Reborn in 1940 and survived until the new century

"That's right. Fortunately, the relationship between her and I is not even ordinary. Even if she comes to me for help one day in the future, I can refuse her without hesitation.

If the relationship is very good, it is easy to offend people no matter what you do. "

"That's right, but no matter how good the relationship is, if the other party's request is too excessive, you still have to refuse it when it's time to refuse, even if it means offending the other party and you can no longer be friends with them, you still have to refuse.

You have to know that not everything can be done in the face of laws and principles.”

"Can you really refuse the other party?"

"of course can!"

"Even best friends?"

"That's right, friends are friends, and the demands of friends cannot be placed above the law."

"What about between relatives?"

“The same goes for family members.”

"Oh!

Oh well! "

"You are still young, so you don't need to worry about these things. Just know the other party's requirements. If you can't do it, don't agree easily.

Once you promise something but fail to do it, you are not a trustworthy person in the eyes of the other party.

If you can't do something, even if the other person still regards you as a friend, they won't be as close to you as before.

But then again, if the other party's request is too much, it only means that the other party is not sincere in being your friend."

“How do you tell whether the other party’s request is excessive?”

"It's really hard to say. You just have to remember one thing: if you can't do something, then it's too much for the other party to ask you to do it."

"Is this still possible?"

"That's right, you're still young now, if it's something you can't bear, isn't it too much?

When you grow up, if the other party makes a request again, even if you are able to solve it, you will have to consider it face to face. After all, no matter what you do, you have to have the ability to do it.

As long as you need to ask something of others, if they can do it, then there is nothing to complain about. But if they can't, then wouldn't that be making things difficult for them?

The same applies if someone asks you for something. At this time, you have to weigh the pros and cons and decide whether doing so will benefit you.

Although this is not allowed between friends, it is also not allowed for the other party to do whatever they want. ”

"what?"

"Don't say that. Even if I tell you so much now, you won't understand. Just remember what your mother said."

"Oh!

By the way, Mom, there is a classmate in our class. I heard from classmates that his family is obviously very poor, but he has to bring white flour buns to school every day. Do you think such a person can be a friend?"

"What do you think?"

"I don't know what kind of person this is, but I don't like her, and I don't want to be friends with someone like her."

"Then don't be friends with him. There's no benefit in being friends with such a hypocritical person. Not only that, but he might even sell you out at any time without you even telling me."

"what?

How dare she do such a thing?"

"Why not? Your family is obviously in financial difficulty, so why don't you face the reality? Instead, why don't you act like you're rich?

Doesn’t he know how tired his parents are every day, yet they still grit their teeth to support his studies?

In fact, he knows everything, but he just doesn't want others to look down on him!

But at this time, every household is not rich, so what does it matter if they eat worse?

Do people look down on him just because he eats differently?

How can it be?

On the contrary, as long as he studies well, even if he eats worse or dresses worse than others, others will not look down on him.

On the contrary, because he did this and didn't study hard, others looked down on him even more in private.

Don't think that just because we can afford to send you three children to school, we are wealthier than other families. In fact, there is not that much difference.

Maybe there is a difference, but that is only when compared with the fellow villagers in the team. Compared with the people in the city, our family is really better than them!

You know, our family used to have two working parents, but now most of the family income comes from your father. Aren't we inferior to him?"

“That’s true, but don’t worry, mom, we siblings don’t bother to compare ourselves with others.

If you want to compete with each other, you will also compete with each other to see who is better at studying, which is more boring than other aspects. "

"Really? You are all students now, so shouldn't you compare your academic performance?

But speaking of academic performance, I heard that the other kids on the team didn’t do very well in their exams?”

"Mom, judging from the current situation in school, do you think everyone can learn real knowledge?"

"If I can't learn 100%, then at least I can learn 80% or 90%, right?"

"how is this possible?"

"How is it impossible?

Although the content taught by the teacher is all knowledge from the textbook, no matter how the questions are asked, they are all the same. As long as you have mastered the knowledge in the textbook, it shouldn’t be difficult in the exam, right? "

“It’s not difficult, but you also know what the school environment is like now. How many people are actually studying there?

It’s not just about playing, plus factories are basically not hiring workers now, so students with urban hukou and those with no family background will have to go to the countryside when they reach a certain age, so for them, whether they study well or not is just that.”

“Yes, with the environment like this, who would still have the heart to study?

People who really like to study will not be affected no matter how noisy the outside world is. "

"It's not that there is no impact. Although the three of us brothers and sisters did well in the exams, it's not realistic to expect us to study peacefully in school.

Not to mention other things, just talk about your classmates. When you are studying there, they will instead say, what’s the use of studying well?

You can’t take the college entrance examination, and there are no factories hiring workers. After graduation, everyone goes back to their own homes and finds their own mothers.

If you have that time, you might as well have fun, so that you don’t have time to play later.”

"So how do you deal with this situation?"

“How to deal with it?

Anyway, I didn't respond to the other party's words, but instead thought about what I should have done in the past and what I should do now, no, I should say, what I should do in the future.

There is no need to have any contact with people like them. If I have too much contact with them, I am afraid they will affect my studies. "

“You’re right to think so.

By the way, are there many people in your school who think that since they can’t go to college now, they think that studying is useless?”

“Yes, many people think so, but teachers should still teach as usual.

There is one thing: it doesn’t matter whether you study or not, but you must not disturb other students in class.”

"There's nothing wrong with this arrangement. After all, this is the situation now and it's not like before."

"is not that right?

But no matter what, teachers still like students who study well.