Reborn in that autumn

Conceit and self-confidence are often separated by a thin line, and this line is called self-knowledge, what is within the line is called self-confidence, and what crosses this line is called arrogance.It is precisely because of this reason that many people cannot distinguish between self-confidence and arrogance, which leads to doing wrong things and ultimately only hurting themselves.

In fact, it is not difficult to be confident and stay away from arrogance.The key is whether you have a clear understanding of yourself.Know your own capabilities, don't set unrealistic plans for yourself, think less and act more, and do more things within your capabilities. If this continues, you will naturally feel less conceited.When there is less ego, there are more opportunities for success.

In real life, many men are conceited. Some of them think too highly of themselves. They always think that they are the greatest and treat others as useless. They always think that they are much better than others. Therefore, they have too high expectations for themselves psychologically. , cannot withstand the setback of failure.

Arrogant people often care little about others and are distant from others.They often act in their own interests and do not take others into consideration. As a result, their interpersonal relationships become tense and they themselves are overburdened psychologically.

Self-confidence is undoubtedly a great advantage for men. If a man wants to be successful, he must be confident.But everything has a "degree". If it exceeds the "degree", there will be a phenomenon of going too far and going to the extreme. The same is true for self-confidence. If you are too confident, it will easily turn into arrogance.Conceit is certainly not an advantage. Conceited men will overestimate their abilities, exaggerate their strengths, achievements and strengths unrealistically, blindly believe in their own endurance and ability to operate, ignore everything, despise everything, and can easily fall into trouble. .

Generally speaking, men who are prone to "failure" often have the following four very conceited characteristics. It is not good to have one of them. A man who has these four very conceited characteristics is prone to stumble and will never become a great person. .

He is "blind" in both eyes and cannot see things well.

Arrogant men have often succeeded in the past, or have extraordinary abilities in some aspects, or have achieved impressive results.Therefore, they do not view problems from the perspective of development and change.When looking at themselves, they look at strengths, achievements and strengths; when looking at others, they look at weaknesses, shortcomings and mistakes, always comparing their own strengths to others' weaknesses.

Comparing it like this, you will feel that you are so powerful that you can call the wind and rain, and you can also turn stones into gold.In the whole world, I am the only one who is the most powerful.We are blindly optimistic about the prospects, underestimate or even make mistakes in our development, and we are dismissive of our opponents.

A man who is so conceited must not be good at learning, summarizing and drawing on other people's experiences.There are only two endings for such a man: one is to be abandoned by the times, the other is to be beaten to pieces by his opponents and suffer such a big loss that he will never recover.No matter which one it is, it will not be a great success.

Everyone rebels and abandons their relatives, leaving the family alone.

Arrogant men generally cannot listen to different opinions and hate those who oppose them.They like people who flatter and flatter them. They cannot take good medicine or listen to honest advice. They have the mentality that those who obey me will prosper and those who go against me will perish.

As a result, an overly conceited man often has only scoundrels left around him, or "good guys" who are weak but incompetent. Loyal and courageous people leave him one after another, and he becomes a loner.Nothing can be accomplished, nothing can be accomplished, and if you sit back and wait for failure on your past achievements, you will fall into trouble sooner or later.Such a man, even if he is not defeated by his opponent, will be trapped to death by himself.

If you advance blindly, you will lose more than you gain.

Men who are too conceited tend to overestimate their own strength and underestimate the strength of their opponents.There will be no overall arrangements or detailed plans when doing things, and there will be a lack of contingency measures.Therefore, such a man will blindly rush forward when doing things, and the result can only be a big stumble or even a complete failure.

There were many such people in history, such as the well-known Overlord.At the beginning of the confrontation between the two countries, the overlord was far superior to a certain overlord in terms of military strength and morale. He believed that the overlord did not have the strength to compete with him, and he was confident that the overlord would never develop to compete with him in the world. the point.Because the Overlord was too conceited, he let the Overlord go at the Hongmen Banquet and let the cooked duck fly away under his own eyes. It was also because of the Overlord's excessive conceitedness that when the Overlord was most vulnerable, he repeatedly failed to pursue the victory, leaving behind a prairie fire. spark.

Later, the protection became stronger and he competed with the overlord for the world.A powerful overlord is no longer a minor ailment in the overlord's feet, but a fatal heart disease.In the end, the confident overlord was besieged on all sides in the ancient river. He did not have the courage to cross the river to face his father at home, so he committed suicide and gave away the hegemony he had won with the tip of a knife and horseback.

Self-enclosed and unable to move forward.

Human value is reflected in society, and human success is affected by the current situation.Man is the sum total of society. Only when man is compatible with society and adapts to the times can he keep pace with the times and develop in a coordinated manner.

Men who are overly conceited often make cognitive errors when it comes to the relationship between individuals and society. They tend to emphasize themselves, ignore the influence and role of others, society, and the times on themselves. They are exclusive and isolate themselves from society. , in this way, the basic conditions for survival are lost.If you close yourself tightly, you will gradually become a man who has intelligence but not wisdom, physical strength but not ability, youth but not passion, courage but not perseverance, who talks more than he does, and thinks more than he does. It is naturally easy. If you stumble, you will definitely not be able to achieve success.

People in love will definitely present their best state to each other.Maybe it was only when we were talking about marriage that we discovered that this man turned out to be like this.Work hard!If you really can't change, just turn around. The long-term pain is worse than the short-term pain!Don't miss it, marriage is a lifelong matter!

Men are rational, and they know exactly when to do something, such as showing their best and most perfect side in love (the same is true for women, who wants to let their lover see their ugly side).To be honest, for two couples who truly love each other, the woman will definitely fall in love more and more as time goes by, while the man may become less and less affectionate as time goes by.

This is not to say that men are all scumbags, but after getting along for a long time, men’s attention will be diverted to other aspects, such as work, buying a house or a car, or other beautiful women (no other bad intentions, just pure appreciate).Women are a bit more pure in comparison. The longer they stay together, the heavier his shadow becomes in their eyes, while the shadows of everything else become lighter and lighter.Men don’t love women anymore?no!I still love her very much. This is caused by many factors, such as social factors, family pressure, and the lustful nature of men.