are you a clown

Er Jiasi had some doubts, but she still knew which hand Lin Chensan wanted her to extend, so she obeyed obediently.

Lin Chensan unscrewed the lid of the mineral water bottle, and washed Er Jiasi's wound with clean water. After washing, Er Jiasi took the remaining half pack of toilet paper with her intact hand and handed it to Lin Chensan. Lin Chen San took it without even looking at it, opened it, and handed over the bottled mineral water, Er Jiasi took it, and carefully used toilet paper to dry the moisture from Er Jiasi's finger wound and edges , and finally put a band-aid on it.

The two handed and received each other, and the movements of one hand and one hand were very tacit.

Er Jiasi could see Lin Chensan's expression when he put the band-aid on her, he was so caring and careful, as if he was holding some kind of treasure in his hands.She is no longer a high school student at the age of sixteen or seventeen, but Er Jiasi is still moved by such subtle and difficult details, her lips tremble a little: "If I didn't say that, you wouldn't treat my wound like this ,Is it right?"

"Although it's very self-indulgent to say so, I'm still quite afraid of getting you to have more affection for me." Lin Chensan agreed, "You are a very beautiful person, and what you do is a good deed, even though you say you are very It’s easy to go with the flow, but it’s still kindness and consideration for others. Most of the time, I’m not as brave as you. I just confess to someone I’ve only met a few times. I can’t do such a thing... ..." At this point, she stopped talking, as if she had said too much.

"There's no need to say such superficial compliments at this time." Er Jiasi said.

"I am telling the truth."

"But it's mixed in with the speeches that want to make each other's grievances. It's to make both sides look better. It has no other effect other than that." Er Jiasi stared at Lin Chensan with a pair of staring eyes, " Am I right?"

"...That's it." Lin Chensan didn't deny it.

"Lin Chensan, sometimes you are so rational that it makes people feel scary."

"But you like me like this, don't you?"

Er Jiasi instinctively wanted to deny it, but as soon as her eyes met Lin Chensan's, she realized something was wrong, the other party was trying to trick her.If it is negative, it is to say 'look, you don't like me very much', but it can't be sure, because the other party can say 'you are lying'.

So, is it okay to neither affirm nor deny?It doesn't work either.

At the moment when Erjiasi was silent, Lin Chensan already said: "Could it be that you don't like me like this?" He wanted to force her on a clear path.

You have to choose a position.

Er Jiasi had no choice but to close his eyes and utter the words bravely: "Yes, I like you like this."

"Thank you for your liking." Lin Chensan accepted it happily, "It's always right to like people, this is just because I'm not the kind of person who likes another person after liking one person, you don't have any Question. It’s better to pretend that you haven’t met me before, of course, this is just my suggestion to you, how to do it depends on yourself, is this your preference?” Said like It's nothing to do with others.Erjiasi is someone else.

"I..." Er Jiasi felt a little difficult to breathe.

This time when Lin Chensan left, Er Jiasi did not follow. Er Jiasi felt that it was not only her fingers that hurt at this time: "Lin Chensan, how do you know that you don't like me? It's only been a few days, and you can Who do you like? You can be sure that you like it? Isn't your like being pua?"

'pua'

Lin Chensan, who was a little concerned about this word, slowed down. This word has been a hot topic on the Internet recently, and there is a trend that everything can be pua: parents teach their children to call it pua, and teachers say that students are too stupid to call it pua If you are said to be incompetent at work, you can still be classified as a pua employee by the boss. Even if you are called a noob by your teammates while playing games, some people will think that this is pua.

First of all, can these examples listed be called pua?If there is no word pua, we will find that this is actually a very common problem in daily life that arises when people get along with each other, and has nothing to do with pua.After all, when people exist in this world, some people will actively or passively suppress other people's behavior, whether out of vanity or a sense of superiority, in order to gain the right to speak in a certain aspect, quarrels must win Negative, then someone will always do that.

Then let's talk about the pua in love, how far is it from the original pua?

The first pua, pick-upartist, strike up artist, this is not a domestic product, it was originally applied to some rich men who don’t know social skills, after being introduced to China, we have to find out that the rich People, whether they are male or female, there is no shortage of people who want to get up. This set of PUA skills actually helped the group of people who had little money and little ability at first.

Teach people to enhance attractiveness and show high value.Starting from matching clothes, the tone of voice when interacting with the opposite sex is very particular, and when it comes to locations, libraries, bars, streets... how to do it in different locations, the comprehensive training in private life also includes personal hobbies and fitness, Self-disciplined people are born with an attractive aura, and they make themselves better in order to pursue others. There is nothing wrong with such behaviors now.

Nowadays, the so-called PUA has long since lost its original meaning, escaped from social psychology, turned around, and has become a means of using personal attacks to manipulate other people's emotions, suppressing other people's personality so that they completely lose themselves, and follow their own example. .

So what is this pua?In Lin Chensan's eyes, it was not much different from fraud.Is there any difference between killing pigs and killing pigs in essence?

The high value of camouflage, the photo is equivalent to cheating, no car or house does not mean no car and house photos, everything is based on the photos of the circle of friends.First use deception to achieve the purpose of striking up a conversation, and then suppress the other party's personality with a strong relationship, making them doubt life, self-doubt, and be given whatever they want.

The cause of the hot discussion on the Internet is still the case of suicide caused by pua.Among them, there are many people with high education and high IQ.

There are also such existences as the Shanghai Celebrity Group...

Yes, when it comes to the status of Lin Jianwu and her, they are completely unequal in terms of social value. She had such low self-esteem before, and she felt that the other party would not like her at all, because she felt this gap.

Why does Lin Jianwu like her?Why would you like her, how could you like her?Linjianwu should have a better choice.Then, the reason for choosing her... In the world of adults, simple liking can hardly play a decisive role... Lin Jianwu also seems to belong to the type with a relatively high threshold for object selection... It's not like this has happened before And to be honest, such doubts cannot be said to be completely dispelled until now. Her low self-evaluation instinct can easily put her in a weak and guided position when getting along with Lin Jianwu. However, because she was prepared to be broken up in love, she never thought about this aspect... But, even if all this is thrown away, can what Lin Jianwu did to her be called pua?

She didn't seem to have felt much inferiority complex in front of Lin Jianwu, and her dignity was hit, except that she was sent to Versailles by Lin Jianwu a few times, and she didn't hear such clear words from Lin Jianwu.

Here, in order to determine whether you have fallen into the pua trap, you can ask yourself a question: whether you met through free love or blind date, you are sure that the other party likes you or you like the other party, is it out of personal will, independent thinking, or because The other party sent two gifts, went to high-end restaurants twice, said a few sweet words that he had never heard before, and showed his family wealth and social status, so he thought that this kind of love was not to be missed?

This is a matter of sequence.A person who loves others out of self-worth and a person who acquires self through the value of loving others are two concepts that look somewhat similar but are completely opposite.

Lin Chensan doesn't want to say that the victim is guilty, but in the Korean drama, the domineering president fell in love with me, and the heroine had a crush on her for three years. Pua, we who are sitting across the screen should know that even a crush should be With dignity, if you love someone so humble to the core, how can such a self be worthy of the other party's liking, and the other party is so happy that you are so humble, is such a person worthy of your liking?

Are those who dream of princesses really so stupid, so easily deceived?Lin Chensan can only say that love is not a reason to make people blind, nor is it an excuse to whitewash what they want and then take chances.

Just when Lin Chensan was distracted...

"Before you said that you didn't know each other deeply enough, but you turned around and agreed faster than I confessed... I admit that I like you for my purpose, but isn't the so-called liking and so-called love the same thing? No Out of curiosity and pursuit of mystery, it is an exchange of interests that both parties can benefit from. I was just being too frank and said those words first before confirming the relationship with you , sounds hard to accept at first glance..." Er Jiasi shouted behind Lin Chensan, "But I believe my liking is no worse than the person you like."

"I also know that I have no reason to ask you to respond to me, but tomorrow afternoon, tomorrow afternoon." Er Jiasi summoned up his courage and said, "I will wait for you at the coffee shop we met before, and you will meet me face to face. I'll tell you about her, and then maybe I'll give up."

"Remember, tomorrow afternoon, I will wait for you until the store closes."

When Lin Chensan heard the sound and turned his head again, Er Jiasi was no longer in his sight.I chased that little fat man just now and didn't find that he can run so fast...

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The author has something to say:

The pua here is Lin Chensan's own opinion.

After thinking about it, let's double update, otherwise the speed is too slow, I can't understand the manuscripts in the manuscript box.