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Yue Ya'er wanted to say something, but seeing that Wang Feiyan didn't have any expression, she didn't seem to want to say anything, she just wanted to read it all in one go, so she closed her mouth.Read on:

The second link of crisis intervention: Encouraging help-seekers to confide

Counselor: I heard from my father that something frightened him happened in the early hours of yesterday. Can you tell me what it is?

Help-seeker: I couldn't think about it, so I made a cut on my wrist with a knife.

Psychological counselor: I looked carefully at the wrist of the help-seeker, and asked softly: Did it hurt at that time?

Helper: It hurts, it hurts.

Counselor: Are you still in pain?

Caller: It's better now.

Counselor: Why did you choose this way?

Help-seeker: I couldn't think about it at the time, I thought it was my fault, and I was ashamed of my father and mother.They are all angry because of me.

Counselor: What happened to make them so angry?

Help-seeker: I was in school...

Analysis of intervention methods:

The psychological counselor guides the victimized girl to tell her distress, the purpose is to vent the emotions of the help-seeker.

Here, I adopted the method of "roundabout inquiry" in order to avoid direct inquiry that may cause secondary harm to the victimized girl.

According to the content of the conversation, we held the victimized girl's hand at the right time and asked in detail how it felt to cut her wrists. While creating a harmonious atmosphere, we also further strengthened the consequences of the victimized girl's stupid behavior, paving the way for the following intervention.

Seeing this, Wang Feiyan stood up, leaned against the edge of the desk, folded her arms around her chest, and said: Sister-in-law, do you know?How terrible this kind of secondary injury is. In order not to suffer secondary injury, my parents moved, and I also changed schools. People’s words are terrible, gossips, people who tell lies, why can’t you sentencing?Originally we were the victims, but instead we were talked about. Why didn't they talk about the person who did the bad thing?Bullying the weak and fearing the strong, the boneless long-tongued people, why do they have the face to accuse us victims? I really don't understand...

Yue Ya'er looked at the excited Wang Feiyan, the more she talked, the more excited she was, the more she cursed and became more vigorous, worried that Wang Feiyan would not be able to bear it, so she took a step forward, hugged her gently and said: "Sister, Yan'er, why don't we eat some cherries?"Do you have fruit in your refrigerator?What do you want to eat?Litchi, dragon fruit, whatever, come here.

Wang Feiyan was amused by the gluttonous Crescent Moon, walked over, found a lot of fruits from the refrigerator, put them in the warmer, and after 3 minutes, it was just right.

The two of them ate and drank, and after a while, the wind swept away and the plate was full of mess.The mouth is one of the safety organs of people. As long as the mouth moves, people's emotions will settle down and they will feel safe and comfortable.

Crescent Moon and Wang Feiyan, who were satisfied with the food, continued to read:

Consultation details:

1. In this session, we called the victim 35 times "baby". Every time we called, we could see more tears pouring out of the victim's eyes.

2. In this session, we found that the victim repeatedly said that she is not a "good girl" anymore, that everyone doesn't like her anymore, it's all because of her fault, if she didn't associate with those people, maybe she wouldn't be raped .

The Third Link of Crisis Intervention: Helping Help-seekers Recover Their Confidence

Counselor: After hearing your story, we feel very sad. We know that you are a good boy. After encountering such a thing, I knew that I couldn’t get rid of it, and I didn’t want my parents to worry about you, so you chose Not going to school.Is that so?

The help-seeker nodded silently and said: Yes.

Counselor: I talked to your parents, they said that you were a good girl since childhood, and you were a good girl in school, no matter what you are, they will like you.

This incident has caused you great harm, and they are also very sad. Mom loves you, mom loves you, and mom loves you.Believe that you can come out on your own.

. . .

□□Not your fault.

Those who slander you are not good children. They will pay the corresponding price for their actions.

Helper: (continues to cry)

. . .

Counselor: You are crying all day long, not eating or drinking, and using other people's mistakes to punish yourself.

Psychological counselor counselor: Are you wrong?

Caller: (shakes head).

Counselor: Then why do you still torture yourself like this?

Help-seeker: (Hesitated for a while, wanted to say something, but didn’t say it)

Psychological counselor: You are a good boy, you are a happy kid, you used to have many good friends and many hobbies.is that so?

Helper: Yes.

Psychological counselor: We will have a lot of unhappiness in our lives.But those unhappiness will always pass.You are a free bird. After this injury, you know how to cherish, cherish your father, cherish your mother, cherish yourself, and cherish your family. We believe that you will also get out of the psychological shadow and enter the sunny zone.isn't it?

Caller: Speechless

Psychological counselor: What you need to do now is: adjust your body as soon as possible, and try to go out for a walk first.Things have passed, things have passed forever, since we can't change the past, but we can choose the future.

. . .

Seeing Wang Feiyan here, she finally felt much better, and said: Sister-in-law, thank you, thank you for helping me, helping me get out of the shadows, helping me find my former self, and let myself fall in love with myself from the beginning. Prejudice, thinking that I was not good enough, not careful enough, that made my parents leave their homes. Now, I know that it is not my fault, it is the fault of the bad guys. It's the truth, sister-in-law, I want to sign up to learn Taekwondo.

Seeing Wang Feiyan who no longer hated herself, and Wang Feiyan who came out of the swamp of guilt, Yue Ya'er was so excited that she wept with joy and said, "Okay, my sister-in-law will accompany you to sign up, and I will find you after get off work tomorrow."Um.

The two embraced excitedly.Crescent Moon has even forgotten that he is a cross-dresser, Wang Feiyan finally felt a solid hug.After the hug, the two continued to look down at the article:

Analysis of intervention methods:

The victim has always been a "good boy". One of the criteria for a good boy is not to be with a bad boy.Now that she has been raped by a bad boy, she becomes a bad boy herself.

Mom and Dad like good kids and don't like bad kids.Therefore, the victim blames himself and blames himself, thinking that being raped is his own fault.

Psychological counselors have two counseling directions in this link:

1. Discriminate and analyze the problem of "good boy" and bad boy together with the victim.

2. Tell the victim that being raped is not your fault, and it will not affect everyone's evaluation of "good boy".

At the consultation site, because the victim was depressed and unwilling to speak, we chose the latter.

Consultation details:

1. We said "You're a good boy" 42 times and "We all like you" 16 times.

2. Timely emphasis: cutting wrists is stupid, you can't pay for other people's mistakes.Paving the way for the ultimate goal of reducing suicide risk

3. The past is the past. . .

The Fourth Link of Crisis Intervention: Strengthening the Effect of Consultation

This link was pre-designed, but this method of "relaxation exercises plus hypnotic suggestion" was temporarily added by the crisis intervention team according to the needs of the scene.

During the consultation process, we found that the victim's mood had improved, and he began to make eye contact with us, and his expression was no longer serious.There is a clear sense that the victim desires to be accepted and respected.Her language began to increase, and her willingness to continue communicating was evident.

The client is a "good kid" who has established a relationship with the counselor.She began to trust the consultant, accept the consultant, and was willing to listen to the consultant.

Therefore, our on-site crisis intervention team temporarily added a link, which is to do a relaxation exercise for the help-seeker and give psychological hints to the victim in a timely manner to solidify the consultation effect.

Counselor: Come on, baby, the teacher will give you a relaxation exercise, okay?

Helper: yes

Counselor: Close your eyes and follow the teacher to do some relaxation exercises. . .

To breathe through your belly, close your mouth as you inhale, inhale through your nose, and get as much air into your brain as possible. .Feel the cool sensation in your nasal passages. . .

When exhaling, exhale slowly, paying attention to the numb feeling on the lips.

Okay, let's do it together, take a deep breath. . .

Suck~~

huh~~

Inhale your happiness~

Spit out your worries. . .

Suck~~

huh~~

Suck hard. . .

Yes, exhale softly again. . .

. . .

close your eyes, yes~

Don't open it, yes, just like this, continue to breathe~

Continue to listen to me and say slowly:

you are a good girl..

You are a beautiful, very beautiful girl...

We all like you...

We are all willing to accept you and accept you to come back to us again...

All of us have seen your strength...

We all want you to be happy...

. . .

Okay~~ Slowly open your eyes, slowly open.

Yes~~~Ok~, that's it

Take a look around you with your eyes, there are fathers, mothers, and us. . .

You feel fresh and comfortable now, don't you baby

Helper: (nodding)

Counselor: Come on, sit up slowly, yes, that's it. .

give your mom a hug, ok?

Say to mom: Mom, you have suffered. . .

Helper: (crying)

Counselor: hug your dad, forgive dad, dad shouldn't hit you. . .

Dad says "I'm sorry" to the baby.

Helper: (crying)

Analysis of intervention methods:

Suggestion is the main feature of this link.People are most likely to accept hints in a relaxed state, so in this session, we used relaxation exercises to ease the victim's anxiety and give the victim some hints in a timely manner.

After the victim was raped, the beating, scolding and accusations of the father and mother caused a certain amount of psychological harm to the victimized girl.Therefore, we designed a link for the victim to hug his father and mother.The purpose is to integrate the family relationship so that the victim has a complete family support system.Conducive to psychological rehabilitation of victims.

Rescue details: We saw that the victim girl was crying all the time.But the tears at this time are no longer helpless tears, but sincere gratitude.

Thank you dad, thank you mom, there is no sound here. . .

The Fifth Link of Crisis Intervention: Integration of Social Support System

The psychological counselor called the victim's parents to another room for separate psychological counseling.

Purpose of tutoring:

1. Acknowledge the fact of the injury.

2. Relieve your own stress.

3. Provide victims with a platform for psychological recovery.

4. Change parents' misconceptions: being raped is because of "the child's own fault", if you don't play with them, you won't be raped.

What we want to make clear to our parents is:

1. After the matter is over, there will naturally be laws to resolve it later.Keep the "hatred" in your heart, and don't hurt your emotions and body for things that have passed.

2. Stop beating, scolding and blaming the victim.A "healthy, alive" child is more important than anything else.

3. It is not the "incident" that determines emotions, but your views on this event.The child has been injured, and you can no longer let an injured child bear the "family reputation".It's unfair and inhumane and you can't rub salt in the wounds of this wounded child.

4. Close your "mouths", put on your "masks", forget the "events" that have happened, and let harmony and smiles return to your home.

5. The child is in a state of emergency, and the role of the father is the most important.Hug the child more or touch the child's head and ears more, and hold the child's hand as much as possible when talking.Give your child more acceptance and comfort.

Analysis of intervention methods:

It is not terrible to encounter a scorpion, what is terrible is that the traditional forces will make the victim lose family, friendship and love.

Therefore, in this case of the girl being raped, in addition to assisting the girl, it is important to also provide counseling to the girl's parents.In a sense: Parents are victims too.

Since our working target is the victimized girls, not their parents, our goal in this session of consultation has always been: to provide girls with a good social support system to facilitate their physical and psychological recovery.

detail:

When we talk to girls, we use warmth and empathy.

The magnetic voice and beautiful sentences create an infinitely warm atmosphere.

When we talked to the parents, we used fierce words, agitated tones, and short sentences to express our views on this matter and the absurdity of blaming them (beating, scolding and accusations).

Psychological counseling testimonials:

Psychological counselors must be good at creating an atmosphere.

Excited doesn't mean you're "excited".

Warmth does not mean you are "gentle".

Just because you're heartbroken doesn't mean you're really "angry"

Psychological counselors should be good at expressing (language)

Psychological counselors should be good at acting (non-verbal)

"Expressing and performing" is not the purpose, but to create a certain atmosphere according to the needs of treatment is your purpose.

For help-seekers: the effect is the last word.

Psychological counseling is to "control the result through the process".

Everything, depends on the need for treatment.

At the end of the article, the two of them are still immersed in the truth of it, thinking about it carefully, each thinking about their own future happy life, although Yue Yaer has not suffered this kind of harm, but Yue Yaer hates it because Yue Ya'er's first love was because of encountering a hooligan, so she went away. The whole family moved and left Yue Ya'er's village.

Wang Feiyan walked out of the shadows, and Yue Yaer remembered the blogger of this article: Holy Worry.It also made Crescent Moon remember the author of this article: admin.

The author has something to say: chapters 38 and 39, both have quotations, wonderful, thanks to the author admin, thank you, it can help girls learn the ability to save themselves, and see that the things themselves are not their own fault, but the fault of bad children , I am still the same person I used to be. It is good that no one will not know you. We are your strong backing. Go forward, choose the future, the future is still calling you in the distance, girls, stride forward, bless girls Children, always be safe and healthy, bless the mothers of the world, you are the patron saints of girls, call the fathers of the world, you are the guardians of girls.

Don't scold the child, don't think that the child will lie, don't go to school, skip class, everything has a reason, find out the cause and effect of the matter, and solve it.

When children are hurt, parents are also victims. Only parents can understand the feeling of fear and fear, bow down.