That 1 his waist protruded

60

Su Hefeng twirled the pen in his hand, then put it down again, rarely seemed a little anxious.

After a while, he looked up at me and asked, "What did I want to say just now?"

"If I knew what you wanted to say, you wouldn't have to say it yourself." Of course, this is a serious answer for me.

My first reaction was "someone stole your idea just now", and then I thought it might be "I remembered an event full of urban legends that will be forgotten as soon as I recall it."

Of course, these are outdated thoughts that popped up in my mind.

Su Hefeng sighed, "Sure enough, there is no tacit understanding in this world."

"It's obvious."

Su Hefeng asked with a smile: "I want to know what you are thinking. Do you know what expression you had just now? I actually have the illusion that you are sympathizing with me."

"It's not really sympathy, I just feel distressed." I carefully differentiated my emotions and tried to express them in more appropriate words.

There is no "heart-to-heart" in this world, and there is no mutual understanding that does not require language communication.The mistake we often make is to trust our own judgment too much, as if we are getting along with the person we think, but in fact there are some differences and misunderstandings.

Although this cognition comes from relevant books, there are corresponding experiences in life.For example, when you know someone, you often classify them according to your first impression, and feel that the other person is the type of person in your cognition.

It is very common to "profil" a stranger or even an acquaintance in this way, because there is not much understanding between each other, and there is often no need to develop more understanding.

But partners are different.

If even one's own partner is treated in such a facial expression, lacks the patience to understand each other seriously, and is unwilling to open up to communicate and express one's true emotions and thoughts, this kind of relationship will also lose the meaning of forming a partner and starting a family.

These things were all thought in the past, which can be traced back to a few years ago, when Ayugang and Zhang Qiushu broke up and shared rent with me.Ayu claims to "absorb knowledge crazily", has read a lot of psychology books on how to correctly view oneself and how to deal with the relationship between partners, and will discuss some points of view with me.

Looking back, it's like my brain was forced to stuff things I wasn't meant to know.

61

Well, in a sense, it is also useful knowledge.

At least I agree with this - partners need to communicate more and express their true emotions and thoughts in more accurate language so that the other party can understand.

"So let's bring back the topic that has gone far." I coughed dryly, trying to create a serious atmosphere.Of course, the main reason for this is that neither of us is a person who can speak seriously.

"For example, why do you feel sorry for me suddenly?" Su Hefeng touched his chin, "Although I am very happy that you love me, in fact, I can't think of anything that makes me feel bad about myself."

I pressed my temple and rubbed it, "Yeah, who wants to feel sorry for a bastard."

Su Hefeng closed the notebook, put the pen in the middle, and said with a smile: "I knew that Deng Deng loved me."

"Hmm, I actually think it's like switching from one mask to another. It must be very hard."

Su Hefeng was stunned for a moment, "It's the first time someone said that to me. I'm even embarrassed to tell you..."

I glanced at him, "What are you talking about? It's my illusion, it's my imagination, you're actually enjoying it and having fun playing it?"

Su Hefeng laughed, "How dare I say yes."

That's it.Suddenly want to sigh, I really took it for granted.

Su Hefeng also knew that this was inappropriate, and then added: "If my understanding is correct, your intention should be to hope that we can express ourselves frankly. In this case, if I want to protect you, um, To save face, let me tell you a white lie, even if the starting point is correct, it still deviates from your original intention."

I nodded, "I know."

Su Hefeng said compliments naturally: "Of course, I know that Deng Deng is not a vain person, and he won't care about me in his heart."

He can really talk when he wants to.

"I didn't mean to vent my anger." I spread my hands, "Although I know that when I have a lot of drama in my heart, I may be a little bit disappointed. In short, I am not very happy, but it is normal for people to have misunderstandings. Don’t think too much about it.”

Su Hefeng breathed a sigh of relief, "It's the understanding Deng Deng."

"Okay, don't praise me anymore, if you praise me again, I'm going to float."

62

Su Hefeng became serious again, "So you want to talk about why I am in this state in private?"

"Spiritual embryos plus the influence of the original family can explain most personality problems." I raised my legs.

Su Hefeng thought for a while and said, "Have you shared the book list with Ayu?"

"No, it's just that at the beginning, Ayu would share his reading experience with me." I touched my earlobe, "Now that I think about it, it's not a bad thing to have a little more knowledge."

"My family is not so much conservative as it is about saving face. My parents are very concerned about what others think, especially my uncle's and second uncle's. Even all family conflicts have to be hidden, and they show family harmony in front of outsiders. Appearance. It can be said that the family is all actors and can withstand the test of 360-degree observation in life without dead ends."

Su Hefeng talked about these things calmly, "They feel that businessmen are not as good as officials, but they want to show that they are not bad at home, so they make themselves very tired."

"Actually, when I was young, my parents wanted to divorce. But later, because they were afraid of other people's gossip and fear that divorce would be bad for children, they forcibly tolerated each other. But in fact, they only had cold wars and quarrels at home. Just two modes."

"Such an environment is even worse for children." I rubbed my forehead, feeling a little headache.

"But no one knows, so they won't say anything about them." Su Hefeng chuckled, "As long as they leave the house, they are a married couple who raise their eyebrows, and a harmonious family."

I sighed, "It's amazing to be able to pretend for so many years, I can't imagine it."

"It's not pretending, because it's their true face to save face. So no matter what, they will knock out their teeth and swallow their blood, and they will never go out to complain." Su Hefeng satirized his parents, and it was not polite.

"This has also led to my role at home tending to be a conciliator, trying to be cute or funny to enliven the atmosphere, trying to break the stalemate of the Cold War." Speaking of this, Su Hefeng suddenly laughed, "Besides, acting like a baby Really getting something. Like wanting something, or hanging out or something."

My heart is full of questions: "How can there be a spoiled child in a family that is full of contradictions and makes people feel trembling?"