The Red Mansion Is Like a Jade Gentleman

The Jiang family is an activist. Since Master Lin has said it in such a strong tone, as a smart woman, she will naturally not object to his words, and this Miss Du's family does not have any fatal flaws.

That afternoon, the wind was released in the circle!The next day, I sent someone to deliver a letter to the Du Mansion!

Mr. Du was very happy that Mr. Lin could cooperate so much, and immediately wrote back, saying that he agreed!Then the two parties discussed a good date, and officially made a small deal!

In the evening, after Mrs. Du cleared up the dowry gifts from the Lin family, she put her daughter in her arms with a smile on her face, and said happily, "My son is really blessed to have such a good marriage. .”

Du Limei blushed, "Ma'am..." In other words, the number of times she blushed today was more than the number of times she blushed in the past ten years of her life.

"What's there to be shy about? As the saying goes, it's a matter of course that a man should marry a man and a woman should marry a woman." Mrs. Du smiled and looked at her daughter in a green gauze dress, which was not luxurious but also beautiful. Delicate enough, the jet-black hair was pinned back into a simple bun with two jasper hairpins. The bun did not completely coil up the hair, but a few strands of thin and silky hair hung around the waist, which looked extraordinarily fresh. There is also a strand of soft and shiny fine hair hanging down the cheeks, which makes people feel pleasant.

Although it is not stunning, but with this temperament, there are not many men who would not like it.

"Madam..." Du Limei's little face turned even redder!

To be honest, even now that Xiao Ding has been ordered, and Mrs. Lin, the hairpin she was engaged to wear on her head, she still didn't think that all of this was real, as if she was still in a dream.

Girlish feelings are always poetry.

After the eldest brother was admitted to the second place, he has already appointed a sister-in-law of the scholarly family!The next person in the family to watch is her!

I also imagined what my future lover would look like.He is a son of a powerful Xijue family, and a scholar of Mr. Pian Pianjia like her elder brother!

But she didn't expect that her parents would set her up with such a family.

Everyone knows that there is a young man in the Lin family, Mr. Ruyu, who is not yet old enough to tie his hair.However, his knowledge is excellent, and he is very like a father, so he must have a bright future.

This kind of person who can only appear in dreams has now become her fiancé.She really felt that she was dreaming, so Du Limei could only feel that she was living in reality when she was stroking the betrothal thing Mrs. Lin had given her, a phoenix tail hairpin inlaid with gold and beaded with emerald clouds.All of this is not a dream.

Madam Du looked at her daughter's blushing, and knew that she must be very satisfied with this marriage in her heart, too.Husband candidates like Lin Shen.And few women would be dissatisfied.

After thinking about what she was going to say next, Mrs. Du asked all the maids and mothers in the room to back down. These words should not be spread.

"Don't be shy, listen to me first. This kind of thing should not be discussed, but our family and the Lin family basically didn't have any deep intersection before, so I said it. Next, I will take it seriously Let me tell you, you have to listen carefully, I will only say these words once, and you will have to rely on yourself when you get to the Lin family in the future!" Madam Du looked at her beautiful daughter, feeling a little emotional and a little proud, I Only when there are girls in the family can they grow up!

"The Lin family is a scholarly family and practices ancient etiquette, so there are many differences from our family's rules, but don't worry about this, I have already asked Madam Zhang, and in the days to come, she I will call you those old etiquette rules. Because you are from a scholarly family, as long as you behave well, neither mother-in-law nor sister-in-law can take advantage of your shortcomings.

Lin Shen, I asked your elder brother to find out for you. He is a famous talent. Although he is not his elder brother, he is not much different. He was admitted to the Six Arts Academy at the age of 12. I heard that he is going to end next year. Entrance examination Jinshi.Talented people like this generally like scholarly women who can recite poems and paint pictures. I have nothing to worry about on this point. With your talent, there is no problem at all.But you have to remember that the talent of reciting poetry and painting is for pleasing your husband in the boudoir, not for you to show off in front of your mother-in-law and sister-in-law.

Mrs. Lin is a well-known philanthropist, but there is no such thing as charity in the inner house. She can make Mrs. Lin only have one concubine daughter, which shows that she is also capable.She is your mother-in-law again, and she is born to overwhelm you in name, but you don't have to worry, looking at Mrs. Lin's actions, she is obviously a person who values ​​her sons and grandsons.Therefore, after you marry in, the first thing to do is to firmly grasp your husband's heart and give birth to an eldest son as soon as possible.You must know that an heir is a sharp sword hanging over our women's heads. If you give birth to an eldest son as soon as possible, not only will your parents-in-law and husband be satisfied with you, but your own status will also be guaranteed.

As for your sister-in-law, the eldest and youngest mistress of the Lin family is from the Confucius family in Shandong. It can be said that they are some concubines of the clan.But don't worry, as long as you respect her in the future, she won't take the initiative to trouble you.

One more point, it is about the housekeeper, because Grandma Lin is pregnant, so Mrs. Lin is in charge of the house now.If you marry in, you may say that Madam Lin will let you help the housekeeper, but remember, no matter what, you are the second wife, and they will be separated in the future.When the housekeeper is such a sensitive matter, he can't touch it if he can.Of course, it is not to let you completely refuse, but to know how to measure.In the future, Lin Shenwai will be released, or you will separate from your family, then you will be the first lady in the house, and the housekeeper will naturally do your part. "

Seeing Du Limei's puzzled look, Mrs. Du patted Du Limei's head and asked softly, "But I can't understand what I said."

Du Limei nodded confusedly, "The previous nuns' education didn't mean that for the women in the inner house, there are three things that are the most important. One is: heirs, if you don't have your own son, even if you plan to No matter how many, in the end it will be nothing but the fruits of victory. The fruit of victory will never belong to you. The second is: the heart of the husband. If a man wants to spoil his concubine and destroy his wife, no one can stop him, so he must hold on tightly. A man's heart, even if it does not form love, must become family affection. The third is: housekeeping power, if a regular wife doesn't even have the power of housekeeping, the regular wife will give it up if she doesn't do it, because it is easy for concubines to climb into her own head up."

After Du Limei finished speaking, she said with some doubts: "But now, madam, what do you say." Isn't this contradictory?

Mrs. Du smiled, "I'm very happy that you can think of these things, ma'am. It proves that you haven't forgotten the upbringing you gave you before, but you have firmly remembered it in your heart, but these words are used against you and your husband. For a small family, this is not suitable for the life of a large family.

Generally, a family with a long history pays great attention to the unity of relatives in the family. Everyone gathers firewood and strives high. Only when every member of the family does their best to fight for the glory of the family can the family be prosperous, and individuals can also rely on the family. Trees are good for shade; but if the relatives only know intrigues and tricks, then the family is not far from decline. Without the blessing of the family, no matter how talented a person is, he can't make great achievements, even if he can make great achievements , and it may not necessarily end successfully.

Therefore, a family like the Lin family that has been passed down for hundreds of years also values ​​this very much.You can't fight for the housekeeping right as soon as you marry in. It's not about sabotage. The rest of the Lin family will definitely not like you. You just need to ask for the management right in your own yard!

As for the housekeeper, you can see if Grandma Lin has her hands on her now. She has been married into the Lin family for several years, and she has never asked for any housekeeping rights, because she knows in her heart that she is the eldest daughter-in-law, and the Lin family has always been the eldest daughter. Orderly, if Mrs. Lin is gone in the future, the housekeeping right will naturally be hers, so she doesn't have to worry at all.And she took advantage of the few years when she was newly married to Yaner, the eldest son of the Lin family, and took advantage of her good looks, so she hurriedly gave birth to a child as soon as possible, and firmly held her husband's heart in her own hands.

Have you ever heard that someone outside said something bad about Grandma Lin?no!That's what smart people do. " Madam Du said with emotion.

In fact, Mrs. Du did not think about letting her daughter fight for the right to be a housekeeper. She has been in charge of the house, so she naturally knows how much tricks there are in it. If you let go, a large amount of money has entered your private treasury.

However, Mrs. Du's words and the information obtained from the investigation of the Lin family made Mrs. Du calm down.Master Du is right, the Du family and the Lin family are going to be married, not feuding. In the future, the Du family will rely on the connections of the Lin family more often, and there are still a few sons who are going to take the imperial examination!The Lin family cannot be dissatisfied with such trivial matters.

And look, Grandma Dafang, who is supposed to hold the power of housekeeping, has been married for so many years and has not fought with her mother-in-law. If her daughter gets married, she must think about the right to housekeeper. Is it in stark contrast?

Who doesn't have a scale in their heart, I'm afraid that this will completely push the mother-in-law's heart to the big room!

It's better, be honest, keep a low profile first, and give birth to your son-in-law as soon as possible!

Although Mrs. Du didn't have that kind of experience, she had also seen what kind of life the principal wife lived without a son.She doesn't want her daughter to live that kind of life, so she might as well let nature take its course!

Of course, these skills and methods of Concubine Dou and Aunt Dou still need to be taught. This is a compulsory subject for ancient women throughout their lives.