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Chapter 5 Improving Leadership with Emotional Intelligence (4)
A person who can turn the strengths of his subordinates into his own strengths will be invincible in leadership!Whether a person is a good manager does not depend on whether he is managing others.For example, the marketing director of a certain company may have 100 subordinates, while the marketing director of another company does not have an employee but only one assistant.In terms of their respective value or ability, the latter may be dozens of times that of the former. The latter will create a great team, and the former may be fired by the boss because of poor management.Here, the number of people is only a static detail and a temporary data problem. It can only tell us that 100 people can do more work than one person, but it does not mean that the managers of these 100 people can do more work than that one person. People are more capable of leadership.

So, from now on, you don't have to envy the department managers of those big companies, because his leadership may not necessarily be superior to yours, and your managerial emotional intelligence may have more potential than him.

Measuring quantities doesn't make sense
Now one of the questions I ask is: "Quantity is more important than quality?" Surely you know the right answer, why do we see so much anomaly of focusing on quantity and ignoring quality?This is related to some characteristics of people's thinking and judgment.

We can neither measure the work of employees by quantity nor judge by how much they put into it.Because the results of the identification work should be based on the final results, not on the size of the personnel you manage or how high your level is.

For example, we let a large number of people work in the marketing department and make up for some shortcomings with the advantage of quantity, which may produce good benefits in the short term. It may make the overall creativity of this department stronger and the quality of work higher. Certainly would give the sector increased strength and potential.

If this is the constant fact, it is still quite cost-effective to quickly add two hundred employees to the marketing department.However, it can also happen in another situation: so many people work together, but there is a lack of coordination, and all kinds of problems will arise.For example, in interpersonal relationships, everyone is fighting each other and sacrificing the interests of the company for self-interest; or there is a mistake in the division of labor, you do my work, and I do your work, and everyone is not in the right place; or the incentive system does not meet the fair needs of so many people, and someone does it. Get more and get less, but some people do less and get more.If managers lack the corresponding ability to solve problems, they will be overwhelmed, busy with these trivial matters all day long, have no time to take care of the most important work, cannot make fundamental decisions, and have no time to pay attention to the market.

For such a leader, the most work he does is to check some administrative data.There's no time to think about what's going on with "our market" -- that's what he should be doing.In this case, some major changes in the market are easily overlooked by him, and it may be because of such mistakes that the company has a major crisis and then closed down.

Therefore, for managers, the quality of work is always more important than quantity.That is to say, the manager of an organization or company must avoid situations beyond his control, get rid of those ineffective trivial matters, and keep himself from being deeply involved in them, so as to prevent the organization from malfunctioning and the work efficiency of personnel from declining.

He wants to make sure that his working hours belong to himself and not to others.He cannot be a prisoner of the organization: everyone can come and take his time, and there is nothing he can do about it.

Start with a schedule, not a plan

Effective leaders are not without weaknesses.For example, they may be slightly weaker than their subordinates in terms of action. Excellent leaders are often good at running their minds and planning the overall situation from the top of the mountain.But, that's what makes him stronger than you.When a matter is on the agenda, he will not rush to work and make plans, but start from the time arrangement to maximize efficiency and use time.

This is contrary to the common sense of some people.Many people feel that if one thing is in front of them, the most important thing is to do it right away.You can't do without action, let alone plan.If you repeat this truth a hundred times, it will become unwavering in your life beliefs, and you will be convinced that it is the truth.But I tell you, you are wrong.

In the face of a matter, the most important thing is not to act and plan, but to arrange time.You first need to understand the concept of all the time that should be at your disposal, and then consider how to use this time.Finally, reschedule as needed, and cancel those tasks that waste time but do not produce any value.To put it bluntly, first consider how to arrange time and resources, and then pay attention to the plan, otherwise your plan is likely to be useless or a burden that you need to constantly revisit after the action starts.

Only when you pay attention to time can you discover the fundamental problem of the plan.In this way, you can combine the scattered time at your disposal into usable time units.This is the key to a leader demonstrating effectiveness, showing his emotional intelligence in handling such details, rather than having a great plan.

As a senior treasurer for a large New York organization, Lunes knew all too well how much precious time he was wasting calling office meetings.No matter what the content of the meeting is, he calls all his direct subordinates to the meeting every time, and every meeting will fall into lengthy procrastination.Everyone who came to the meeting valued the opportunity for discussion and always took the opportunity to ask questions. Everyone asked a question or two and discussed it with seriousness. Agendas are irrelevant and endlessly eat up meeting time.

At the beginning, he didn't realize the seriousness of the problem. It wasn't until one day that Lunes asked a subordinate that it suddenly dawned on him how serious the problem was.Of course, subordinates readily admit that such meetings are boring, time-wasting, and unproductive.

At this time, Lunes found that the plan he had worked so hard to formulate had not been implemented after the meeting.He neglected the use of his time and ended up getting punished at work.

But when he realized the problem and decided to change, things worked out.Lunes began to approach the work he managed in a new way.For example, he first circulated a printed notice among his subordinates, which said: I have invited Mr. Ryan, Wallace and Locke to come to the meeting room at two o'clock on Wednesday afternoon to discuss matters related to next year's budget appropriation. If anyone is interested in this aspect, or wants to participate in the discussion, welcome to the meeting.Whether or not you attended the meeting, shortly thereafter you will receive a detailed minutes of the discussion advising you of the decisions reached and asking for your opinion on those decisions.

He arranged and allocated the time of the meeting and the time of the participants.As a result, the problem that was originally studied by more than a dozen people for half a day was quickly solved.In the end, it took him less than an hour to finish the job and meet the actual psychological needs of every employee.

In the process of managing and arranging our time, if we want to formulate an ideal plan, it is not enough to list the activities of the day.You need to estimate the specific time you need for each schedule within a predictable period of time according to your own situation, and then arrange the plan according to the corresponding amount of time.

When doing this, we should not overestimate our work efficiency. If we arrange too many things in a short period of time, it will be crowded, and you will find that the work cannot go on and the plan cannot be carried out smoothly.

In addition, in the process of your time management, there is a more common possibility that you will find that everything takes a long time, and you have to allocate a large part of your precious time generously. You find that time is simply not enough because things are too difficult to do, which means you need to find someone to share your work, recruit or delegate capable subordinates.

If you're already busy during the day, I suggest that you use the time before you go to bed the night before to complete this important task, if possible.According to psychological theory, this time period is the most conducive to planning. People usually preview what will happen tomorrow in their brains several times before falling asleep, so as to ensure that they are ready for the new day. Judgment, analysis What I can do and do well in a limited time, and then create a psychological potential sense of security, and go to sleep smoothly.

the secret of success
The will to persevere is the spirit that must be possessed to achieve any great cause.This is also the biggest secret that you can make money successfully if your ambition is to be a successful businessman.The same thing, some people persist for 5 minutes, feel that they are strong enough, and then complain why there is no effect; ?”, because in the process of his persistence, things have succeeded, and his gains have become logical.

This shows that "urgency" is the enemy of persistence.When you find yourself desperate for something, you need to pour some cold water on yourself to calm down.You should classify it as the "most indifferent" type of desire. It only makes sense to let it go and naturalize it. Otherwise, the faster you chase it, the farther it will be from you.

Persistence is the best emotional intelligence

Everyone has great stamina, and it's a quality that helps people achieve great things.We may have heard or seen in countless ways the idea of ​​"how valuable is the quality of persistence", which makes people show tenacity and indomitable spirit to do something they want to do.However, although people in reality know its preciousness, they always perform unsatisfactorily. They pass away with success because of the lack of this spirit.This also proves that the more emphasis is placed on a truth, the more it shows that it is not easy to realize.We also know that many people confuse the concept of persistence with "one-brained" or "thick-skinned"

On a par, they are actually quite different.The quality of persistence comes from relying on one's own ability and hard work, rather than relying on others.Just like Barnes won the trust of Edison by relying on his own enterprising character rather than the latter's "charity".

Barnes is a man with a firm heart but no background or resources.He decided to cooperate with the great inventor Edison.When he came to Edison's office, his slovenly appearance caused a burst of ridicule from the staff, especially when he stated that he would become Edison's partner, everyone laughed even harder.Edison never had a partner, but Barnes' persistence earned him an interview and a job as a handyman with Edison.

Edison was impressed by his gritty character, but it wasn't enough for Edison to accept him as a partner.Barnes worked as an equipment cleaner and repairman for Edison for several years, until one day he heard Edison's salesman laughing at a newest invention—the dictating phonograph.

The salesperson thinks that this thing must not be sold, because why do people use machines instead of secretaries?At this time Barnes stood up and said: "I can sell it!" From then on, he got the sales job.

Barnes spent a month traveling all over New York City on his salary as a handyman.A month later he sold seven machines.When he returned to Edison's office with a national sales plan in his arms, Edison accepted his request as a partner in the production and marketing of dictation phonographs.He became Edison's sole partner.This Barnes, who was once ridiculed by others, finally realized his wish because of his "persistence".

What did you find in Barnes' example?You will see that persistence is the last test before success comes, and the litmus test of your will.If we persevere when necessary, the chances of gaining will be much greater, and you will be closer to the dawn of success.

Why do we regard "persistence" as the most important quality of emotional intelligence?As Pangler once mentioned in his "The Crowd": For all great people, it is willpower that determines the ultimate destiny.In the first book, we already know that emotional intelligence mainly includes five aspects of ability:

Awareness of one's own emotions; proper management of emotions; self-motivation; understanding of others' emotions; relationship management.

Among these five abilities, willpower is the basis for their implementation and execution.If a person does not have the character of persistence, whether it is the understanding and motivation of oneself or the understanding and management of others, it will become a river without a source, a forest without a tree, and in the end he can only give up halfway. It is difficult to start well and end well. Can't achieve good results.

In a sense, persistence equals success
As long as you can stick to it consistently, you will be successful.Because the process of persistence is a leap in life.First thing in the morning when we wake up, we should ask ourselves what it is that we really want.Then make up your mind to do it, and don't always make excuses for yourself to stop.No matter what you do, the biggest difference between failure and success is that some people go all the way towards their goals, while others always lose themselves because they stop for a while halfway.

From this perspective, persistence is tantamount to success.It is difficult for a loser to have the perseverance to complete one thing.Most of them only rely on imagination to complete their plans rather than consistent actions.Only when you go all the way without doubt, can you have the perseverance to persevere to the end without knowing it.Perseverance and perseverance are common but noble qualities of emotional intelligence that can be cultivated and trained in many ways.At the same time, like all emotional intelligence, it is based on your exact spiritual goals.

Be firm in your purpose: An unprecedentedly strong motivation can drive people beyond many difficulties.Therefore, you must know what you are looking for and be firm with this goal.This is the first step, and the most important step in developing your perseverance and perseverance.

Be eager: go after those goals that you strongly desire, and follow through.You need to be self-reliant and self-reliant: believe that you have the ability to implement the plan, and encourage yourself to stick to the plan and not give up, imply that you can complete the plan, and strengthen the power of self-suggestion.You have to plan accurately: the plan is as close to the facts as possible, and unrealistic goals are easy to give up halfway.You must have correct knowledge: A wise plan should be based on your correct knowledge and experience, not just guesswork and empty imagination, otherwise it is easy to destroy your confidence in successive setbacks and make you persevere go down.

You must be willing to cooperate: you must be in harmony with others, understand each other, communicate with each other, and mobilize and use the strength of the team as much as possible.

You have to have strong willpower: to focus on the goal and to persevere in the face of difficulties.

You have to develop a good habit: establish the previous items as a good habit, and it is best to become an instinctive behavior.In this way, you can become a person with perseverance and perseverance and good at persistence.

Four Easy Steps to Develop Persistence

The practice of these four steps does not require us to have much profound educational background, nor does it require us to possess profound wisdom.These steps can be accomplished with a small investment of time and some basic work.

First, for the clear goal you want to achieve, you must have a passionate desire from your heart.Second, there must be coherent actions to carry out the exact plan that you have drawn up.Third, when negative news comes, you must be able to resist and not affect your heart, including negative hints from people around you.

Fourth, have allies. They are people who encourage themselves or follow you. There must be at least one such person.

There was a girl with a low degree of education who fell into the distress of "how to find a good job for herself" after graduation. She applied for the manager secretary of a foreign trade company, but the company arranged for her to be a clerk in the administrative department.The girl felt that as long as she was a clerk, she could do well. She didn't complain, and she didn't seek another high branch, but readily agreed.

In the first step in the workplace, she demonstrated her character and determination that are superior to ordinary people.In the past few years, I have seen too many young people in China with high vision and low abilities. They have dreams in their hearts, and they can't wait to enter the role immediately and find that comfortable chair. They simply cannot accept the temporary low position and training, let alone let him persevere.After going to work, the girl's job is to receive guests and take care of copying, printing and other trivial matters. This is indeed not a job worth boasting about, it is tedious and hard.Of course, there will be a group of colleagues who don’t mind your troubles. They will always pile up some documents that need to be processed on your desk, and then tell you which ones need to be copied, which ones need to be printed, and how many copies of each type are needed. It is as tedious as asking you to count how many ants are in the anthole.Faced with these problems, the girl was not impatient or impatient. She was extremely patient with all kinds of requests, recorded carefully and did it to the best of her ability.Her earnestness helped the company avoid many losses, so good luck happened, and she was promoted to the manager's secretary.

Extraordinary patience and care will eventually produce perseverance, and then help you succeed.Everyone cannot predetermine his own IQ, but he can improve his EQ, gradually improve his comprehensive ability, and become an outstanding talent.Therefore, persistence is also reflected in another important aspect: we have a valuable and always correct way to improve our leadership, and that is to persevere and never give up at any time.

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