Dedicated to Luhe

Lu He said that he was sharing his thoughts, and he didn't need me to exchange secrets, but I knew that his thoughts should not be shared with others casually.

But since he wants to say it, let him say that everyone needs an outlet to vent their emotions. A person like Lu He who is always tense should need someone who can listen to him besides exercising and cooking.

Don't ask me how I know, single dogs who have lived alone for a long time will understand.

"Didn't you tell me to play more with everyone?" Lu He looked forward, I don't know if he was looking at the curling heat or looking at the wooden table opposite, "I came to our company just after returning to China. It was a few years ago."

I nodded, saying that I had heard of it, and he was very awesome when he first came and directly parachuted into the management team.

"I haven't been back to China for a long time before this, and there are almost no friends here, and my family members are not in this city." Lu He said, "At that time, I was thinking, I want to get along well with everyone, even if I don't become friends, but on weekends It’s always okay to have a meal together.”

"It's pretty good." I said, "Although colleagues can't expect to be very close friends, it's still quite easy to find a meal partner."

Lu He laughed out loud, and turned to look at me: "Like the two of us?"

the two of us?

Are we two good friends?

"Let's not count," I said, "we just ate together a few times at noon a while ago, and it was all made by you."

After finishing speaking, Lu He looked at me as if he was a little disappointed, wondering if I was thinking too much.

I really don't understand him, does he want me to answer "yes" or "no"?

"What happened later?" I hurriedly changed the subject, "I see that you and everyone else also..."

Lu He nodded, and guessed what I was thinking before I finished speaking.

"There is always a difference between reality and ideals," Lu He smiled wryly. "At that time, I kept thinking, could it be that my airborne took someone's position? Or do you mean what do you think of me as the new director?" ?In short, after I came, everyone was not repulsive, and they were all kind, but there was always a sense of distance from me."

I remembered what happened when we were in the hot spring pool in the lobby. Everyone was enthusiastic and polite when they saw Lu He coming, but the birds and beasts dispersed after a while.

Lu He said: "It may seem that I am a little narrow-minded, but I did pay attention to everyone."

He stretched himself, and I couldn't control my eyes, looking at his arm muscles.

"They sitting in the big office area and me in the independent office not far away seem to be in two worlds. They will share snacks, information about the new store downstairs, and some interesting or boring things with each other. There seems to be some tacit understanding between them, all potential workplace tacit understandings, and these are things I don’t understand.”

I probably understand what he means.

In fact, it is normal for Lu He not to understand, because when he comes, he sits in his "small world".

I don't know what a foreign workplace is like, and I don't know what kind of experience Lu He had when he worked abroad, but here, there are indeed some default rules in the workplace.

The rules I am talking about are not pornographic ones, but simple tacit understanding between colleagues.

For example, we really seldom have heart-to-heart conversations, and we seldom really treat our colleagues as our close friends and talk about everything.

We can complain about other colleagues or leaders together, we can complain about the company or a certain company’s rules and regulations together, we can cover up for each other when the other party is fishing, and we can stare at the teacher when the other party is secretly sleeping like a student at the same table lead.

But that doesn't mean we're friends.

For another example, we seem to like to share, but we rarely let colleagues enter our lives seriously.

We can share delicious food, share gossip, and share some embarrassing or wonderful things that we have just experienced around us, but not the real thoughts.We seem to be close and warm, but in fact we always keep a safe distance. Even if we share the same suite, we will always close the door as soon as possible when we return to our room after work.

Simply put, colleagues are always outsiders.

Of course, it’s not absolute. Some people meet important friends in their lives in the workplace, but in most cases, veterans in the workplace still like to keep a certain distance from their colleagues.

We are all like this, let alone treat our bosses.

A colleague I shared with me once said: "The boss is the god I love and the enemy I hate. I can admire him, but never let me really fall in love with him."

When Lu He told me these things, I kept repeating this sentence in my mind.

"Are you distracted again?"

"Ah, no, no."

Lu He smiled: "You are always wandering in the sky, it's very dangerous to be outside like this."

"It's okay." I was a little embarrassed and rubbed my nose vigorously.

Lu He said: "This is what is on my mind. I tried to integrate into them, but found that I couldn't do it."

"Can I ask you a question?"

"You said."

"When you were abroad, did you have any grassroots work experience?"

Could it be that someone really became a leader right out of school?No way?No way?There really isn't such a person, is there?

"Of course." Lu He said, "It's just that the working environment and state at that time were different from what they are now."

"Why is it different?" He should have understood what I meant and what I wanted to ask.

"Back then I was doing independent projects."

"Independent project?"

"Well, just a few days after I joined the company, the department had a new project and asked everyone, including me, to propose a proposal. A week later, my proposal was approved, and the boss asked me to select people to form a project. group, independently, and then the project team stabilized, and after we did a few big projects, it became a branch company.”

"...Understood." There are really people who become leaders right out of school. Coupled with cultural differences, it is normal for him not to understand our unspoken rules in the workplace.

Both of us were silent for a while, I don't know what Lu He was thinking, but what I thought was: comparing people to others makes people mad.

"Lu He."

I call him.

"Huh?" He turned to look at me, not knowing when he put on his glasses.

I told him what my colleague said at the time, and then told him: "Speaking of which, in fact, you just want to say that you have no friends or family around you, and you are quite lonely, right?"

Lu He didn't speak, and didn't look at me anymore.

I rubbed my nose again, and said, "Then, you can have a girlfriend."

"what?"

"With a girlfriend, I shouldn't be lonely anymore." I smiled, feeling sincerely, "I'm such a genius."