A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

Children are extremely important to every family. If children are involved in whatever they do, some people think that only in this way can children grow up safely.

However, although children's future requires support and help from their parents, children are not toys. If the care for children exceeds a certain limit, many subsequent problems will arise.

If a child is born to inherit one's own toil, panic, and poverty, then not giving birth is also a kind thing.

In the past, people always said: "If you have more children, there may be rain in any cloud."

Nowadays, many people think: "If you are poor, don't have children. If you can't give your children a good life, it's selfish."

It seems like a long time from when a child is born to when he enters society, but the time he can spend with his parents is not much.

Nowadays, many people put their children at the starting line in order to ensure that their children do not lose. They send their children to day care before they are one year old, and then they can only see them when they go home at night.

Some even have to be cared for by their parents or nannies after giving birth because of their busy schedules.

Although this provides good living conditions for the children, it lacks a complete family or even a warm family relationship for the children.

Some people use their lives to heal their childhood, and some people use their childhood to heal their lives.

As the saying goes, 3 years old determines a lifetime. Children after the age of 3 have judgment and awareness. If they do not receive good education and guidance during these three years, most of the time, they are destined to lack the self-confidence and courage from the family compared with their peers.

It is said that poor people must be hateful. It is not by controlling your child's life that your child will live the life you want him to live.

People are independent individuals, not "puppets" kidnapped by family affection.

Parents are children's mirrors, and children are their parents' shadows.

Filter out the positive aspects of something and only select viewpoints that are consistent with your own negative worldview to support negative emotions. If you don't get out of your emotions in time, you can easily fall into a thinking circle and make mistakes.

One thought of hell, one thought of heaven.

If you indulge your emotions and allow the snowball to snowball, you will eventually overwhelm yourself and block your way out.

Zhang Lan's advice to Dan Wenjing was to calm down and not let herself get lost in emotional infighting. Don't trap yourself in past emotions.

It's not a big deal, don't try to surround yourself with the whole family. Everyone is an independent individual. Don't think that others will always act under your baton.

Family relationships need to be maintained. As for Wenjing's current situation, Zhang Lan's suggestion is that it is not bad to burn incense and worship Buddha, but not in the local area. It is best to go out alone for a walk.

Put down your family and children and go out to relax. After a long time and you relax, you will look back at many things from a different perspective.

Zhang Lan's advice was to tell Dan Wenjing to be more generous, stop thinking about this and that, and go out for a walk if it doesn't work. Qin Yongjun next to him also made similar suggestions, but Wen Jing didn't seem to listen.

After burning incense and bowing in front of the Bodhisattva statue, and after returning to the house and talking about family again, Wen Jing's idea was to get divorced if she couldn't survive.

But Wen Jing keeps saying that there are 30 million single men, and there is still no shortage of people to chase after divorce. Why should she compromise for her family instead of her husband and children apologizing to herself.

Seeing that Dan Wenjing's words meant that she had made great sacrifices for her family, but could never tell where exactly she had sacrificed them, Zhang Lan's original intention of persuading her was completely extinguished.

Indeed, on the Internet today, as long as the topic is about blind dates, it is basically highly biased towards women and extremely unfriendly to men.

With the same annual salary of 200,000 yuan, girls are excellent and independent, while boys are low-income and ordinary men.

Some of them think it is the influence of social atmosphere, some think it is the increase in hostility, and some people simply think it is management and following the crowd."

But in the complex real world, it is actually very difficult to find logical lines from countless cases and massive information flows. Most people tend to follow the crowd subconsciously and rarely think about the real answers beneath the water.

The essence of the blind date market is an amplified version of the survivor effect. Regarding the matter of marriage, public opinion was still 50/50 in the past few years. It was believed that men and women would be anxious as long as they got older. But now it is almost unanimously believed that marriage is for men. Women are in a hurry, but women are not in a hurry to get married.

It seems like this is the answer, but it is not.

The real answer is that men really don’t care anymore. Men have really left the market in large numbers, resulting in the fact that the remaining users in the dating market are all women.

The majority of active users in the dating market are women, so the online platform is naturally full of voices that women want to hear. This is also the reason why people who say betrothal gifts are all supportive and why people get scolded when they talk about dating AA.

The reason behind these phenomena is actually the same. Women account for an overwhelming proportion in the blind date market. The dating community is not friendly to men and is more picky about men. It believes that men need marriage more, which means that the current dating market is full of women, so what they shout out are the voices that women want to hear.

Only this conclusion can explain that according to data from some dating platforms, the male-to-female ratio in some urban dating markets has reached 1:40. Only this conclusion can explain the difference between the previous system where only women were involved in dating meetings, and there were not enough men to go. The situation of pulling Zhuang Ding to collect people's heads is appropriate.

This also explains a question. Many people don’t understand why online people say that there are more men, but when it comes to offline blind dates, men actually want to join in. Why is there such a separation between online and online? In fact, there is no separation online. There is a survivor effect of speaking out against the topic, so we should look at it from the opposite perspective.

In this way, online and offline are actually consistent. If you understand this, you will also understand why most dating topics in online public opinion are biased towards women. This is because self-media content is biased towards the target audience, which is a very reasonable behavior and is very consistent with the market economy.

Women tend to favor women when it comes to beauty topics, and dating bloggers also have many female fans, so they also tend to favor women.

But almost in the past two years, almost at the same time, while the dating bloggers were favoring women, the matchmaking bloggers began to favor men overwhelmingly.

Matchmakers can help men speak for themselves despite the pressure of female audiences. According to the current online public opinion, doesn't this violate business logic? Actually not, because the matchmaker’s business model is a settlement mechanism.

Because the dating account is a traffic mechanism, no matter whether there is a pair or not, as long as someone posts and someone reads it, the account with traffic can make a profit. The matchmaker is a settlement mechanism, that is, no matter how loud your voice is online, the matchmaker will count the number of couples. Only when the couple is a pair can the matchmaker collect money.

And with a male to female ratio of 1:40, how can we achieve a transaction faster? That is to increase the proportion of men.