After a simple rebirth

Many students cannot adapt to the sudden change in environment. They don’t have good friends, may not adapt to the teacher’s teaching methods, and cannot keep up with the courses all of a sudden, so they are prone to feeling bored with learning and irritable.

Fu Peng is a typical example.

Fu Peng's home is five minutes away from Fu Ying's home. The two families often get together in Guangdong Province. In addition, the children of both families study at Juxing, so they are even more familiar with each other.

Fu Peng and Fu Ying are of the same age and were originally classmates in the same first grade.

Fu Peng's mother thought that the education in Guangdong Province was better, so she sent him to study there. But she was afraid that he could not keep up, so she made him repeat the first grade.

As a result, he really couldn't keep up. In addition, Fu Peng's parents were too busy with work and didn't have much time to take care of him, so they brought him back to Yunnan Province to study.

Because his first-grade grades in Guangdong Province were too poor, Fu Peng returned to Yunnan Province to study for another first grade, and then became Fu Zhe's classmate.

Fu Ying didn't know when Fu Zhe transferred to Guangdong Province. She only knew that when Fu Zhe was studying in Guangdong Province, Fu Peng became Fu Zhe's classmate and they took the school bus to and from school together.

Fu Peng's parents no longer had any hope for his academic performance, and Fu Peng himself couldn't concentrate on his studies, so his grades have always been poor.

Fu Zhe ranked fifth this time and second in the class, which makes Fu Zhe even more rare.

After the teacher finished speaking, he asked the top student in the class to go on stage to give a speech. She was a girl who was obviously a good student. She was thin, with a low ponytail, and was probably only 150cm tall. With her academic temperament, she was quite attractive.

Her speech basically said that she took studying very seriously, and would complete the homework assigned by the teacher at school, and would review and memorize it when she got home.

Fu Ying nodded. It was quite good. Fu Zhe only did his homework during evening self-study. After school, he would play basketball or go out to play.

As Fu Zhe was the second best student in the class and also the one who made the most progress, his parents were invited to share their family education tips.

But Fu's parents were not at home, and Fu Ying was an agent, she was just a student.

The "parent" Fu Ying sorted out her thoughts and reluctantly went on stage.

"Hello everyone, I'm Fu Zhe's second sister, Fu Ying, and I'm also a freshman at Gumang Middle School. I'm here today on behalf of my mother to help him hold a parent-teacher meeting."

As soon as Fu Ying started speaking, a parent in the audience asked loudly, "Are you the top student in the first grade, Fu Ying?"

Fu Ying was stunned. Who is this? So many people, so loud! It's not good not to admit it, but it's a bit embarrassing to admit that I'm the first.

However, this parent knew that his name was in the first year of high school, so he must have a child who was also in the first year of high school.

Fu Ying nodded, "Yes, I'm a freshman in high school. I've ranked first in the exam before, but I don't know the result this time."

There was an uproar in the audience, and the eyes looking at Fu Ying suddenly became much more passionate. Both sister and brother are academic masters!

Fu Ying continued to speak under the eyes of everyone.

“As Teacher Wang said, Fu Zhe has indeed made great progress this semester, mainly because he has matured a little and is willing to learn.

He used to procrastinate on his homework, never review after class, and couldn't sit still when studying. He and I used to study in Guangdong Province, and our parents didn't have time to take care of us. Fu Zhe would go out to play every day after school, thinking it didn't matter whether he studied or not.

I think he didn't understand his responsibilities and was still self-centered, thinking that everything had nothing to do with him. But after he came back, his thinking changed a little.

After returning to Gumang, I first asked him to share the housework, let him know his responsibilities, and let him take the initiative to do things. Before cultivating learning habits, you must first cultivate good personal behavior habits. There is no enjoyment that is taken for granted. You must pay before you get.

Then apply this method to learning.

He found a sense of responsibility and self-confidence from his academic progress one or two times. I told him that if he ranked in the top ten in the class, he would be rewarded with some fun, and after memorizing a few lessons, he could watch TV for half an hour.

If you notice his progress, praise him; if you see his weaknesses in certain subjects, help him to make up for his shortcomings. There is no absolute fool, there is only people who cannot learn for a while.

Although he ranked second in his grade this time, his physics score was not very high. I guess he has not yet fully understood this new subject of physics and needs to spend more time practicing it.

The next step is to shape the environment. At home, we have a dedicated study time and table, and try not to be disturbed. At Gumang Middle School, you can see many people who insist on studying. There are many students who work hard to memorize in the morning and evening self-study. He was influenced by this environment and atmosphere, so he would concentrate and work hard.

It is better to ease than to block, and it is better to work hard on your own. This is what I advised my mother. You can pay attention to his learning status, but you can't just focus on his academic performance and ranking. Just like the teacher often said, progress and his mental health are more important. "

There was applause from the audience, and I didn't know whether it was for Fu Ying's steady and sophisticated words, or for her and Fu Zhe's good results.

After sharing, the head teacher asked the parents to discuss on their own first. Anxious parents would first come to him to understand the specific situation of the students, and the others would be answered one by one.

Some people went up in a hurry, some started chatting below, some came to learn from others, some came to chat with others, and some complained that their good children could not concentrate on learning.

Fu Ying didn't know who Fu Zhe's deskmate was, as they changed seats every month. But the person sitting next to Fu Ying was an old lady who came to help her grandson check his grades.

"Sister, you are so great that you can study with your brother."

Fu Ying said modestly, "It's OK. The main reason is that my brother is willing to listen and can take it in."

"Alas, it's not the same in my family. My Yu Chen won't listen to his sister. His sister is in the second year of high school, and they quarrel every day." The old man sighed.

When Fu Ying heard about the situation where the elder sister taught but the younger brother didn't listen, she subconsciously thought it was an adult problem.

"Old man, do you think his sister is right? If she is, you should support her and stand on her side. Yu Chen will gradually listen to her. When his sister speaks, you must not help Yu Chen, otherwise Yu Chen will definitely not listen, and his sister will think you are biased, and then the two of them will only become more and more estranged."

"Oh, no way, it's not a big deal," the old man looked at Fu Ying in surprise.

Fu Ying shook her head and said seriously,

"The most feared thing in my family is unfairness. Every child has an opinion about unfairness. Sometimes my mother does things unfairly, and I feel disappointed. Your granddaughter is the same. My brother listens to me because what I say is what I mean. He will not change his mind if he agrees. My mother knows that I teach my brother, and she will also tell him not to listen to me. So I won't let my mother deliberately favor anyone, otherwise no one will be happy in the end."

"It can't be that serious. We've been through this before and we were fine with each other as brothers and sisters."

The old lady didn't take it seriously at first and said she was just asking because her grades were good. But then she suddenly felt that she was just a little girl and her words were too exaggerated.

After the old lady said this, Fu Ying immediately shut up and refused to talk any more.

The pain of the original family does not only come from the parents, but it is something that everyone has to go through. When to reconcile with oneself depends on personal experience.