phone here, and Si's mother came over there, with a bit of embarrassment on her face: "Look, Xiao Bei is not sensible."

Only then did Lin Yutong know why.To be honest, she felt a little uncomfortable.Nowadays, most of the cases where little girls are raped are committed by acquaintances.Therefore, some codes of ethics that have been handed down often make sense at certain times.In fact, the fourth master has always abided by this principle in this respect. If it is the nephew of the family, it is a real lesson. If he is taught, or even made a move, it is no problem in his opinion.For his niece, he will pamper and guide from the side, but he can't discipline girls.For the children of the sister's family, there are many times when they are pampered, but they are not in a hurry to teach.Each family has its own education methods and guiding directions, and you cannot forcefully intervene.As for the younger generation of the wives, he will help when needed.Get close but have a measure, especially for female dolls, it can be regarded as majestic, but never physically close.

Xiaobei's reasoning is unreasonable.

It is unrealistic to ask Xiao Chun to treat Si Nan the same as her own sister.Xiaochun can come here at any time, and can stay here at any time, whether lying down or sitting, even staying overnight occasionally, no problem.But can he and his aunt do this?This itself is a relationship that needs to be avoided, okay?

It can't be the same at all!Besides, she was a divorced aunt, so she couldn't get too close.

This is not what you think at all, and we have become a close family ever since - this is impossible!

Si's mother was very embarrassed: "Xiaobei is as if he hasn't grown up, and his thinking is not comprehensive. This is Xiaobei's fault..."

You can say Xiao Bei is wrong, but can I say it?

I can't!

Lin Yutong had no choice but to say: "The truth is gradually understood. Whether it's arguing or arguing, anyone's marriage has to go through here once. This... can't be taught by hand, and it can't be controlled. So, just leave it alone. The two of them Do whatever you like, let's worry about it, and the couple will be fine again. There is no need! If you watch them get angry at home, you might as well leave the child for them and see what they do! They can compete , but you can't compete with the children! It's been a year of hard work, so if you can't do it, go to our manor and stay for a while. See if they can survive that day if they are left alone."

Anyway, they just sent people away like this, and Mother Si called the eldest daughter on the way: "What does Xiao Chun's sister mean by saying this, is it that she dislikes me for taking too much care of me?"

Si Nan didn't know that his sister and his wife were arguing, let alone why they were arguing.

Now that she was asked such a sudden question, she hurriedly asked, why did she quarrel?Why?

When the mother said it, Si Nan blushed: "Blame me! It's me! Don't blame Xiaochun! It's because I didn't think so carefully!"