I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 18 Rather than missing someone so much, it is better to let the regrets go to time
"Once your focus shifts, you no longer want to condemn the other person for cheating, but instead want to try your best to prove it yourself."

"But in fact, no matter what you say or do, the other party will just give you the cold shoulder."

"When you prove yourself to be fruitless, the more you think about it, the more you think the problem is with yourself, and then you will want to win the other person back."

"You start giving gifts to the other person, you start apologizing to the other person, you try everything in your power to get the other person back."

"But you overlooked one point at this time. His cheating means that you are no longer that attractive to him. After he has taken advantage of you, your flattery and touching feelings will not win back his love for you. Instead, it will increase your sunk costs."

"This sunk cost will once again create negative emotions and make you miss him every day."

"So you cry every day, begging him to come back every day, thinking that you love him very much and can't live without him."

"In fact, you misunderstood negative emotions as love."

"To put it bluntly, if I slap you in the face, you will remember me for three days."

"You think you love me, but in fact you just want to check and balance me and give me back that slap in the face."

"So, once you mistake negative emotions for love, you will deepen your obsession with 'I love him' and find yourself becoming more and more dependent on him."

"And your inability to leave him is without bottom line and dignity. You even said that as long as you come back, I will forgive you for anything you do."

"When you're so cheap, you actually lose the last bit of attraction in his heart."

"If there is a rebound at this time, you will feel even worse. The worse you feel, the more you will feel you can't leave him."

"But is that love?"

"I can tell you responsibly that it is not."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the netizens were all shocked.

Princess Yaoyao: "So this is how I am disrespected. I have no bottom line, no self-respect, and no principles. I keep begging him not to leave me."

Sister Strawberry: "Yeah, a slap can be remembered for three days. It's too deep an obsession, it's not necessarily love."

Sleepless night: "Others are reading jokes, I am looking in the mirror."

Mr. Li: "It's so hurtful. I'm a man, but I got all the answers! I was so humble and moved myself, but in fact I was treated like a dog by that woman."

A Sun: "It turns out that PUA masters do not distinguish between men and women."

Heartbroken Puppy: "My defense is broken. I've been through this for the past five years, woooo."

Q Bao: "What the host said is very universally applicable. Many people can't get out of it because of this logic."

Yue Ling'er: "I went through all the processes the anchor described. At the beginning, I was just like this girl. I always felt that I couldn't live without him. I was in so much pain during those years. I forgave him for cheating on me, but I was in so much pain every day. It was like taking someone else's mistakes and forcing them on myself. It was like going through a tribulation."

She who was lost: "This anchor has something."

Stubborn boy: "If I had met the anchor a few years earlier, I wouldn't have wasted 7 years on a woman, woo woo woo."

.........

"Anchor, I know what you said is right, but I still feel very uncomfortable. Can you scold me to wake me up?"

Lin Feng opened his mouth, then shook his head and said, "Today is your birthday, so I won't scold you."

but,

"Sister, I want to remind you one last time that today is not just your birthday."

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"Go home and count the white hair on your mother's head. Happy birthday to you."

After saying the last sentence, Lin Feng disconnected the connection.

On the barrage.

"Today is not just your birthday" "Go home and count the white hair on your mother's head"...

Stranger: "Fuck! The last sentence directly raises the rank, the pattern is too big."

Xiao Wan: "There is more than love in this world. Today is your birthday, but it is also my mother's day of suffering. Go home and count my white hair. Oh my god, I am crying so hard."

Jingyi: "My dear, she would be so sad if she saw you like this."

Lin'er: "Sister, take good care of yourself, mom will feel bad." Xiaohe Liu: "True damage, ignoring shield defense value."

Mumu: "Big class, Master."

Big Pearl: "I couldn't hold back when I heard someone counting my mother's white hair. Sister, you still have your mother to hug, but I will never be able to hug her..."

Ouch: "It's the same for me. I will never be able to hug my mother. When I heard the last sentence, tears welled up in my eyes."

Tuanzi: "I don't have a mother either. It's been 7 years without me noticing and I'm only 25."

Good Luck Comes: "Come on, we'll all be fine."

.........

Lin Feng leaned out of the screen and took a puff of cigarette.

Then he said in a magnetic broadcasting voice, "Many times, you think you have lost someone who holds an umbrella for you, but after you separate, you realize that it never rains in your world.

In fact, what really tortures you is never anyone's indifference, but the obsession that you cannot let go of and the expectations of fantasy in your heart.

Instead of missing someone to the point of illness, it is better to leave regrets to time.

One day you will find that those obstacles that you could not overcome no matter how hard you tried will be filled up as you walk along.

One thought makes the flower bloom, one thought makes the flower fall, one thought lets go, and you are reborn."

"New guys, please click on the upper right corner to follow us and the love strategist will answer your questions."

On the barrage.

"You thought you had lost the person who held the umbrella for you, but in fact there was no rain in your world at all"...

"Sister, I think I understand!"

"Obsession + expectation = a storm in my own world. I cry to death."

"The host of 'Letting Go, You're Reborn' is telling us that people can only save themselves and not rely on others."

"The hurdle that you can't cross will become smooth as you walk along..."

"These words healed me, woooo."

.........

Some people on the barrage felt the same way, but some also raised questions.

"@Military Advisor, I don't agree with your logic."

I glanced at the other party’s ID, ‘Drunkenness and Dreaming Death’.

Lin Feng: “Tell me about it.”

Zui Sheng Meng Si: "You said that those who cheat or have affairs are not loyal to their relationships, but my boyfriend was very loyal to his ex and was recognized by people around him as a lovesick man, but he still cheated when he was with me."

"So, I think what you said is wrong. It's not that people who cheat are not loyal, but that people change."

Raymond Lam did not refute: "You are right, people will change, no matter if they are men or women, they will change with their own experiences, emotional ups and downs, and changes in the surrounding environment."

but,

Changing the subject, Lin Feng continued, "Just in response to your question just now, I want to say that many people now have a logical fallacy: if this person was very affectionate in his last relationship and treated his ex very well, we would think that he is an infatuated person, and we would think that he is also an infatuated person if he is in a relationship with me."

"Why is it a logical fallacy? Because infatuation is emotionally targeted."

"In other words, just because he is infatuated with others doesn't mean he is infatuated with you as well."

"Love is something that varies from person to person, and it is not a good quality that a person inherently possesses.

Many people associate infatuation with character, but in fact, they are not the same thing.

My dears, in the world of love, it’s all about the pull between two people, the degree of attraction between two people, and the intensity of love.”

“Remember, responsibility is a character, infatuation is not.”

(End of this chapter)