A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

It was not until later when Zhang Lan got the game panel that he was able to regulate the health of his aunt's family.

As a result, after she recovered, Aunt Zhang Lan turned her attention to her child's studies.

Aunt Zhang Lan wanted to improve her child's academic performance, but on the one hand, the child had been sick since childhood and his foundation was average. On the other hand, the child's grandparents were doting on him, and because the child was often sick, they spoiled him even more.

Aunt Zhang Lan and her family had many quarrels because of the issue of children.

Aunt Zhang Lan's mother-in-law has been a powerful person since she was young. The whole family is under her control. When she was young, she was the one who did what she said and had the final say.

Now that I’m older, my selfishness and desire for control have become even more excessive.

He likes to act pitiful when he has nothing to do, saying that he feels uncomfortable here and there, but he won't take medicine or see a doctor. When asked, he says he can hold on and just bear with it.

One characteristic of this type of person is that they are extremely self-centered. They only care about themselves, and if they are really sick, they will definitely not ignore it.

Zhang Lan had heard her mother say several times that her aunt's mother-in-law would make a big fuss over trivial matters. If she was really ill, she would be hospitalized early.

But as long as she lies at home groaning and refuses to go to the doctor when asked, it means that she is not sick at all, but just wants people to pay attention to her and control her family through other people's sympathy and guilt.

This kind of person is essentially a "manipulator" in interpersonal relationships. She wants others to pay attention to her and revolve around her, just like the soldiers under her command. She enjoys the pleasure of "everyone revolves around me and is manipulated by me".

This kind of person will act like the sky is falling on her whenever someone else doesn't tell the truth about something unimportant.

Then you make up experiences to prove your mistakes, such as "You brought back extremely painful memories for me. This is how my ex-girlfriend cheated on me. I didn't expect you to be such a person."

Such people are often hysterical. They use the excuse that "they feel extremely bad" to cleverly replace the concept of "in fact, this is not a mistake at all", making you feel as if you have done something extremely wrong. They use this method to undermine your self-confidence and make you doubt yourself.

He is always right in everything he does. No matter how long you spend with such a person, you will never find him doing anything wrong.

Whenever this kind of people make a mistake, they always blame others and always look for the reason in others, "You made me lose my temper", "You influenced me to do something wrong". They believe that once there is a flaw in their image, it will threaten their control over others.

When talking to others, I like to use the tone of an adult talking to a child. Why? This objectively gives people the impression that "he is more capable than me, he is more mature than me, and he cares about me" because in daily life, this tone of voice will only appear at this time.

In fact, this person is nothing. He just finds out the blind spot of people's attention, triggers other people's psychological conditioned reflexes with a disguised tone, and exerts deceptive psychological suggestion.

This kind of person will have a lot of demands on others. He will flatter others all day long and use a lot of high-sounding moral standards to try every means to restrict people's behavior and thinking.

They also like to compare their own strengths with others' weaknesses, trying to make themselves superior. If they are not good enough, they will make excuses, "Why are you so proud? I know someone who is so and so, and he is much better than you."

If the other party's self-confidence and ego are not destroyed, how can the other party become dependent on this person?

Originally, Zhang Lan's aunt felt that she had no son, and psychologically felt that she owed the Sun family.

Aunt Zhang Lan has always been submissive to the Sun family's various behaviors. Zhang Lan's mother and others think that Aunt Zhang Lan is not doing her job well, but in fact, they can't change anything.

Since the person involved doesn't care, it's useless for anyone else to say anything.

As for Zhang Lan's uncle Sun Zenglin, what can I say? Although Sun Zenglin can be considered a wise man, many times, it is the actions of such wise men that make people feel helpless.

Sun Zenglin is a person within the system. In his early years, the quality of his family relationships had a great impact on his position.

At this time, Sun Zenglin mostly tried to smooth things over. It was not until her son was born that Aunt Zhang Lan began to resist.

At that time, Aunt Zhang Lan thought, I gave birth to a son for your family, but you still scold me every day, and your parents-in-law are unreasonable. How can I tolerate you?

Zhang Lan's mother and uncle went to mediate several times, and Sun Zenglin agreed every time, but he could not control the elderly in the family.

This also explains why the identities of mother and father are completely different from others.

If you are unhappy with your friends, just stop contacting them. If you have a huge fight with your partner and you can no longer get along with him/her, that’s okay, just end it. There are plenty of couples who can be together for two years, just find another one.

But how do you find a mom? How do you find a dad? Are there any substitutes for mom and dad?

Everyone has a natural feeling of longing for their children. No one is unwilling to be in the arms of their parents, even if they are in their seventies or eighties. If they can call "Mom" when they return home, it is the happiest thing in the world.

Getting unconditional love from parents is a core and constant psychological need for every person. But then again, not everyone's parents have perfect character.

Sun Zenglin was not a foolish filial son, but he sacrificed the interests of Aunt Zhang Lan by default in the way he interacted with the people around him. It was not because of anything else, but because Aunt Zhang Lan was more tolerant and easier to bully.

Zhang Lan's mother went to her aunt's house and made a scene, but Zhang Lan thought there was nothing wrong with it. It's been so many years, and the couple are both over 50 years old, and you Sun family members are still bullying people like this.

When you are in your seventies or eighties, it is time for the elders to let go. Just have food and drink every day, and if you have some energy, help look after the house.

If you don't have the energy, just take care of yourself all day long. Not causing trouble for your children is better than anything else.

If you are not deaf or dumb, you don't want to be a patriarch. You want to control the family all day long, without even realizing how old you are. I thought it was the old society, where mothers-in-law were always there and daughters-in-law had to be set rules all the time.

Some people just deserve to be punished. If you are strong, they will be weak. If you are tough, they will be soft. If you don't deal with it properly, the situation will only get worse.

Don’t talk about fairness or unfairness. There is no fairness in life. The essence of life is that you get what you are dealt. Helplessness is the norm in life, and it exists in everyone in some way.