A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

It is not good to think too much. Most of the time, thinking is just thinking too much, or it can be called mental exhaustion.

There are always countless thoughts in my mind, I often have wild thoughts and habitually pessimistic attitudes towards life. Tangled, twisted, inner dramas one after another, the thoughts in my heart slowly accumulate into a mountain, crushing my nerves.

In psychology, there is a term for this kind of personality called pessimism, also known as introverted personality. People with introverted personality are often in a very pessimistic state. For example, they do nothing all day, but feel very tired physically and mentally. They always have wild thoughts, over-interpret other people's words, and are entangled, twisted, and have a lot of inner drama, and they always deny themselves.

People with an introverted personality always like to have wild thoughts, feel anxious, tired, decadent, and even have a series of adverse effects on the body such as laziness and insomnia.

Psychologists believe that self-destructive behavior often originates from an individual's early experiences, especially the relationship with parents, negative experiences in childhood, or stress. During growth, these experiences may cause individuals to develop a core belief that they are not good enough. When this belief is deeply rooted, even if you have achieved success in adulthood, you will inevitably doubt yourself.

In addition, self-consumption is also related to the individual's coping mechanism. Some people may adopt negative coping strategies, such as escape or obstruction of self-progress, due to lack of effective coping skills. These strategies may reduce anxiety in the short term, but in the long run they are self-destructive behaviors.

To put it bluntly, mental exhaustion is simply because there are too many dramas in one's mind. Before one's words are spoken, the ending has been played out thousands of times; before one's body moves, the mind has gone through thousands of mountains; before one's actions are accomplished, the illusion of suffering and sorrow cannot be unfolded; after the matter is done, the past is still playing out in one's mind.

I think about this and that all day long, but never take any action.

When you think about some problems in your mind, it seems to be very thorough, but in fact it is all useless work.

After dinner, Zhang Lan had just taken a shower and lay down on the bed in the hotel when her cell phone rang.

"What's wrong, Chaoyang?" Zhang Lan was a little surprised that the person who called was Li Chaoyang. Since Li Chaoyang had a child, the two had not contacted each other for a long time. Zhang Lan was fine, but Li Chaoyang seemed to feel that he owed her too much, and would not call Zhang Lan easily unless there was something going on.

"It's nothing. I just saw that you were at home. Let's go out for a drink when you have time." Li Chaoyang said with a smile.

"Are you going back to Canghe now?" Zhang Lan asked.

"Yes, my father's health is not very good, and my wife's health is not very good after giving birth. The consumption in big cities is high, and the monthly mortgage and various living expenses are almost not enough for me to support with my salary alone. So I plan to sell the house and find a job in Xiang City in the future. If it is stable, I will live in my hometown in the future." Li Chaoyang explained.

Zhang Lan nodded: "That's good. The living pressure in a small county town is not that great. If you can hold on, you should keep the house. The housing prices are so high now."

Li Chaoyang sighed, "It's because I'm in such a bad situation that I have to sell it as soon as possible. With the money, I can buy a house in full and a car here, and I don't have to worry about my children's schooling. I guess I'm a deserter."

"What kind of desertion is this? You can't let this stop you from holding on for a few years, and end up with a lot of illnesses and debts. Because of borrowing money to buy cars and houses in previous years, aren't there many people who don't even dare to have children now? Big cities have their opportunities, and our small city also has its life." Zhang Lan advised.

"Don't think that returning to your hometown is an escape. And why can't you escape? If you can't hold on any longer, do you have to endure it? It must be wrong to want to lie down when you are tired of making progress. Don't think too much. Life is for yourself, not for others to see. Only people have a home. If there is no one, what's the point of guarding a big house?"

As long as you can save face, why can't you admit that you just want to escape? Why is escaping something shameful? It is obviously a human instinct to seek benefits and avoid harm. When you feel that you are being hurt or in danger, isn't it natural to avoid danger?

In psychology, escape is just a psychological defense mechanism. Psychological defense mechanism refers to an adaptive tendency in an individual's internal psychological activities to consciously or unconsciously relieve worries, reduce inner anxiety and restore psychological balance and stability when an individual's impulses, desires, thoughts and behaviors encounter obstacles or cannot be realized.

This kind of psychological activity is usually very hidden. If you don’t have a high level of self-awareness, you often can’t perceive these activities at the subconscious level. It may have a good influence on people, or it may have a bad influence on people.

In the face of some particularly great sorrows, escape can alleviate a person's pain to a certain extent; but if one escapes for a long time, it will also cause a person to get used to staying in the comfort zone for a long time and become increasingly decadent.

Most of the time, we are taught that escaping is shameful. If we want to escape, someone will say: escaping is useless, escaping will not solve the problem, and escaping is a sign of cowardice.

A true warrior dares to face the bleakness of life and the blood. When everyone is pursuing absolute correctness, no one ever asks themselves deep in their hearts whether they are tired or in pain.

No matter how strong a person is, he or she cannot function normally every day of the year like a machine. There will always be times when you are helpless and your ability to bear reaches its limit. Even though you are holding on to your mental state, you are already on the verge of death. Why do you still hold on? Why can't you give up?

Humans are not the kind of animals that survive solely on theories. Everyone has the right to escape. Don’t always seek to be relieved immediately when you are hurt, and don’t always seek to hold on for a little longer when you are exhausted.

As a human being, vulnerability is a right. Everyone escapes when they want to escape and rests when they want to rest. Compared to the argument that escaping is shameful, the most important thing is to stay alive.

We often see cases online of programmers dying suddenly from working too much overtime and delivery men collapsing late at night. If they could just relax a little when they can't bear it mentally and physically, there wouldn't be so many tragic tragedies.

Not allowing escape and retreat is indeed of great significance to the progress of the times, but every bit of wealth in society must ultimately be realized in the lives of individuals. If individuals disappear, what is the point of a wealthy society?

While desperately trying to move forward, we should not forget that our perception and passion for life as human beings are the precious things that can truly enable us to gain a sense of happiness and security in the long run.

Escaping does not mean giving up hope, but giving yourself a moderate acceptance process. After all, people have limited tolerance, and forcing a person to accept something instantly is too much. A short escape gives your body and mind a short break and creates a quiet and peaceful environment for your body and mind.