intellectual norms

In the afternoon, when Baizhu came home, Xia Xiaoli was doing English papers at home. Qiao Yu stayed with him for a while. Don't make them wait in the office.

Qiao Yu then went to the school. These students were all volunteers for academic exchange activities, and they had to rely on them for a lot of preparatory work. Cheng Yu had resigned from the chairman of the student union since he was a senior, but it was still their responsibility to do things. boss.

The students were uncertain about some things, so they came to ask Qiao Yu specifically, and Qiao Yu went through the work with them one by one, but the students were still dawdling, I think you just don't want to leave.

Most of them are freshmen and sophomores, and almost none of them are students taught by Qiao Yu. Cheng Yu said for them: "Mr. Qiao, they just worship you, but they can't take your class. They want to talk to you more when they have the opportunity." A few words."

Qiao Yu simply waved his hand and ordered a lot of afternoon tea takeaways, and said, "Then don't leave, just sit and chat for a while."

"Wow!" A group of young boys mixed with a few girls shouted excitedly.

Qiao Yu really likes to stay with students, whether it is lectures or chatting, he can talk about majors, life, life, and emotions. In this regard, he is very open and open, and he has no teacher shelf.

The students admired him and wanted to know him, and he also wanted to know these young people.

They all knew Qiao Yu from the Internet, and they could almost recite the information that was publicly available, but after getting close to him, they felt that the vague descriptions on the Internet were not exhaustive.

The awards, works, and titles separated Qiao Yu from them, but there was a real real person in front of him.

After all, it was a young man. After a few minutes of restraint, he quickly asked questions.

They are very curious about Qiao Yu's experience abroad, whether it is studying or working, especially the few internationally renowned large projects he has participated in.

Qiao Yu picked a few representative bridge projects and gave them a brief explanation, such as what kind of situation they faced at the beginning, what kind of geographical environment, and even what kind of cultural and religious background they were facing. It is the background foundation that must be understood to do construction work.

He still advocates that on the premise of satisfying technology, practicability, and safety, we should do our best to improve the aesthetic creativity. Aesthetics is a derivative of technological change. The continuous upgrading of technology.

Just as he has always advocated in his work, rationality is the basis of sensibility.

These low-grade students may not be able to understand what he said about the majors of the project, but there are some basic ideas, and Qiao Yu wants to seize every opportunity to pass them on.

As a construction worker, safety and reliability are the first priority, and all designs must grasp the essence.

What's more, the real beauty must be the result of "balance" in some aspects. Even those works of art that seem grotesque and uninhibited in the field of avant-garde art follow some general basic principles, which are within the category of "beauty" .

But this kind of thinking does not mean that he is conservative. He said to the students: "You should be bold, especially when you are a student, and you should boldly explore all aspects that you think may make breakthroughs. The Design Institute has individual laboratories and research laboratories. , all your ideas, after in-depth thinking and basic deduction, can be submitted to the academy in the form of small papers. At this stage, you don't need to have any ideological constraints, even if some ideas are initially emerging Sometimes it seems absurd, but don’t make judgments based on perceptual experience, but look for reasons that can support or overthrow it.”

"A breakthrough in academics first requires a breakthrough in thinking. It is very important for a designer to be professional, and it is also important to absorb all aspects of culture. You have to be a miscellaneous person, film, music, art, travel more when you have time, and see others. life, look at ancient architecture, look at natural landscapes, these can give you inspiration, don't just limit yourself to a certain field."

Chatting with Qiao Yu is very interesting. He is not a "typical" stereotyped construction worker. He has the atmosphere of the fusion of Chinese and Western cultures, the romance of an artist, the rationality and rigor of an intellectual, and the practicality and rigor of an engineer. Pragmatic, and there is almost no sense of egoism in him.

He has enough affinity, but he can't become the kind of teacher who completely blends in with the students, regardless of you and me. His resume and identity are destined to keep a certain distance between the younger generation and him. This distance can be narrowed, but it cannot disappear.

For example, Cheng Yu, he has been Qiao Yu's assistant for almost two months, has worked with the Xingshui Bridge project, and is now the head of the student department of the academic exchange project with Columbia University. He is not only Qiao Yu's student, but also at work. Closely connected, he admired Qiao Yu, but for some reason, he always felt that Qiao Yu was a bit difficult to get close to.

At this moment, Cheng Yu looked at the eloquent Qiao Yu in the crowd, and felt that his teacher was really shining, and remembered the indelible distance between him and him, and for some reason, a fair and playful person who was always smiling appeared in his mind. In front of Qiao Yu, that child is really unscrupulous, switching from silly to coquettish at any time, ordinary people would dare to do this, but Qiao Yu has endless patience and doting on this Xia Xiaoli.

Probably only such a person can truly have no sense of distance from Mr. Qiao.

Cheng Yu laughed at himself, he couldn't do what Xia Xiaoli did, even if he bit the bullet and imitated Xia Xiaoli, his teacher would probably throw him out on the spot.

The students' topics unknowingly turned to other aspects. They were also very curious about Teacher Qiao's life and relationship status, especially the few girls who wanted to ask but dared not ask, and finally pushed one who seemed courageous. The older girl asked with a blushing face, "Mr. Qiao, are you married?"

After asking, he buried his face in his companion's shoulder, not daring to look at him.

Qiao Yu smiled lightly and said, "No."

Wow, the girls were shy and excited in an instant, and the boys started booing. Qiao Yu didn't mind talking about personal feelings, but he was in a special situation after all, so he took the initiative to lead the topic to a more open place, and asked the students, "How about you? Everyone is in love, do you have someone you like, if you don’t have an unforgettable love in college, you may regret it later.”

The more people grow up, the more they tend to be realistic. This is a natural law, and there is no way to change it. When you are young and don’t have to worry too much, it is really a rare beauty to like people purely and fall in love. thing.

However, when this question was asked, the group of engineering boys began to complain: "There are too few girls in our college!!!"

"I'm in my junior year, and I'm under a lot of pressure from professional courses, so I don't even have the heart to fall in love."

"Love is a luxury. I'll wait for the fishing line and get my job first."

"The people I like don't like me, but those who like me, let's forget it."

"There is so much competition in the society now, love and so on, you can't eat it, let's wait in the back row, let's talk about it later."

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Qiao Yu didn't expect young people of this age to feel love in such a way, finding it difficult, troublesome, and of no practical use.

He was a little hard to understand, and began to wonder whether he, a middle-aged and elderly person who still thinks that being in love is a romantic thing, seems extraordinarily out of place at this time?

He asked Cheng Yu: "You think so too? It seems that you and your girlfriend have a good relationship."

The design institute has been working overtime frequently recently, and Cheng Yu would come to the design institute in the evening after class to help with plans and plans. Qiao Yu saw his girlfriend come to accompany him several times.

The girl is an art student from a neighboring school. She looks very delicate and her family background is good. Sometimes she acts like a baby and asks Cheng Yu to work overtime and accompany him to watch movies or go shopping. Just don't accompany her and let her go back to rest.

At this moment, the students yelled at Cheng Yu: "Senior is different! Senior's girlfriend is the eldest lady of Baili Group, and she has already won at the starting line!"

That's it, Qiao Yu raised her eyebrows. That girl's family background is really unusual. Baili is a local department store group in East China, and almost every first- and second-tier city has Baili City.

But looking at Cheng Yu's face, he said: "Her family is her family's business. You don't understand at all. Parents from such a family have high requirements for their son-in-law. They think they will just let someone they don't like. People come into their house, marry Bai Fumei, share the company's equity, and reach the pinnacle of life? You really have watched too many counterattack dramas."

Seeing Cheng Yu's unceremonious, sober and realistic evaluation of his three-year relationship, Qiao Yu was surprised. Cheng Yu was regarded as the best among the students, handsome and upright, with top-notch professional skills. He is reliable in everything he does, and he still has some leadership skills that have not been fully developed. If he is successfully admitted to the graduate school in the future, his future will be limitless.

Except that he has no background, a phoenix man from a really small place.

He said: "Her family and I are not in the same world at all. It doesn't matter if we say it now. Anyway, we are both in senior year. Her family disagreed with it. It is estimated that we will break up after graduation. Speaking of it, I fell in love with her, but are you here?" Together, whether to break up or not is not up to two people at all, so this love, that's it, it's meaningless."

"Then when do you think the relationship can be decided by two people?" Qiao Yu asked him.

Cheng Yu didn't even think about it, smiled, looked at Qiao Yu and said, "Mr. Qiao, my words may be very vulgar, but the reality in China is like this. A man has to be successful and famous, and it's his turn to make decisions about his feelings, otherwise How can you have the right to speak?"

Qiao Yu doesn't judge the right or wrong of this statement. Every society has its reality, and every person has his own principles of dealing with things. Cheng Yu thinks so, it's understandable, he just asked: "But feelings don't wait for others, like It doesn't depend on the person's will when the person you want will show up, when the relationship will happen, you think you are ready for everything, but that person has already left."

The students listened quietly, Cheng Yu thought for a while, and then said: "Teacher, to be honest, I don't think there is such a thing as a destined lover in this world. Feelings always come and go. It will happen again and again, this person leaves, there will always be another person, there is nothing wrong with romantic love, but my reality does not allow me to indulge in this unrealistic romance, as for the future, I have After considering career, wealth, and social status, I think it is not difficult to plan a happy marriage for myself."

Qiao Yu suddenly understood how he felt when he heard these words. Although Cheng Yu is still young, his thinking, speech and philosophy of life are very similar to the group of worldly successful people in society. They are not emotional. Look at the "essence" of things and interpersonal relationships directly, and the goal in the eyes is clear and decisive. If the goal is not achieved, the process is meaningless.

Qiao Yu understood such a person, but he himself was not.

He feels that he is a strange person. He can be extremely rational at work and leave most of his sensibility in his feelings. Although it is not very abundant, he can have no reservations.

Qiao Yu himself had a lot of feelings about this topic, but he couldn't tell the students frankly today, because he found that the students supported Cheng Yu's argument, and he didn't want to have a debate at this time.

So he chose to laugh at himself easily: "It seems that the teacher is old and can't keep up with the rhythm of young people. I am not married. At my age, I still have many unrealistic and romantic fantasies about love."

The students also laughed. In their opinion, Professor Qiao has what he wants. Although he is not a rich man, as a great expert and designer in his professional field, he has social status and wealth at his fingertips. He naturally has the confidence to pursue love and love. Romantic, but they're not, they still have to struggle, that's what comes first.

From his student days to the present, Qiao Yu has never ranked love, work, and struggle in order, but the current students are so "sober" that he is surprised.

The students explained to him: "Mr. Qiao, it's true. The volume in China is too strong now. We can't help it. Who doesn't want to love a game desperately. We don't have the capital."

These words are their hearts, but Qiao Yu has no choice but to encourage them to realize their dream of success as soon as possible.

After the students had all left, Qiao Yu was stunned in the office for a while. Thinking about how he had been emphasizing the words love and romance in front of a group of students just now, he was really a bit silly. Compared with him, he, a middle-aged man, was suddenly naive Well, maybe those students will feel that the big professor's personality has collapsed after they go out.

However, in fact, he has never been a person who likes to talk about these words before. His ex didn't think he was warm and romantic enough. He used to keep these things in his heart. Why is he so enthusiastic and revealing now?

Thinking about the students' disapproval, he smiled self-deprecatingly, and said to himself, my lord, the times have really changed, please wake up.