Obviously a passerby, but he made his debut in the forum with real wine

As far as I know, many psychology students have doubts about Freud's causal wheel.The so-called causal theory means that the present results are guided by past experiences.Past experiences usually refer to childhood.Many psychoanalytic techniques will also revolve around childhood, because the person who pioneered psychoanalysis was Freud himself.

Any kind of mental illness, traced to its root, comes from childhood trauma.

In the research experiment of Susan Fordow, this is actually shown. She found that no matter what kind of harm parents inflict on their children, they will have more or less self-destructive tendencies when they grow up. They will think that Being yourself is worthless, unlikable and useless.

Someone once said that when I was studying psychology, people who study psychology are more or less sick in their hearts.

I don't like to be said that. Rather than being caught and hurting my feet, it is better to say that I was judged by someone with colored glasses and judged from above.It is undeniable that I still remember the trauma of my childhood, which has influenced many of my life decisions.

I was adopted when I was five years old by my psychiatrist who is now my mother.Since my brother died, she has become a little superstitious.However, superstition is originally a small cost to avoid the expected loss in the future.When I grow up, when I open the textbook to trace this process, I will obviously feel that I have empathized with her.Because I haven't received the attention and care that I should have at this age, so when she shows some kindness to me, I will pour it all in without thinking.

I loved this guy so much, until I entered her family and found out she had another child, I felt cheated.It’s ridiculous looking back on it now, but I did feel cheated, taken in, into a new trap, and I just wanted to try to get back to my birth mother.This led to a car accident in Chuyu who blocked me and followed me.

After the car accident, I couldn't bear the family atmosphere and once begged my biological mother to take me back.I promise that I will never talk about family affairs with others again, and I promise that I will always be obedient.But she pushed me away, threw me into the crowd, and now my mom and dad spent the whole night looking for me to bring me back.

It probably took me more than ten years to understand the biting malice of my birth mother.

Like an epiphany, I woke up one morning and realized she hated me growing up, and I had a high fever that day.I naturally understand that my biological mother didn't like me since I was a child, and she didn't want to see me. Even if I went to ask her for help, she would push me away bluntly. When I was young, I kept thinking "I must have done something wrong", "My personality is too bad and too clingy", "I reminded my biological mother of the nasty shadow" and so on.But I understood at that time, just like my parents treat me well, there will be people in this world who treat me badly for no reason, even if they are related by blood.

In fact, I still feel guilty towards my parents until now. Growing up has made me understand more love, but it has not taught me how to accept and understand more decently and calmly, and at the same time respond more perfectly.I hope to have a younger brother or sister more than my parents, and I have even thought about giving him everything I have.It's just that when my parents called me, I was really jealous for a moment.

Even if they are shameless and unscrupulous, they all want to occupy this unique love.

This shows that the progress in my growth is really pitiful.

……

After three or four hours of drowsy sleep, I had a severe headache. When I woke up, I found that Xiao He had bitten the pillow at home and there were cotton everywhere.

If I had known earlier, I should have taken it out to play today...

"Xiaohe."

Xiaohe immediately ran over innocently and excitedly.Even my temper was shaken by its tail.

"out."

Xiao He kept circling in circles while I was changing clothes, just a happy silly dog.

I was amused by it.

To be honest, I do feel a little bit like my biological mother, irresponsible about that.I like Xiaohe very much, but I never thought of keeping a similar pet.I will not have any pets in my future life.I don't want to be responsible for any life, because I can't love this life forever, even if it's just a plant.

After wearing the inner three layers and the outer three layers, and then put on the mask, I grabbed the warm baby and went out with Xiaohe.The cold wind woke me up for a minute or two, and I had to go to the pharmacy to buy some medicine. Fortunately, I didn't look like an anime character, otherwise I would have to lie dead on the road after I developed a fever.Maybe I still have to thank my biological mother for one thing, that is, she at least taught me to know how to love myself, not to pray for someone to discover me, pay attention to myself, and love myself all the time.

This may correspond to Adler's teleology.

Humans have free will, and they have the attitude of deciding how to treat something after they experience it.

……

Not long after I went downstairs, I met Rei who was going out alone.He glanced at me first, then at Xiaohe, and then looked up to make sure I was someone he knew.His surprised expression made me feel amused, I couldn't help laughing, and said, "I suggest you go get checked today, if you have a cold too."

He didn't answer, just walked up to me, I thought he was going to talk to me, but he put his hand on my head.

"You have a fever... what are you doing?"

"Go downstairs to buy medicine, and walk the dog by the way."

As soon as I finished speaking, Jiang Gu Ling took the dog walking leash into his hand, pushed me back to the direction of the apartment, and said, "I'll help you buy medicine, you go back and stay."

My head is full of paste, and my mind is full of thoughts about Jiang Guling. I don’t know which room I live in. It will be very troublesome to call and contact me. Why don’t I walk the dog and go back to bed by myself.No, I can leave Xiaohe in the pet store, and then I go back to sleep.

The important reason why I work hard to make money is that money can solve most of life problems and interpersonal problems.

I don't need to worry about being rejected if I ask someone else to do something.

I stood still and was sorting out my words. He pushed my back, and I followed suit.Jiang Gu Ling asked: "Do you have a secondary key?" He could open the door and enter directly.

I thought this made sense, so I took off the keychain and handed him a secondary key.I said, "That troubles you."

"Go and rest, can you walk up by yourself?" Jiang Guling pushed me forward for several steps.

I looked back at Xiaohe and said, "Just leave Xiaohe at the pet store. I'll pick him up later."

"Okay, okay, let's go."

"..."

I looked back after walking a few steps, as if I had lost something, or looking for something.I don't know why I turned back. It's not that I'm worried about Jiang Guling, even if he really encounters a case again, he can't buy me medicine.Even if there are some funny cartoon plots, I just remember that there is a person who has a fever and is waiting for the protagonist’s medicine. Whether it is funny or pitiful, I don’t care.

I don't know what I'm waiting for, maybe I'm waiting for Jiang Guling to leave, just like making a phone call, I don't know my call is over until someone else hangs up.But Jiang Gu Ling didn't leave, but watched me go upstairs and kept waving at me.

Inexplicably, I realized that there are so many different feelings in the deep communication with different people.Their thoughts, behaviors, and habits are all contradicting their own thoughts, behaviors, and habits, and finally achieve harmony.Tibor Sitovsky, founder of Happiness Economics, said that people's real progress and happiness come from taking risks.I think this adventure may not only be an adventure of lifestyle, but also a spiritual adventure, just like opening a window to the house on the drawing paper.

When I went back to the house, I quickly fell asleep again.

I know that if I sleep too much, I will get dizzy more and more, but the more I get dizzy, the more I want to sleep.

I dreamed that I was sitting on the bus going to the police academy for the first time. The car was stable, and the sound of the running engine brought the seat and windows to vibrate. For some people, it was completely negligible. Dreaming When it's time to sleep, it's not at ease.People were going up and down in the car, I didn't recognize any of them, and I didn't want to make any eye contact, and then someone sat next to me and touched my arm.

"..."

……

When I opened my eyes, I saw Ling Gu Ling walking to my bed with a pot of porridge and medicine. I wanted to say something, but my voice was already hoarse.Jiang Gu Ling said: "Do you really have no special powers? Why did you wake up just right? I found out that you don't even have kitchen utensils, so I went outside and bought porridge again, and reheated it in the microwave. Can you eat something? "

I followed his words and sat up, unable to utter my voice for a while. After drinking some water to moisten my throat, I said with difficulty: "Thank you."

After Jiang Guling took my temperature, he began to let me eat.When I took it, I said thank you to him.Immediately afterwards, I noticed that he had cleaned up all the small and bitten things in the house. I didn't know what to say, so I had to say thank you again.

I have become a repeater who can only say thank you.

I thought for a while and said, "Have you finished your homework?"

As soon as these words came out, Jiang Guling was stunned for a moment, and then said: "...It's finished."

"If you rush to finish writing on Saturday night, you should have something to do on Sunday, so go get busy."

"It's not busy on Sunday." Jiang Gu Ling found a chair and sat opposite me, and said, "Don't worry about such trivial matters."

"You are very self-disciplined."

Obviously, it can be postponed until the next day, even if you stay up late at night, you have to finish it.

"Why do you have a fever?"

"I think it should be dressed

I'm not used to wearing it like this..." I felt a little groggy when I woke up in the morning.

"Since you are cold, why don't you wear more clothes?"

"I heard it looks good." Now I am admiring the will and courage of those people who don't want to be warm for the sake of demeanor, or do they actually have some secrets to keep warm, and I am the only one who foolishly wears a single coat and a coat.It's clearly winter!

Jiang Guling heard it, and said without thinking: "But, don't you know that you are already very good-looking?"

I was stunned for a moment: "..."

Jiang Guling seemed to realize that he shouldn't say such shameful words to a man, and he didn't know how to say: "..."

There was only two or three seconds of silence, but this kind of silence was really shameful.

My whole body feels like the house is burning in a raging fire, even the air is hot.

Oops, my mom.

Who can help me.