How to make my boyfriend fall in love with me

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[Help] I think my boyfriend may not love me.

However, if he didn't love me, why did he agree to be with me in the first place?

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My brain got hot and I actually opened a post here. First of all, thank you for your concern for me.In fact, it is a very simple thing, I just easily mess up all the simple things.

In a nutshell, I want to come out to my parents, then take my boyfriend home and say hello.

But my boyfriend doesn't want to.

In fact, I can understand his reluctance. After all, the same-sex marriage law in my country has only been passed for less than a few years. Although homosexuality is no longer regarded as a big thing among young people, there are still many older people who cannot accept homosexuality. together.

So it is precisely because of this that I asked me to tell my parents first.

I imagined that if one day I ran back and came out to my parents, their attitude would be very tough at the beginning, just like they have shown me in the past 20 years-stern and harsh, never praise, full of control Desire - I have always understood them, and they have a great possibility to force me and my boyfriend to break up immediately.

It’s just that I’ve been born for the first time and I’ve been familiar with it for the second time. I’ve thought that if my attitude is strong enough, they won’t be able to do anything to me—they can’t shame me into beating and scolding me, nor can they be bothered to do something similar to “find a psychiatrist”. It was useless for me to break straight, and I didn't have much energy to force me to go home obediently, not to mention that I haven't been back to their home for many years.

They can always accept it. They are never the kind of people who are unwilling to accept the established reality. I am not the only child in the family, and I am not worthy of being the only hope they hold in their hands. Not long after I came to T City, due to various reasons, I still live outside of a house they bought locally (I even suspect that they just forgot after finding someone to run this property), and I don’t have any other constraints from them things.So, as long as we say hello in advance, and bring our boyfriends to the door later, they will at most say a few innocuous words, and they will not have any temper to drive us out of the house immediately.

But my boyfriend didn't want to, and his reaction was very violent.

My boyfriend and I were having dinner at the time.That day was Valentine's Day, and it was rare for my boyfriend to not work overtime. I was really happy when he told me "I'll be back early on Valentine's Day night", because in fact, I made a reservation a long time in advance. I ordered a western restaurant, but I never told him... because he is really busy at work and often works overtime. Girl, it's only cute to act like a baby and make a noise to make your boyfriend put down the business at hand just for the two of them to spend a festival together.

I thought that there was a [-]% to [-]% chance that he was busy that day, so I booked the restaurant first and didn't tell him, so when he suddenly said this to me, I clearly felt my heart After a pause, there was a "bang bang bang" immediately. I pretended to be very calm at that time, buried my head in the book and answered him: "Okay, then I'll book a restaurant."

He seemed to pause and asked me, "Now? Is it too late now?"

I didn't dare to lift my head at the time, so I held back for a long time and said, "It's okay."

I didn't mention it, but I really hoped that he would come back early that day to spend the holiday with me.

I don't want any elaborate gifts, I don't need to go to such a luxurious restaurant, I don't need to travel anywhere, and I don't want any unexpected surprises.

I just want to spend a holiday with him.

This is our first Valentine's Day together after all.

I’m not afraid of you laughing, actually, I called the restaurant the day after I knew he would be able to go with me and agreed with the restaurant—don’t serve two servings of dessert at the end, just serve one six-inch dessert. Because he happened to work overtime on my boyfriend’s birthday before, and I went to another province to listen to lectures on my birthday this year because of a business trip, so I thought I might as well take advantage of the rare time of being together on Valentine’s Day to make up a cake, and then the two of them Make a wish and eat together.

I've never been a romantic person, and this is about as romantic as I can imagine.

Just thinking about it later, it is indeed like what my friend said, I am such an adult, I still don’t know how to read people’s faces, book restaurants on my own initiative, create "romance" pretentiously, and think that the atmosphere is good, self-righteous, In fact, he was not very happy at the time.

In fact, I have never really known how to make him happy, and I have no way or know how to guess his mood. I often feel like a gambler who is sitting at the gambling table and is about to run out of chips, carefully spying on the face of the croupier , I will not know the winner or loser of this game until the bottom of the card is revealed. The gambler puts everything on himself, and the only thing he wants is the dealer's smile.

It's a bit far-fetched... Later, I (self) thought that the atmosphere was very good at that time, and suddenly I told him what do you think of our relationship now.

He was still poking steaks with silver knives a second ago (now that I think about it, the restaurant is not very suitable for him... I just took care of my face and didn't say it... But I just cared I am happy and moved myself, it is really a failure), when I heard this sentence, I suddenly raised my head to look at me.

To be honest, I realized that the question was inexplicable at the time, and felt a little embarrassed. Just as I was about to change the subject, he smiled at me and said, "What do you think?"

I was speechless for a moment.

In fact, my boyfriend was not a person who laughed a lot when he was in school. After graduation, he started a company with his friends, but because he was too young, he might not be able to hold down some employees who were much older than him. , That's why I wear leather suits and thin-rimmed glasses every day, making me even more serious.

People who don't smile often are really charming when they smile.

At that time, I didn't even have time to discern the meaning contained in his smile, so I said to him in a feverish manner, I want to introduce you to my parents when I go home next month... um... Maybe it's about do you want to meet my parents?I don't remember clearly.

Because his face changed in the next second, and he rejected me very fiercely.

Probably because the environment of the western restaurant was too quiet, and his voice of "no" was a little bit louder. At that time, many guests in other seats also looked at us... It was really embarrassing Yeah... I held it in for a long time, and I was stunned to say why.

He didn't answer, he just walked away.

Then I sat alone at the table for two like an idiot. The restaurant waiter hesitated for a while, and then came over cautiously and asked me if the cake was still on.

Probably because I feel that the bad appearance of being dumped by my dating partner on Valentine's Day is really worthy of pity.

Of course, I had no choice but to say forget it, and then dawdled in place to finish the remaining spaghetti gratin, thinking that I would wait until he was almost home before starting back, so that the time of washing and bedtime was staggered, and it was also To avoid embarrassment, when I checked out, I found that my boyfriend had already paid the bill.

How considerate.

It's just that I dawdled in the restaurant for at least an hour, and when I went out, I found that my boyfriend was still waiting outside.

It was still very cold in T city in February. He didn't wear a scarf, and he looked a little cute when he was wearing a windbreaker made of hard material and unconsciously shrinking his neck. When I saw him, he was concentrating on playing with his phone and didn't unlock the lock screen. That kind is purely playing with a mobile phone, standing under a street lamp with a cigarette in its mouth, which is particularly conspicuous.

Then he saw me coming out and didn't say hello, so he turned around and walked towards the parking lot.

I had no choice but to trot to keep up with him, but when I got behind him, I didn't know what to say, so I had to guess from the back of his head whether he was still angry. He probably noticed my gaze, and suddenly took down the cigarette. He turned his head and said coldly that he didn't smoke, just held it in his mouth.

I said "Huh?" and nodded like a fool, but he said "tsk" and didn't say anything else.

We just walked home without a word.

...Now my mind is a bit confused, I just write where I think, which is obviously just a very simple thing... I actually wrote so much nagging, looking back, it is really a bit incomprehensible and logically confused, I really trouble everyone to understand.

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